I'm with the majority. People are always trying to "have their cake and eat it too." It never works, logically or in real life.
If you established a committed relationship, married or not, and you want OTHER than the one to whom you are committed, the mathematical result that follows is that it's time to formally end the committed relationship. The ONLY other option is to declare yourself a liar, a cheater, and someone who is unwilling to do as they say they will. That usually CAUSES the committed relationship to end anyway, so save time, and end it first, THEN go for your nookie.

no...it's never ok to treat someone you supposedly care about like that.

I agree but there are those out there who do not agree and I guess they won't post on here.

no, its justification to move on if sexual business is that type of priority though

NO, but it is justification to communicate with them about how your desires are not being fulfilled, and about how/what they can to do to help the situation.

that's because even they know it is wrong no matter how one tries to justify it.

I would simply patch the leak and reinflate.

No it's not okay...but you already knew that.

You are right. I was hoping those who do think it is okay would come out and defend their position.

Its NEVER,NEVER,NEVER ok to cheat.No matter how you justify it. Its ALWAYS, ALWAYS wrong

I don't think 'those' people actually have a position on it...they say they do but all they are doing is TRYING to give themselves an excuse for their bad behavior...they are TRYING to justify it...when they know it is NEVER justified.

So they don't have a 'position' on it....they are just trying to create an excuse to ease their troubled conscience


and I'd bet 10-1 if the situation was reversed their 'position' would change rather quickly

If you REALLY loved them?

Remember Love is not self-seeking....so now do you LOVE them?

had one like that and then it gets worse,get to fighting then can lead to physical,end it!!!u will be lonely for a while get a toy it works for the moment there will be another one come along that likes it just as much as u do..at least i hope!!!lol im still waiting but havent been broke off long from the last one..

I don't think it is just justification but would be rationalization also.

Rationalization: If she really loved me she would be taking care of me sexually. Justification: In other words its even her fault I am messing around.
Complete Reversal of guilt and victimization: How horrible she is to make me seek another.

No. Address the problem straight-up and give 'em a chance to correct it. If nothing changes, tell 'em goodbye and let 'em know WHY it's 'goodbye' time. 'Messing around' is still cheating, no matter how y' try to justify it. Lipstick never makes a pig prettier ...

The other option is you could inquire about making it an open relationship. Even the most unassuming guy just might crack a smile and get a twinkle in his eye at the mere thought of a relationship like that. I've never met an unhappy swinger couple.

The dude is right. I hang out with several couples who swing and it has always been the man who instigates contact because he wants his woman to be happy (sexually).

Not every man can perform at the same level or even at all but, still dont want thier partnr to do without in that facet of thier relationship.

The first time I was approached by a fellow, I was freaked and nervous but, once he explained that he just wanted his wife to be happy and he was no longer capable of performing, I felt alot of respect for the guy. It takes a lot of faith to share that which you love in a situation like that. The wife is happy. The husband is happy because he has some control of the situation. And together the couple retains thier bond.

When my sister went through her divorce, I told her about it. Now, she wishes she had at least brought up the idea if it would have helped her failed relationship.

Hummmm in my book HELL NOoooooooooooo if it is not what ya want then move on before dipping into another relationship... To me that is just wrong in sooooooooooo many ways....

But now if the other partner has no problem in the situation and both can deal with it then that is between those two and they can do as they please... more power to them...

Just not something I would every agree on or do......

Does a Blow up doll count?

If your partner is not taking care of you financially, is it justicfication to go rob a bank?

Wrong is wrong.