I'm Baaaaaaccccckkkkkkkkk!!!!! LOL....I've been at work for the past couple of days. I came back really surprised to see that people were still commenting on this thread . Who would've thought that little ole me could stir up so much controversy (noooo, that's not the word I was looking for)...could generate so much speculation (noooo, that doesn't work either)...what I'm trying to say is that I got u guys talking!!! So thanks for all the comments . Now I have to think of another topic that will confuse the hell out of people even more than this one did ...LMAO

Well said Dragoness...I like that u applied your list to both your fiends and relationships . And you're absolutely right, people are who they are so you just have to decide what type of people you do on don't "mesh" well with.

With that said, in my post I was referring to gay men who haven't come out yet. In the Black community we consider them to be on the DL (down low). These type of men for various reasons keep it secret that they are gay. Some of them have girlfriends and even wives, but behind closed doors they are sleeping with men. This lifestyle is both unethical and dangerous. It spreads disease and devastates unsuspecting women who were unaware that there significant other was gay.

And for all you people who feel its is your JOB to read this, twist my words, then write a reply labeling me as a homophobe...please give it a rest. I have nothing against gay people...I would just like to be informed by a man on whether he is gay or not before he attempts to start a relationship with me other than just being friends. BTW, did u know that there are men out there who have sex with men but do not consider themselves gay!