So I'm old fashioned (to an odd extent), and I don't feel it's that peculiar to want to have someone ask you on a date and actually MEAN a date.
If a guy asks a girl out, or vice versa, on a date then logic would dictate you would actually DO something on said date to get to know one another, correct? You don't typically expect to get lucky on the first date.
However, if you're on a first date with someone and your intentions are to go in for the kill, then that's not a first date. That's a **** buddy.
If you just want someone to have sex with then just say that. Dressing it up like a date is just infuriating and a waste of time on the other's part.
You asked me on a first date. You asked me a question. So you sodding listen to my answer and get your hand out of my pants. If you want something else then you be specific from the get go.
Has anyone else had a situation like this? Or feel the same way?

Dates are different for different people. If you don't want to have sex on the first date, make it clear that's not what you're looking for.

I do think people can have actual dates and have sex on the first date. It's just a personal decision. And then there are those who don't go on dates and just go for sex.

What a date consists of for you may be different for someone else.

I've been in a few of those FWB scenarios, and frankly that sort of thing just doesn't interest me anymore. I'd prefer to be involved with someone who is looking for something more substantial, more long-term.

If someone asked me on a date and made it clear that they were only looking for FWB, I'd tell them no thank you, that's not on my agenda.

I agree that a date, per se, should consist of doing something that lets you get to know more about each other. And I'd need to know more about that person, anyway, before I could determine whether or not I wanted to go any farther.

FWBs are great in those dark times between relationships!

Yeah i have. Some think that just cos you're female, you'll just accept any type of behaviour. I don't think so. Either respect me, or get out. Lol. And stay out. Some women don't care how men behave when on a date, but better to be vigilant. ;)

^^this & a date, i.e. initial meeting, either ends in a romantic involvement whether you have sex on said date or not, you intend to see each other again OR it's a one night stand (F%@k buddy)!

FWB...IMO only happens when there is actually a pre-existing friendship of which you both respect each other enough to meet sexual needs together and are independent enough to not get emotionally atttached.

if someone is into FWB, then if they are honest about it....go get em tiger. For me, that's just not my thing. Never has been.

It works for some I guess

Never did for me.

it could be relative to how much you can handle sex without love or the amount of alcohol involved. i prefer to go light on the drink and get to a place of mutual chemistry before i go there.

i haven't found where FWB's tend to stay that way for long afterwards, at least not in the same way things were before.

Well said. I don't think I could ever be a FWB. If I surprised myself by actually being one, then it would be because I really don't want any emotional attachment at all. In that case, I only know one person right now that could be a potential FWB. And it matches what Fireflysgirl said perfectly.

Been there done that dont really care for it anymore think this time around I would go looking for more then fwb if they are friends then they are friends why ruin friends with anything else..

I just don't get 'friends with benefits.'
You either look at someone with lust or
you see someone you want to shop with.
World of difference.
If tis lust, you want more and often.
If tis a friend, it is catch as catch can.

I don't see a lot of chicas wanting it.
the concept sounds..doable, but reality
enters the picture with territorialism.

Just can't see it.

someone always ends up getting hurt in the FWB arena

Yup.

i double that yup

FWBs are only functional when both parties can be honest to themselves and each other!

Yup! I'm not saying that's the way to go either, I actually love having a main man to be sweet on, but the few I had when I was younger didn't affect the friendships and those guys are still my friends.

If you ain't even at least considering sex....you ain't on a date.

Dating DOES lead to sex.

If I wanna go out for dinner, drinks, kareoke,and dancing...but, NOT get laid....I will take my Mom and Sister out....

If I am gonna drop my time and money on a date with 0% odds of the possibility of future sex...(first date or not)...
That is just straight up "b**ch".

Leave it Krupa to boil it down to the essence. He's right: dating is about sex. Maybe not right away, but whether you are looking for a quickie or the long haul, either way you basically want sex to be part of the deal.