Have you ever been cheated on?...How did you handle it? How long did it take to get over it?

Can you trust FULLY the next time around?

-Just Curious-

Have you ever been cheated on? Yes

How did you handle it? Not well

How long did it take to get over it? When I found out it wasn't the first time in 22 years of marriage? 5 years to actually entertain dating

Can you trust FULLY the next time around? You have to for their sake and your own.

I want to hear from the one (with some experience) who THINKS they have never been cheated on!

hi l & x never cheated we were home every night together for 24 years we just grew apart when we separated then we dated not everyone cheats ok

Never cheated.
Never been cheated on.
And, there would be no long term effects
as I would not hang around a cheater.

^this

10 days of anti-biotics cleared it all up

Been cheated on more then once there is no set time to get over it. At times it only took me a few months then at times a few years. Can I trust the next one fully hell yeah I can. I believe in putting the past in the past and not blaming the next one for what the one before you did.

Even if some may think I'm wrong if I take that step I take it with putting all I have into it. I trust them until they give me a reason not too. If it so happens they break that trust then all balls to the wall and I will catch your ***... Cause I'm like that

I've been told more then once I should have been a private eye

"SHERLOCK" huh???

Hahah Rose ya know I was trying to remember what he called me thanks yeah it was Sherlock........... but not only that I had my first ex say I should have been a private eye along with my lawyer

I have never had a faithful man. So yea my trust level is hard for me to deal with sometimes.

I have to control myself to not take the past out on the future.

I will give one good chance to show trustworthiness these days but no more than that.

Yes I have. I have never done it myself because I don't believe in it.

The first time I didn't take it too well, but then again I was young and nieve and should have known better given who I was with at the time.

The second time was my recent ex. This time I didn't take it so hard because I was more relieved to be rid of her the way the relationship had gone before it ended. I did nothing wrong in the relationship, so I didn't feel I had anything I should have been feeling bad over. I just picked myself up off the ground, dusted myself off, and moved on with my life.

Does it affect my trust of others? I'd somewhat have to agree. After experiencing being cheated on more than once, and how much it goes on in the world, there's always going to be some sort of lingering curiousity if there is someone out there who won't do it to me. But I try not to let it keep me from being able to again let someone into my life. If I would let it consume me, there is no point in trying to have another relationship because it would wind up causing strain on it and possibly leading it to end.

Yes I have been cheated on after 26 years of marriage
and I also do not hang around cheaters-

so I separated from him.

If I do meet someone new I want to spend my life with
I hope I can trust again.

Yes

I handle it by ending the relationship and any feelings I had for that person. I did not get angry, I didn't feel anything at all.

It took me maybe five or ten minutes to get over it.

I don't think the experience influenced how I trust others. I did however lose any trust for that particular person.

the effects are there whether you realize it or not

and trust is the biggest long term issue along with a residual feeling that something about you is not "good enough" because he/she strayed. We know in our heads that those things shouldn't interfere with future relationships - but they do because we still feel it in our hearts

I've had a few relationships not even be able to get off the ground past friendship due to a lack of ability to trust


at the same time though my trust radar was correct with a couple of those men - turned out they were cheating....so it's a double edged sword

when u have been thru an infidelity the heightened sensitivity to the signs (of infidelity) improves your radar - but it's a time when knowledge is painful

you end up on mingle

The long term effect ? The ladies are getting younger and the breakups getting easier.

I don't think that once you've been cheated on that you necessarily become more suspicious or less trusting. I think you become wiser. Now you are able to recongnize when you're being told a lie and able to see the signs of a cheater and you stear clear of them. If it quacks like a duck...

Whatever bad things have happened in your past relationships, you can't let them keep you from enjoying the possibilities of today.

The girl I am head over heels in love with at the moment, her last boyfriend cheated on her, so it's a bit hard for her to commit too. She has had issues trusting people as a whole, but that experience in particular hasn't helped.