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HOLY CRAP!!!!
You look IDENTICAL to a young John Malkevich....That is amazing. (I used to do paleontology paintings for some museums so I know anatomy) |
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no reply is a reply (according to another thread) |
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I think you showed poor taste in posting this
it's your bed to make good luck |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Thu 03/24/11 08:52 PM
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I really need some advice. Thank-you for taking a moment to read this. You'll understand when you read the message below. So, I went out a this woman last Monday. It was sort of like our second date. She sent me this FB message today: "Ok I"ve had enough of this stupid stinkin tug-a-war in me. I KNOW i'm not supposed to say this, "but frankly my dear, I don't give a dam" :) So take it or leave it, but I'm gonna say it.... so just try and stop me :P I had a really good time on Monday. It was very enjoyable. I can't remember the last time I had a day that nice. The food was great, the company better! I enjoyed talking with you and I have no complaints in the least regarding the rest of the evening as well. You are just full of surprises. And I like surprises as it turns out. Ok so there I said it :) I'm not sure how you feel on the matter, but I wouldn't mind a do over :) I understand your time is limited, as is mine. But I figure we could work something out :) K I'm gonna send this now with no regrets LOL Ok well maybe a few after the fact and it may reach you or it may not. seeing as it appears that most of my messages don't ever get to you... or get to you a week late LOL Or your just ignoring me and I'm not getting the hint LOL I hope you are enjoying your day. I have the afternoon off and am relaxing a bit :) But I'll shut up now :) I look forward to talking wth ya some more :)" end of message Okay, so what do I do??? I'm not super interested in a relationship with her. I need some advice on how to let her down gently. However, I don't want to be too gentle and just things worse. If you need more details ask. Otherwise, Thank-you in advance for your wise words. Just be upfront with her that you're not interested. You can do that without being rude. It was in poor taste to post her email, though, whether she's on this site or not. |
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I really need some advice. Thank-you for taking a moment to read this. You'll understand when you read the message below. So, I went out a this woman last Monday. It was sort of like our second date. She sent me this FB message today: "Ok I"ve had enough of this stupid stinkin tug-a-war in me. I KNOW i'm not supposed to say this, "but frankly my dear, I don't give a dam" :) So take it or leave it, but I'm gonna say it.... so just try and stop me :P I had a really good time on Monday. It was very enjoyable. I can't remember the last time I had a day that nice. The food was great, the company better! I enjoyed talking with you and I have no complaints in the least regarding the rest of the evening as well. You are just full of surprises. And I like surprises as it turns out. Ok so there I said it :) I'm not sure how you feel on the matter, but I wouldn't mind a do over :) I understand your time is limited, as is mine. But I figure we could work something out :) K I'm gonna send this now with no regrets LOL Ok well maybe a few after the fact and it may reach you or it may not. seeing as it appears that most of my messages don't ever get to you... or get to you a week late LOL Or your just ignoring me and I'm not getting the hint LOL I hope you are enjoying your day. I have the afternoon off and am relaxing a bit :) But I'll shut up now :) I look forward to talking wth ya some more :)" end of message Okay, so what do I do??? I'm not super interested in a relationship with her. I need some advice on how to let her down gently. However, I don't want to be too gentle and just things worse. If you need more details ask. Otherwise, Thank-you in advance for your wise words. well first of all, you mentioned that it was kinda a second date. Well it either was or wasn't, there's not much room for kinda. The easiest thing is to just let her know. |
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Rats she sounds like me,,That is exactly what I would do,  yes I am needy.
If it was me i would want to know straight away as if you keep talking or even being very gentle you will end up hurting her more. Yep because when you are like that you get attached very quickly, she is still going to be hurt but not messed up, so just be honest . Just say you are happy to be friends but not interested in anything else, its easy to understand and cant be turned into anything else. The problem is this Josie... From my perspective.... There is no talk of THAT kiss....the one that gives boners, moist loins and you can't sleep for two days if you cant get another one. The kiss that let's you know that you could love her. The kiss that steals the taste of her soul as she is stealing your heart too. Dude.. Without that kiss....the touch of skin that sends the sparks and fuxup your every waking thought.....Being able to taste her two full days later.....Smelling her in your clothes.... If you don't feel that way about her.....let her off the hook cause apparently your bait is working. The first kiss says it all!!! It's the make it or brake it of any encounter with another person. It says a lot without speeking a single word. It shows if there is a connection on a different level. It's something that comes natural. Too bad that there are so many who get it wrong. |
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HOLY CRAP!!!! You look IDENTICAL to a young John Malkevich....That is amazing. (I used to do paleontology paintings for some museums so I know anatomy) Thank-you for the compliment. Also, I found your qualification to be even more interesting than your comment. |
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I think you showed poor taste in posting this it's your bed to make good luck I appreciate your comment, but I'm not sure I understand it. Why would posting this be in poor taste? It is completely anonymous and is real world information. Isn't it sort of like saying that reading the diary of Anne Frank is in poor taste? |
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Rats she sounds like me,,That is exactly what I would do, yes I am needy.
If it was me i would want to know straight away as if you keep talking or even being very gentle you will end up hurting her more. Yep because when you are like that you get attached very quickly, she is still going to be hurt but not messed up, so just be honest . Just say you are happy to be friends but not interested in anything else, its easy to understand and cant be turned into anything else. The problem is this Josie... From my perspective.... There is no talk of THAT kiss....the one that gives boners, moist loins and you can't sleep for two days if you cant get another one. The kiss that let's you know that you could love her. The kiss that steals the taste of her soul as she is stealing your heart too. Dude.. Without that kiss....the touch of skin that sends the sparks and fuxup your every waking thought.....Being able to taste her two full days later.....Smelling her in your clothes.... If you don't feel that way about her.....let her off the hook cause apparently your bait is working. The first kiss says it all!!! It's the make it or brake it of any encounter with another person. It says a lot without speeking a single word. It shows if there is a connection on a different level. It's something that comes natural. Too bad that there are so many who get it wrong.  yep if someone kissed me right i would marry them
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Just politely tell her that you are not into her. Hopefully she will understand.
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I think you showed poor taste in posting this it's your bed to make good luck I appreciate your comment, but I'm not sure I understand it. Why would posting this be in poor taste? It is completely anonymous and is real world information. Isn't it sort of like saying that reading the diary of Anne Frank is in poor taste? I would agree that the anonymity prevented it from being tasteless, but there are lots of signs there that say ,,, RUN,,, |
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I think you showed poor taste in posting this it's your bed to make good luck I appreciate your comment, but I'm not sure I understand it. Why would posting this be in poor taste? It is completely anonymous and is real world information. Isn't it sort of like saying that reading the diary of Anne Frank is in poor taste? Really? You're comparing what you wrote here to Anne Frank? 
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HOLY CRAP!!!! You look IDENTICAL to a young John Malkevich....That is amazing. (I used to do paleontology paintings for some museums so I know anatomy) Thank-you for the compliment. Also, I found your qualification to be even more interesting than your comment. I think you two are hitting it off... perhaps a "1st date" is in order?  
$.02 
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It sounds like to me that you might of been giving her mixed signals and she wasn't sure where you stand.She obviously thought you were interested since you went out a second time.You need to clarify what you want.
There is no easy way to solve this situation,she is going to get hurt no matter how you do it because she thought you were interested in dating her |
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I agree with you posting the message, since you are unsure of what to do here and asking for others to help it is better to see what she actually wrote... it is not like her name is on here or anything. It is how she wrote it that screams the crazy needy person, if you were to paraphrased it then it might not have came across the same.
As others said here...RUN!...lol. I would give her a response though unless you want to deactivate your account and move away from everything she knows about you, the neediness in her message might be just the tip of the iceberg and she has a lot more crazy that she is not showing you so I would be careful with your words. You met her in person so you should know her better but she might have been on her meds during the date but wrote that off her meds. Good Luck...lol |
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I think you showed poor taste in posting this it's your bed to make good luck I appreciate your comment, but I'm not sure I understand it. Why would posting this be in poor taste? It is completely anonymous and is real world information. Isn't it sort of like saying that reading the diary of Anne Frank is in poor taste? why the second date? why the drama? |
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This is NOT a mingle members message. I am BRAND new here I would NEVER post a message from a Mingle member here. Wasn't sure so I wasn't saying it to be rude bro....just didn't know ya know? Ok Smile....My question is this... Why ain't you smiling? Ya gotta good pic. I got the code name Krupa..and I look like a Krupa..You got the code name "Smile"....sooooooo....SMILE DMMIT! :) Are you really breaking up with me ? am assuming you already ban me from your facebook page i thought you like me i really did ..... your just like every other guy !!!!!! tears tears tears more tears ...... |
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Okay, so what do I do??? I'm not super interested in a relationship with her. I need some advice on how to let her down gently. However, I don't want to be too gentle and just things worse. If you need more details ask. Otherwise, Thank-you in advance for your wise words. Hi Smile, welcome to mingle! First thing that came to mind while reading your message was, run dude, runnnn. But at the very end you said that you're not "SUPER" interested in a relationship with her. Does that mean you could be a little interested but not quite sure yet??? I think you need to set things straight with this woman. Tell her that you're not quite ready for a relationship, but if you feel that you're not "SUPER" interested but might "kinda" be, I think you should give it a try. I know, I'm the only person telling you to do that and it sounds like a crazy thing (although not as crazy as the things she said in her message) but you have nothing to lose because if you take her out and things don't work out, you can end it right then and there. I say... take her out on another date and if you realize that it's not working out, take that opportunity to let her know how you truly feel. "Break up" with her face to face, like a real man :P |
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Edited by
bastet126
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Fri 03/25/11 07:43 PM
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I think you showed poor taste in posting this it's your bed to make good luck I appreciate your comment, but I'm not sure I understand it. Why would posting this be in poor taste? It is completely anonymous and is real world information. Isn't it sort of like saying that reading the diary of Anne Frank is in poor taste? that can be answered by asking yourself: how do you think she would feel if she knew you put this on public display? and how would you feel if someone did the same to you? anonymous or not, it's personal and should be respected. this really isn't a unique situation. "been talking to someone for a few weeks, been on a few dates, she wants to pursue, i'm not interested. gentle let down advice please." her email really didn't need to be dragged into this. one, we have no idea the role you played. two, people are making her out to be a crazy needy, forgot to take her medication person, when in fact, it appears she's just lacking confidence in where things stand and doesn't want to appear foolish if feelings aren't reciprocated. i hope you can respect her enough to just give her an honest answer. |
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I think you showed poor taste in posting this it's your bed to make good luck I appreciate your comment, but I'm not sure I understand it. Why would posting this be in poor taste? It is completely anonymous and is real world information. Isn't it sort of like saying that reading the diary of Anne Frank is in poor taste? that can be answered by asking yourself: how do you think she would feel if she knew you put this on public display? and how would you feel if someone did the same to you? anonymous or not, it's personal and should be respected. this really isn't a unique situation. "been talking to someone for a few weeks, been on a few dates, she wants to pursue, i'm not interested. gentle let down advice please." her email really didn't need to be dragged into this. one, we have no idea the role you played. two, people are making her out to be a crazy needy, forgot to take her medication person, when in fact, it appears she's just lacking confidence in where things stand and doesn't want to appear foolish if feelings aren't reciprocated. i hope you can respect her enough to just give her an honest answer. I'm sure that if I knew everything that everybody ever said or posted about me, I might be a little hurt, but it wouldn't do me any harm. All the same, she will never read or recognize this post. I will say this. It was definitely two dates. The second one was longer. I think she has a lot of personal problems that she needs to get over before she is ready for a serious relationship. She needs to build up her self esteem a little. But it's not my job to play doctor here. I will be firm, but kind. Wish me luck. I'll let you know how it goes. |
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