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Right on Jess......am there with ya and the ones that am interested in couldn't meet too far away....just keep trying.....bu t himself has a point about the other than I choose to be
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Just had a look at your profile.
"...opinionated, stubborn, intelligent, defiant, self-reliant ...be warned!!!" Does those words seem familiar to you? I could have a header on my profile going something like this: "...I will always see through your games. I don't need you and I always do things my way. And if you look hot, I probably want to phuck you.... be warned!!!" Now how many hits you'd think I would get? 
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I am not saying, don't be yourself, but maybe it'll be worth it to present yourself in a... less hard to digest version... at least right off the bat... of course that is your choice, but if you want people to take you 100% as you are before they even know you - and even warn them to boot - don't whine when they pass you by.
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. I'm pretty clear in what I say, hard to misconstrue what I am saying...so why does NO-ONE and I mean NO-ONE even ponder learning more about me? Yes I'm in Australia...yes, I am 46, yes, I have children... even posting in the forums...my posts sit there with their poor little arses hanging out...and are rarely responded to...except by those who have known me for ever... What the perkuck is it? Am I really that scary? Is everyone really that repulsed by someone who is fairly forthright? When did 'timid' become the new black??? 
We like seeing your little arse hanging out....... 
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. I'm pretty clear in what I say, hard to misconstrue what I am saying...so why does NO-ONE and I mean NO-ONE even ponder learning more about me? Yes I'm in Australia...yes, I am 46, yes, I have children... even posting in the forums...my posts sit there with their poor little arses hanging out...and are rarely responded to...except by those who have known me for ever... What the perkuck is it? Am I really that scary? Is everyone really that repulsed by someone who is fairly forthright? When did 'timid' become the new black???
Well "HI" Lee!  ....for me, it was that "Thelma and Louise" thread, you and that nutty (mutual) friend of ours had some time ago...ok.....actually I'm just joking .....actually, it's cuz everything in your hemisphere is opposite of mine..i mean really now....water going down the drain, counterclockwise....hmmm, or is it clockwise...I can never remember
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It is easy....
Your reputation for not paying for sex has spread globally. I check my mailbox everyday for that $7 you owe me....and everyday I dejectedly walk back into my house feeling used and dirty to cry as I go fetal in the shower. |
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. And there's your whole problem. People on dating sites, in my experience, don't want anyone intelligent or literate or anyone with more than 5 functional brain cells. Because people with more than 5 working brain cells are "complicated" and "intimidating." Or so I'm told. Constantly. |
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. And there's your whole problem. People on dating sites, in my experience, don't want anyone intelligent or literate or anyone with more than 5 functional brain cells. Because people with more than 5 working brain cells are "complicated" and "intimidating." Or so I'm told. Constantly. DOn't forget "bitchy." |
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. And there's your whole problem. People on dating sites, in my experience, don't want anyone intelligent or literate or anyone with more than 5 functional brain cells. Because people with more than 5 working brain cells are "complicated" and "intimidating." Or so I'm told. Constantly. DOn't forget "bitchy." Nope, I never get that one. Just "complicated" and "intimidating." |
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I don't know you Jess, but I'd say because you make yourself unapproachable, whether you realize it or not. That is usually how it goes, seeing you're neither ugly, dumb or deadly contagious. To make my point, you write initially "I am wildly curious as to why I am single... (I mean other than I choose to be)." You're saying it is your choice to be single. How then, can you be curious as to why? You are not opening a door. It is merely the appearance of an open door. Few are fooled. Most stay the distance. The interesting question is why you do it, but only you can answer that. Of course my answer is derived from what little I know of you, and I mean no offense, but like you, to say it as I see it. Just my 2cents and only because you asked. Best wishes, good luck, have fun. Thankyou so much for the honest and direct feedback. And you are absolutely correct, in that I am not available in the atypical sense... It is not a wide open door, again correct in your perceptions...it is a door ajar, and only a sliver...with 3 Maori Bouncers standing astride it... 
..it takes a particular person to even notice the partially ajar door of me, and the reason being it is not wide open is because I am usually way too forceful (?) in my ways. Unapproachable?...hmmm...possibly, I have a very rigid process of thought, and a clear knowledge of my shortcomings, (mostly), and so am not as easily 'available' as most...which can be veiwed as 'closed'.. I find most in my day to day world either see me instantly or they tend to circle warily for a while first, (that's both genders of potential new friends)...and have said as much once they figure out that I am more than just a 'closed door'. You are one highly perceptive person! |
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. I'm pretty clear in what I say, hard to misconstrue what I am saying...so why does NO-ONE and I mean NO-ONE even ponder learning more about me? Yes I'm in Australia...yes, I am 46, yes, I have children... even posting in the forums...my posts sit there with their poor little arses hanging out...and are rarely responded to...except by those who have known me for ever... What the perkuck is it? Am I really that scary? Is everyone really that repulsed by someone who is fairly forthright? When did 'timid' become the new black???
I am not sure about everyone else, but you are cool with me. Your type of personality is what men don't like. As they used to say in the miltary: If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. Besides, it is good to know other people in other places to broaden your horizons and let people know who you are. It is also ok to be you and not allow changes unless you allow them yourself.jmo  .
very true, although even in this easy annonymous style of interaction it seems most don't respond...(the forums, I rarely do the email thing).. |
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I have no idea how you come across in real life but i dont think you are scary on here. You are not one to **** about, or be ****** about(youre not timid, does that mean you are black?), but i dont see how thats a problem. You may scare off less confident men maybe, or less intelligent ones, but you would probably want an intelliegent confident man anyway. Your main problem on here is because you do live on the worlds arse.
Hiya Dan!...I still want my rainbow lorikeet back!...World's arse, my foot!...we are the new garden of eden with all this feckin rain! 
and spot on....it takes an intelligent confident man to be noticable to me... |
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. I'm pretty clear in what I say, hard to misconstrue what I am saying...so why does NO-ONE and I mean NO-ONE even ponder learning more about me? Yes I'm in Australia...yes, I am 46, yes, I have children... even posting in the forums...my posts sit there with their poor little arses hanging out...and are rarely responded to...except by those who have known me for ever... What the perkuck is it? Am I really that scary? Is everyone really that repulsed by someone who is fairly forthright? When did 'timid' become the new black???
I thought you were married........... 
Dan and I...(not the Dan on here) parted ways earlier this year...quietly and without any crazy property angst stuff...just before Asylum the house arrived here. |
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Edited by
Jess642
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Thu 12/23/10 08:13 PM
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Just had a look at your profile. "...opinionated, stubborn, intelligent, defiant, self-reliant ...be warned!!!" Does those words seem familiar to you? I could have a header on my profile going something like this: "...I will always see through your games. I don't need you and I always do things my way. And if you look hot, I probably want to phuck you.... be warned!!!" Now how many hits you'd think I would get?
Hmmm...nope...the hot looks do nothing for me...in the initial connection thing...it has to be intellect, insight, and directness.... and yes I will see through anyone's games, I DON'T need anyone...I am not a needy person...and a mature grown up would understand relationships are NOT about neediness, they are about mutual compatability, not co-dependence. I will always do things my way...because I am the only person in this body!...however, does that make me uncompromisable? ...nope... initially I am not going to 'give over' my whole belief structure, way of life and day to day dealings, I HAVE to do it my way, I have children reliant on me...and quite frankly any half baked grown up...(not the stoner version of baked, either) would not want a limpid weak dependent mindless person as a partner anyways! I could always have as a headline...."Doormat awaiting any who wish to lie to me, control me, and basically think for me" wonder how many people would find THAT attractive?
I am completely adamant I expect brutal honesty from others...so why would I NOT warn them of my seemingly worst traits??? |
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. I'm pretty clear in what I say, hard to misconstrue what I am saying...so why does NO-ONE and I mean NO-ONE even ponder learning more about me? Yes I'm in Australia...yes, I am 46, yes, I have children... even posting in the forums...my posts sit there with their poor little arses hanging out...and are rarely responded to...except by those who have known me for ever... What the perkuck is it? Am I really that scary? Is everyone really that repulsed by someone who is fairly forthright? When did 'timid' become the new black???
We like seeing your little arse hanging out.......
 ...Happy holiday thingo lovely marco friend...
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. I'm pretty clear in what I say, hard to misconstrue what I am saying...so why does NO-ONE and I mean NO-ONE even ponder learning more about me? Yes I'm in Australia...yes, I am 46, yes, I have children... even posting in the forums...my posts sit there with their poor little arses hanging out...and are rarely responded to...except by those who have known me for ever... What the perkuck is it? Am I really that scary? Is everyone really that repulsed by someone who is fairly forthright? When did 'timid' become the new black???
Well "HI" Lee! ....for me, it was that "Thelma and Louise" thread, you and that nutty (mutual) friend of ours had some time ago...ok.....actually I'm just joking .....actually, it's cuz everything in your hemisphere is opposite of mine..i mean really now....water going down the drain, counterclockwise....hmmm, or is it clockwise...I can never remember
BRY!!! Hiya lovely! yeah Thelma and Louise strikes again...hilarious stuff...I can't remember which way the water gurgles down the plughole...as long as it does!
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It is easy.... Your reputation for not paying for sex has spread globally. I check my mailbox everyday for that $7 you owe me....and everyday I dejectedly walk back into my house feeling used and dirty to cry as I go fetal in the shower. Your money is still sat on my kitchen bench awaiting your srawny arse to get over here and collect it, smart arse!!! 
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. And there's your whole problem. People on dating sites, in my experience, don't want anyone intelligent or literate or anyone with more than 5 functional brain cells. Because people with more than 5 working brain cells are "complicated" and "intimidating." Or so I'm told. Constantly. The absolute bain of most's existance...
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Ok, you either chose to be single or you don't. You can't ask "why am I single" and claim you chose to be. We could compare available singles and then decide who chooses what, if you prefer...
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....am wildly curious as to why I am single...( I mean other than I choose to be). I'm intelligent, confident, can string 3 words together in a mildly coherant manner. I'm pretty clear in what I say, hard to misconstrue what I am saying...so why does NO-ONE and I mean NO-ONE even ponder learning more about me? Yes I'm in Australia...yes, I am 46, yes, I have children... even posting in the forums...my posts sit there with their poor little arses hanging out...and are rarely responded to...except by those who have known me for ever... What the perkuck is it? Am I really that scary? Is everyone really that repulsed by someone who is fairly forthright? When did 'timid' become the new black???
Its your three black belts in Karate,,, and your five different languages that you speak at will. AND THEN---------------Its that pet Lion you have in your backyard that really scares the hell out-of-them!!! I mean come-on,,,,,WHAT GUY WOULDN'T BE INTIMIDATED?????? To be REAL Jess,,,I think YOU just like to be YOU,,and single works BETTER than to be in war with a dude,,,,wink,,or your heart in pain. SOoooooo,single is looked at as a better living situration for you? Thats my thoughts anyway,,wink,,NOW come-back and bash the hell out of me,,if ya want,,,but first ,,, Let me say,,,, HAVE A MERRY CHRISTMAS and its been cool reading you here for three and ahalf years,,,,wink,,OK,,,,BASH AWAY,,,,,,lol... |
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