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| Topic: No sex!! Is that ok with you? | |
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Sex is a definite plus!  But not a absolute requirement if you find the person who fits your heart. I've said it before, I'll say it again. If the tongue ain't paralyzed..we're good!   
You said it baby
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Could you live without sex if everything else in a relationship is great? I'm not asking because I don't want to have it.... just so you know.... : 0 
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Nope! Not ok! The last guy only wanted it once every two or three months after the initial heat turned into day to day life. Made me feel awful and ugly. I want it at least a couple of times a week, and I'm more than ok with 4 or 5 times a week. I like it a lot and I want it a lot!
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Nope! Not ok! The last guy only wanted it once every two or three months after the initial heat turned into day to day life. Made me feel awful and ugly. I want it at least a couple of times a week, and I'm more than ok with 4 or 5 times a week. I like it a lot and I want it a lot! 
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see this is how I get so serious. But what happens when your dead? You can't have sex anymore. Does that mean we don't exist anymore? See, instead of self-gratification, the essence of my being is gratification of others. But in my experience of trying to gratify everyone, just a few people, and individuals in the wrong method, I have realized that you can't try and gratify everyone. I'm sure there's probably one billion people on earth that I could have earth-shattering sex with. Seriously here, I think I'm pretty good. And if that is the benchmark that we are measuring against, we will all have a grand ol' time measuring up. However, this is unprofitable for YOU. I'm sure the other people you're working to gratify will be satisfied (we are real good at this after all, we have enough practice), but who is going to satisfy you? This is the issue at hand. If you truly seek to take someone else's needs, wants, and desires as your own, there is no room for anything else. The only way to truly be gratified is to seek another's as your own. But this is totally unsustainable in any situation excepting a monogamous relationship, because you're only one person and there's only 24 hours in a day. And I will make the argument for marriage at this point. And really we should be seeking to gratify God's purposes in our lifes, not our own or anyone elses. That's why this is the model for the marriage relationship. agreed, but everyone finds their own happiness,,,,, sex as the goal was never a source of happiness in any relationship for me either I would date a man I loved and if there was some reason he wanted to postpone sex,,it would not bother me. I would respect him quite a bit, in fact, if he wished to wait for marriage. I am forty, I have had great sex, Id rather have a great relationship, if I have to choose. If great sex can come along with the great relationship thats all the better, but not the other way around. |
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see this is how I get so serious. But what happens when your dead? You can't have sex anymore. Does that mean we don't exist anymore? See, instead of self-gratification, the essence of my being is gratification of others. But in my experience of trying to gratify everyone, just a few people, and individuals in the wrong method, I have realized that you can't try and gratify everyone. I'm sure there's probably one billion people on earth that I could have earth-shattering sex with. Seriously here, I think I'm pretty good. And if that is the benchmark that we are measuring against, we will all have a grand ol' time measuring up. However, this is unprofitable for YOU. I'm sure the other people you're working to gratify will be satisfied (we are real good at this after all, we have enough practice), but who is going to satisfy you? This is the issue at hand. If you truly seek to take someone else's needs, wants, and desires as your own, there is no room for anything else. The only way to truly be gratified is to seek another's as your own. But this is totally unsustainable in any situation excepting a monogamous relationship, because you're only one person and there's only 24 hours in a day. And I will make the argument for marriage at this point. And really we should be seeking to gratify God's purposes in our lifes, not our own or anyone elses. That's why this is the model for the marriage relationship. agreed, but everyone finds their own happiness,,,,, sex as the goal was never a source of happiness in any relationship for me either I would date a man I loved and if there was some reason he wanted to postpone sex,,it would not bother me. I would respect him quite a bit, in fact, if he wished to wait for marriage. I am forty, I have had great sex, Id rather have a great relationship, if I have to choose. If great sex can come along with the great relationship thats all the better, but not the other way around. |
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Could you live without sex if everything else in a relationship is great? I'm not asking because I don't want to have it.... just so you know.... : 0 did that..but eventually it took its toll on the relationship |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Fri 08/06/10 07:45 PM
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Could you live without sex if everything else in a relationship is great? I'm not asking because I don't want to have it.... just so you know.... : 0 Not a chance in hell would I be in a relationship without sex. Without it there is no relationship. |
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ummm... NO!!!!
I'm going crazy without it! |
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Gotta vote NO on this one.
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Gotta vote NO on this one. 
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Isn't that called friendship? That was exactly what I was thinking. Wow, we must think alike. 
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Isn't that called friendship? That was exactly what I was thinking. Wow, we must think alike.
it depends upon what one defines as sex for me it is a very specific activity(the only one that can create life),,,everything else is considered petting, fondling, or foreplay |
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Umm, everything in the relationship wouldn't be 'perfect' if there was no sex. Why? Because, both parties would be sitting around wanting it. Simply for primal reasons and then because it would be the one mark on their "perfect" relationship.
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Hey Rob, wanna not fight with me? 
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Edited by
msharmony
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Sat 08/07/10 01:37 AM
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Umm, everything in the relationship wouldn't be 'perfect' if there was no sex. Why? Because, both parties would be sitting around wanting it. Simply for primal reasons and then because it would be the one mark on their "perfect" relationship. perhaps they need a new sexual category,, asexual,, for those of us who dont experience such overwhelming 'primal' urges...lol |
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perhaps they need a new sexual category,, asexual,, for those of us who dont experience such overwhelming 'primal' urges...lol a few minutes with moi would show a different you 
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No way! If it's a romantic relationship, then sex will be involved... otherwise it's just a friendship. At least, that's the way I see it. Others are entitled to their own opionions...
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Nope! Not ok! The last guy only wanted it once every two or three months after the initial heat turned into day to day life. Made me feel awful and ugly. I want it at least a couple of times a week, and I'm more than ok with 4 or 5 times a week. I like it a lot and I want it a lot! |
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