So I had a question that is based on some comments in another thread.

I notice that when a young girl is pursued by a much older man (in forum threads or in real life), she calls him a pervert, but if she is pursued by a hot guy around her age then he isn't called a pervert unless he does something unusually pervy. However, if the guy is not hot but still around her age, then he could be called creepy or some other derogatory term if she doesn't care to have his attention.

Does the age of a person or hotness influence on whether or not you think they are a pervert? I realize people of any age or looks can be one but was curious if this was a factor.

I think the fact that I gravitated towards this thread because of title, speaks volumes.

I showed up too.

As to the original question... yes, I think age has everything to do with someone thinking a pervy old man is a pervert.

I notice that when a young girl is pursued by a much older man (in forum threads or in real life), she calls him a pervert,

It depends on what you mean by "pursues her" If it is with sexual innuendo she may feel uncomfortable and call him that.(IMO)

However, if the guy is not hot but still around her age, then he could be called creepy or some other derogatory term if she doesn't care to have his attention.

That is just an immature way of saying they aren't her type. (IMO)


Pretty harsh word to throw around flippantly

I think anyone who comes on a dating site,
then complains of too much attention, is
probably after that attention more than
the so-called 'creepy' pursuers.

Age gives them a target to gain sympathy.
I don't buy it.

Having said that..there are some creepy
ones here, but I find it an attitude
perversion.

It IS an evocative question.

As far as ageism and relationships, I hold steadfast to 2 criteria..
-consenting
-adults

Yet as far as innocently and publicly recognizing the beauty of the 18-19yo "Belle of the Ball"....I certainly hesitate in the interest of propriety.

Lets go a little further. Since a guy is called a pervert, what a women called? And cougar is to polite

I didn't realize pervert had an age restriction. Besides, what's wrong with being a little perverted?

Creepy on the other hand is never a good thing.

VERY true. There is a drama factor.


Hey, cutie... want some candy?

That's closer to creepy than pervy. haha.

Excellent!

Yeah, crap. It sounded better in my head.
But... you want some candy?

What kind?

Why don't you come find out.

Being a pervert is about the vibe one gives off and has nothing to do with your looks or age. I'm 49 and my girlfriend is 21. The trick is to be relaxed and confident.

Hey Aries, Can I say pervert and proud

no seriously I have noticed that too -but at the same time it is not unusual for people with an age difference to be attracted to each other - for a variety of reasons-maybe it's just a matter of whether the attraction is mutual
(as far as the pervert thing)


I get mail from younger guys all the time - most don't realize how old I am tho cuz I look young for my age and that's always a conversation....but I talk to men of all ages on here as friends - once in awhile as more, not often. As far as dating it is - as most things are - a matter of preference

and NOT a function of age....at all

..so what's the differences between pervert and cougar..gender?..money?..looks?..

Attitude.

cougars lay and wait-to pounce u must be pounceable

but it's really not all that serious mostly fun

whether the attraction is mutual is whether anything comes of it

just like with anyone

people make too much out if it

quite frankly I could just as easily think some of these very young guys who would pursue me are a little pervy - fortunately