I really need some advice. Thank-you for taking a moment to read this. You'll understand when you read the message below.

So, I went out a this woman last Monday. It was sort of like our second date. She sent me this FB message today:

"Ok I"ve had enough of this stupid stinkin tug-a-war in me. I KNOW i'm not supposed to say this, "but frankly my dear, I don't give a dam" :) So take it or leave it, but I'm gonna say it.... so just try and stop me :P

I had a really good time on Monday. It was very enjoyable. I can't remember the last time I had a day that nice. The food was great, the company better! I enjoyed talking with you and I have no complaints in the least regarding the rest of the evening as well. You are just full of surprises. And I like surprises as it turns out. Ok so there I said it :) I'm not sure how you feel on the matter, but I wouldn't mind a do over :) I understand your time is limited, as is mine. But I figure we could work something out :)

K I'm gonna send this now with no regrets LOL Ok well maybe a few after the fact and it may reach you or it may not. seeing as it appears that most of my messages don't ever get to you... or get to you a week late LOL Or your just ignoring me and I'm not getting the hint LOL I hope you are enjoying your day. I have the afternoon off and am relaxing a bit :) But I'll shut up now :) I look forward to talking wth ya some more :)"

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Okay, so what do I do??? I'm not super interested in a relationship with her. I need some advice on how to let her down gently. However, I don't want to be too gentle and just things worse. If you need more details ask. Otherwise, Thank-you in advance for your wise words.

no reply is a reply (according to another thread)

wow, that kind of made me uncomfortable

the whole, i'm needy but i don't want to be needy sort of thing which makes me want to um, leave the room

But, how long have ya'll been talking?

You write:
'I'm not super interested in a relationship
with her.'

Change the her to 'you' and send it to her
after adding this:
Enjoyed our time together :-)

I realize honesty is a wacky approach but
sometimes it can clear up problems.

Tell her gently but firmly....You are not interested in a relationship with her.Simple

Lynne nailed it with the "Needy"...yet coy..thing.

The girl you are referring to is waving some red flags.

If she is this dramatic when you havent had sex yet....You will compound a problem onto yourself if you actually do get "Lucky"

If it was me...I would disconnect the dots and be on my way.

Also....

Please allow me to point out something....

It isnt a written law....but it is not considered to be in good taste to post a Mingle members private message.

I would hit the roof.

Just a thought.

It would be polite if you gently but firmly put her out of her misery. Don't say anything encouraging like saying that you had a great time too...
Just politely let her know that you wanted to give her the courtesy of a response but you really were not that attracted to her. Wish her the best and hope that she finds a man that is truly deserving of her.
End it there and no future commentary is needed after that.

Rats she sounds like me,,That is exactly what I would do, yes I am needy.

If it was me i would want to know straight away as if you keep talking or even being very gentle you will end up hurting her more.

Yep because when you are like that you get attached very quickly, she is still going to be hurt but not messed up, so just be honest .

Just say you are happy to be friends but not interested in anything else, its easy to understand and cant be turned into anything else.

Oh dear is that why we no longer talk?

I thought you just lost interest ...

Can I make it up to you?

they never "mean" to be needy! krupa is right though...that's how I got into my last LTR! Get off the train now

The problem is this Josie...

From my perspective....

There is no talk of THAT kiss....the one that gives boners, moist loins and you can't sleep for two days if you cant get another one.

The kiss that let's you know that you could love her.

The kiss that steals the taste of her soul as she is stealing your heart too.

Dude..

Without that kiss....the touch of skin that sends the sparks and fuxup your every waking thought.....Being able to taste her two full days later.....Smelling her in your clothes....

If you don't feel that way about her.....let her off the hook cause apparently your bait is working.

A simple e-mail letting her know the evening was nice but.........the chemistry is just not there for you.....the least she deserves is a reply at least since ya'll did go on a date....

Bummer it was that kiss that made me so needy

We've been talking for maybe two weeks.

This is NOT a mingle members message. I am BRAND new here I would NEVER post a message from a Mingle member here.

That's hilarious!

Clearly I need to learn to use quote.

one date does not a heart break make. just be honest and direct. done.

and i agree with krupa that it's very uncool to post someone's email on any public forum, without their knowledge or permission.

Wasn't sure so I wasn't saying it to be rude bro....just didn't know ya know?

Ok Smile....My question is this...

Why ain't you smiling? Ya gotta good pic. I got the code name Krupa..and I look like a Krupa..You got the code name "Smile"....sooooooo....SMILE DMMIT!

:)