Hmmm this is probably not for everyone, but I love stories of peoples lives and I have met so many peole here I would like to hear more..

What was your life like, and was there anything that changed it..

For Me.

I grew up in the Australin bush on 5000 acres away from everyone.

I was the first girl in our family for 3 generations to survive and was treated like a princess, ( Yep i thought i was pretty special)

i spent half of my life in hospital the rest of the time i was sheltered away in the middle of knowhere by over protective parents grandparent and a million uncles and boy cousins. ( yep i was a tom boy princess) I grew up with boys , motorbikes , guns and fun. We had pet kangaroos, lizards, sheep calves and anything else that we could find in the bush. We played with knives camped, and ran around learning to survive and have fun in the bush.

i didnt even know that there was a world out there that things went wrong, I cant even remember going to town to shop until i was a teenager.

hmm at 19 I married someone who ran off with someone else, by 22 i had 2 children and was divorced, by 23 i was married again to a control freak, who i happily followed around doing what I was told..

hmm finally left after having 6 children and worked for my parents and did what everyone wanted me to there.

now finally i joined mingle. That was definately life changing.

Within 3 days I had met anaconda,within 2 weeks I had decided to go to America, and in 5 weeks I had left.

Now for some reason this created havoc in my family, everyone seemed to think I was having a nervous breakdown as i had never wanted to travel, had planned not to find a man until my children had left home, and wouldnt even go shopping by myself. They decided it was best if i went as maybe i would get over my mental collapse but the morning my dad booked the tickets they booked my 19 year old to go with me .
For some reason the thought of me travelling across the world to stay with a man i didnt know alone, seemed to bother them.
Hmmm at the time i didnt see this as a problem but now looking back on it, it maybe was not something i would want my daughter to do.
Hmmm but i dont tend to see danger until it is in front of me, or has already gone by.

I guess that the fact that accidents seem to happen to me could be part of the reason, and maybe because i am really really shy and dont like being around strangers and seem to attract strange people that at times have followed me home , or because i have absolutly no sense of direction and tend to even get lost in our shopping centre, or if i am driving home and am talking or daydreaming will forget where I am and have no idea how to get home as i have taken a wrong turn while I was talking so maybe that could have something to do with it. but i grew up with animals not humans that are soooo confusing and at times mean and hurtful, why do they bother .

(Thankfully i didnt realise how many people there would be in America before i left). If my tickets wherent paid for i would have turned around and ran home when I got to the sydney airport. You see our whole state is 2 !/2 times the size of Texas, and only has 200,000 people, its not crowded anywhere.

Honestly and then in LA there where millions and millions and millions of people, I think there where more people in that airport than our whole state.and we couldnt understand half the people as their accents where so heavy. we didnt even want to sticky beak around we just wanted out of there, Yuck it ws gross.

Then in Omaha I met my Prince Charming and now i am going to live Happily Ever After.

Well at least i will when he gets here.

Hmmm after reading this i may appear dumb, but in actual fact i have a very high IQ it just seems like the common sense things seem to slip by me at times. Hmmm same as left and right, that just never seems to stick in my brain and after going to America, I have no idea what side is what, as even the steering wheels which used to be my indicator of which side was right, now it became muddled as i cant remember if its left or right.


Well i guess that is pretty much my entire life story, boring but hey , I am bored tonight and have nothing else to do..

Up until the age of 10, my life was perfectly
normal, by anyone's standards.
We lived in a bedroom community in San Lorenzo,
California. Miles and miles of homes dotted
with schools. One small shopping area had a
grocery store, a drug store and a pet store.

Every time we went for groceries, we would
stop at the pet store and ooo and ahhh over
the puppies and kittens and fish. My Mother
would sing 'How Much Is That Puppy In The
Window?' and my older sister and I would
sing along.

One day, we saw the Pet Store had moved away.
In its place they put the first bar in town,
the Iron Gate. My Mother, the Beauty Queen,
suddenly found a destination, within walking
distance, where she could get all the attention
she had been missing. Someone was always eager
to buy her drinks.

We stopped shopping with her, she never wanted
us around. One day, my Dad came home from work
and said, 'What did you girls do today?'
My sister, two years older, was about 10..she
said 'We went to see Mommy's new boyfriend..'
My Dad stopped in his tracks.
'Do you remember where you went?' he said
to her.
'Can you show Daddy?'
My sister had some sense of direction, as the
boyfriend lived three towns away, you had to
use 2 different freeways and many side streets.
..nonetheless, she directed us to the very door.

That was the last time we saw Mother for a very
long time, until she kidnapped us. My parents
went on to 11 marriages between them. Many
more siblings.

They were never suited, as both were the
essence of selfishness. But they had been the
'King and Queen' of the neighborhood, so it
affected many people. They were the first
couple to divorce, quite the stigma.

But when the Bar replaced the Pet Store, it
was the beginning of the end. It set it all
in motion.
Many people in the surrounding area became
drunks, as a social thing. Lives changed.
Mine was never the same.
My parents, who became rich, might say, it
was a good thing.

Thank you, ladies.
I really enjoyed reading your stories

Josie & Sofie... You two are very brave and openhearted to share your stories with us. I thank you both. You guys are some of my favorite people on here to read your comments in these forums. You both come across as easy-going, self assured women with a knowledge that surpasses many people. You're not afraid to share your innermost thoughts & feelings with strangers. That is a very honorable trait to possess in my opinion. I believe your life's journeys up to this point has made you who you are. God's blessings to both of you, although I feel that you both have had your Guardian Angels protecting you all along . Again, thank you for sharing.

Thank you ladies!

I like to tell my life stories in the evening...
So everyone gets to go to sleep early

Well i want to wish you Both the best,and all i ever wanted for you my dear friend jo is for you to be Happy and safe since i known you on here , you been through a lot in the past in your life and if Anacodaarm is a True honest Respectful guy and treats you like a Queen thats really good, all the best to you both hugsss n ^5s please always treat her fantastic , she is 1 in a million dude and she always been a great friend to me and me to her ,she seems happy right now thou thats what counts when you both are happy cause life's to short , and jo i will always be here if you ever need a true friend just to chat with take care Big HUGSSSSSSSSS cheers:)

hey josie - cool thread

altho' I can't imagine that someone who can navigate 5000 acres of bush wouldhave any trouble traveling alone anywhere! I do enjoy your story, and definitely want to come back and read more ofit and soufie's too later this evening

namaste

thank you Josie and Soufie. I feel I know both much better now

lets see....

marines
cops
alcoholics
abusers
drugs
moving
siblings
pets
religion

ya, that about covers it

Betcha didn't know we have the same first name,
which we both don't use :-)

no i didn't nO that...sooo...are you gonna let us in on the secreat ??

It is not a secret.
Just an unknown fact :-)

wellll !!!!

Thanks for sharing. I didn't find it boring at all. Sounds like you have had a very interesting life and I hope that it continues to be a great life for you and your children. :)

Thanks for sharing your story. But, just so you know, life was like that for a lot of people. I don't know how many times my aunt came to pick up my sister and I as we waited out side of the bar for our mother to finish doing her thing. Hope you are living your dreams and enjoying your life. :)

Well My friends and familycall me Josie, Jo or Jo Jo.

When my family is angry the call me by my real name which is.

Hmm you had better ask Soufie as its her name,

Hey everyone thanks for all you comments.

Soufie, its sad that we ever have to learn that things are not a fairytail.

I didnt learn until after my first Hubby left me for someone else when i was 7 months pregnant with my second child I learnt that I couldnt trust everyone and that maybe I wasnt quiet as special as i thought i was... I was a bit of a spoiled brat.

When i married my second husband, I learnt that Drugs and alcohol addiction can destroy familys and that its not just in the movies. It also made me realise that i Should have learnt not to trust everyone. And that physically, some peole almost enjoy hurting you.

When I remarried my second hubby, I learnt not to trust a person when they say they have changed, especially if they are violent , I also learnt that I had only been looking at the happily ever after in fairy tales I gorgot that mostly they start with a horrible horrible story

Hmmmm my next relationship which lasted 5 years, Taught me that I had learnt absolutly nothing, I still blindly trusted everyone, I still thought that nobody would purposly hurt me and i still believed that people arnt bad just that they are mixed up.

Hmmm so out of 3 men, 3 where unfaithful, 2 where abusive in someway, 2 ended up alcoholics, ( I really hope I didnt drive them to it and all lied to me continually.


Hmmmm what have I learnt.

Firstly that I love life.
Secondly that through all this they have all taught me how important it is to enjoy life, no matter what is happening around me.
Thirdly I think I am a little dumb as i still believe almost everything that people tell me, Like how can I know if they lie to me and what if I didnt believe them and they where telling the truth,
Then iwould feel bad..

I also still believe that there are no bad people, just peole who have made wrong choices or who have gotten lost.
Yep i know that there is lots of yuck in the world, but surely there is some reason that beautiful babies end up growing into horrible people. and dont they still need someone to believe that they can be better than they are.
Well i would like to believe that people can change..

Hmmm wrote to much to read through and I now have no idea what i was on about as i lost my general track of thought, so will have a sticky beak later and finish when i think what i was saying, I sort of wandered of the beaten track and headed bush.. Bummer

Oh I remember, I still care about all my ex's and am thankful for everything that they taugh me, and for my gorgeous munchkins. I really wouldnt change a thing about my life as the kiddies and i made it fun, we always found something to enjoy even in the worst times.
And through those times, we became closer than most families will ever be . We learnt to sort through the crap and find the flowers that where hidden beneath. and flowers grow so well in crap

I grew up with my parents and three half brothers and sisters and was fairly seen as poor through others eyes,,Both my folks worked at Factories for their lives,,Both at 'their' same Factories..My dad was a drunk and an abuser,,he would smack me down or yell or scream at me IF I walked between HIM and his SPORTS on TV..
As no one cared,,I had a very bad speech problem,and flunked two grades in elementary School,,and spent eight years there,,and in speech therapy to learn how to talk and be understood.
Today,,you cannot detect any manner of a speech problem,wink.

So I grew to hate sports,,and as he beat on me,,I grew to hate DRUNKS,,and abuser's...My mom was so busy TRYING to keep a leash on him,,,she never had time for me much,,,So I grew-up cooking for myself at around eight years old -ON..and ran the streets at all hours of the day and might. Just so I didn't have to be around them fighting all the time..doing drugs,,POT and acid at eleven,,and booze to...by the time I was fourteen,,I thought I knew it all.So I got in a school work program,and started working at McDonalds..

My earliest childhood memory was asking God to take my dad,,,as he was chasing my mom around the house in the dark,,screaming "I'LL KILL YOU, YOU LITTLE,&*%*%%*&%%$%#^&^&*()()*%^$^&*(.

So,,,YES,,,ALL OF THAT CHANGED ME!!!!

into a man who has NEVER and COULD NEVER abuse a woman or child nor become a person addicted to anything,,well,,cigarettes,,lol

That BAD,,,allowed ME,to grow into a very gentle man,,who has raised three children all doing great in life..

SO,,,there is ALWAYS a HAPPY ENDING-----somewhere,,,

And I bet your children just love you to bits.


The yuck is always yuck and nothing ever changes that, but I guess its how we all handle what happens to us, that makes the difference, we tried to laugh through it, and came out, Ok.

But some peole become overwhelmed, and can never escape from the hurt within themselves

Iam4u
I think you are a wonderful man, and I wish there where so many more gentle men out there, who would truly cherish their families.

And I bet your children just love you to bits.


The yuck is always yuck and nothing ever changes that, but I guess its how we all handle what happens to us, that makes the difference, we tried to laugh through it, and came out, Ok.

But some peole become overwhelmed, and can never escape from the hurt within themselves

Iam4u
I think you are a wonderful man, and I wish there where so many more gentle men out there, who would truly cherish their families.

Thank you,,that means a LOT to me...and I also wish that MANY,,
would learn that ITS OK TO BE THEM,,and not feel THEY need to be someone else,,EVER...GOOD PEOPLE come into wrong lives everyday.
Josie,,I think YOUR pretty NEAT TO...
And I wish you and Anaconda a very beautiful relationship..