artlo that much need for tutoring kinda kills the mood

I've decided not to lower mine anymore. That's how I wound up married.

lol,,,,u guys are funny

a standard is a standard...lower it and it will be a sub-standard

Two people in love dosen't really have to meet up same standards for them to be happy.It can still work out if they agreed on maintaning their various standards.For example i have seen two lovers,a medical doctor and a lawyer.One dosen't have to give up his/her standard to be with the other,if one ask the other to do so,then he/she has no love for such person.They only need true love.

I think all inalienable rights should be preserved in a relationship. But then I am an American and that is my prerogative. Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness mean a lot to me. I mean most businesses that enter into agreement which each other usually have this disclaimer of all rights reserved. My last wife's complaint with her former boyfriend was that he didn't let her have any friends. We both agreed that we liked having friends. His dominion over her was relinquished when she stood up to him. Of course, he didn't leave her house because that would be admitting defeat. But we took her away from that environment and she flourished in an atmosphere of freedom quite nicely as any rose would do. Let freedom reign.

The way I see it we all have our preference of what we are looking for. There are certain things that we look for within another that are high in priority that we will not bend on. But then there are things that we can met in the middle on with someone....So it is all up to what each person can come to terms with when with someone else...

For me I will not change when it comes to rudeness or one looking down on me. But........even though I'm not into sports if they love sports then hey let them enjoy their time I will either join in with them or find something for me to do......It is all about finding that happy medium.....not on what you would settle for....

I go by the saying "If you dont stand for something, you will fall for anything" ya, could be why im still single...

Tried it, wasn't worth it. I think if you are willing to compromise, it will automatically happen, and doesn't really fall on your list of musts/will not compromise.

Kids, animals, health issues and family have to be important enough not to compromise on.

Standards and morals make you who you are.They ground you and make your life worth living. If you compromise either of those, think of what it will do to your life as you know it. Of course, it is a reality that some people will never change and that comes with the person. If you lower your standards, your life will probably suffer.JMO.

Having standards is great place to start, but you also have to have realistic standards. I would love to date a 25 year old super model, and I could set all kinds of standards about looks, age body type etc. I would however spend the rest of my life alone and probably broke from trying to impress the young ladies.

Everyone has key traits that we are drawn toward, whether we realize and admit it or not. Everyone, man or woman, is attracted to certain physical qualities in a partner and therefore in most dating situations a lot of people will be dismissed based on physical attributes alone.

Most of the strongest, longest lasting relationships I know of began with people who didn't start off looking for someone to date. They got to know each other through common interest, work or other settings without the pressure of a potential romance looming over head. They became friends, then close friends, then best friends, and then when they least expect it they realize they're in love.

Ok, so I'm a hopeless romantic, destined to spend the rest of my life watching my best friends fall in love with some A.. who inevitably treats them like crap. Then they come looking to me for a shoulder to cry on until they find the next one.


Keep those standards high, your prince, or dream girl is right around the corner.

But don't you think it's possible to have some standards that are just plain stupid?

We are talking about the Human Race right?






Off course people will have stupid standards. You want proof, check out prime time TV, or read the paper, the news is full of proof that people have a lot of stupid standards. ie. Politicians.

Everything is open for discussion...
It's all about compromise, most just
don't want to budge but seem to expect
the other to so.

Lowering your standards would be more like to settle...
none of us should ever settle. As we get older we seem to
have more 'stuff' to be open to compromise about,
makes it tough.

There are a few areas I wouldn't even put on the table for discussion...

Who gets to decide what's "stupid"?

I don't understand a lot of people's standards, and I know they certainly don't understand mine. Doesn't make anybody right or wrong. We just have different priorities.

Where did you lose nearly 4 billion people?

(The world population is the total population of humans on the planet Earth. An automatically updated daily calculation by the United States Census Bureau[1] estimates the current figure to be approximately 6,902,900,000. )

they're hiding in the subway waiting to be teleported - I think to Jersey

8 Advantages of lowering your dating standards:

1. You don't really care if they stand you up.
2. You can spend your time feeling superior.
3. If you get dumped, you can think.. Good, he was not good enough anyway.
4. Sometimes you just want to go slumming.
5. A free meal or movie or what ever.
6. You weren't doing anything else.
7. Just use him for hot steamy sex.
8. People will think "What does she see in him" rather than the other way around as usual.

I don't think I would ever lower my standards but IF someone like sports that I didn't like...I would work with it. There always has to be some give and take in any relationship that is going to work.
There are a few things that I won't put up with, IF someone does certain things, its just not for me.
I think you have to weigh what is really going to break a relationship and does it really mean that much to you? IF SO...DON'T SETTLE BECAUSE ITS NOT WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN.

I think that's pretty close. My point is that one can have a set of standards that one THINKS are important, especially if you're young, only to find that somebody can come along and set them all upside down. I think people need to be prepared to be flexible.

For a while, I said that I would never allow myself to be attracted to a woman who is politically Conservative. I've interacted with women who have given me second thoughts.