Are there any rules or guidelines you stick to for a first date

examples:

I drive myself and I don't let someone know where I live until I'm comfortable with them

meet in a public place

give all info on my date to someone...just in case

Public place
give all info to relative
no sex

oh yeah...include the sex part for me too

mutual territory

3 people know about it

no sex...duh

keep my cell phone within reach

I try not to get too excited, make sure she feels comfortable, going to places she's familiar with. I always pay when we go out to eat, etc. I try not to get too personal, or anything just kinda play it by ear.

hmmmm I wonder if woman look for safety first, more so than guys?

looking for safety so one of us dont do nutso...

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I would think woman would be more concerned than men, but it makes sense for both parites to be cautious. You never know, especially now a days.

I don't get paranoid, but I do look for some things. I tend to be more nervous about the actual date and what to say more so than safety though.

there was this one dating site i was on yrs ago. (i dont even remember the name of it anymore) this guy sent me his pic, and omg i looked at his eyes and he had the most devlish look on earth, i ended up sending that pic to several other readers and they freaked out over it.

I always have a cage around me and leave the key to the padlock at home with a friend.

i know how to pick a lock

I pay close attention to what they tell me before the date.

If I haven't talked several times on line I don't even bother to cam convo and I am very leary about giving a phone number.

If I don't have a phone number and complete name I can at least verify to and address I am not bothering to agree to a date. (Maybe that sounds unfair but men are generally much stronger and economicly able to create a phoney front than women are.) I am not wasteing time meeting a ghost.

Before I go on a date I make sure someone responsible knows where I am going and when I should be back. And where the info I have about the person can be found if I don't show up.

I make sure I am actually early for the date so that I am not rushed and have a chance to see the lay of the land.

While I like to wear something feminine I don't show up in an outfit or shoes that are going to make it easy for someone to grope or overpower me. I also don't wear any kind of heavy bling or carry a fist full of credit cards, money keys, or for that matter a purse.

I also do not have any kind of alcohol on a first date. And if we are dining together I do not leave my food or beverage alone with him.

I also do not allow the gentleman to escort me to my car. Even if I meet in a very public secure place. If it is not at least second or third date he doesn't need to know where I live. Which is very easy to find out with a license plate.

Is that for your safety or theirs?

and if you're really good on your date do they release you?

I have a friend call me at the 15 minute mark of the date. Now, I act like it is an important call, and within the first sentence, I issues one of two code words. If I mention "blue", all is well and the date continues. If I mention "red", then I start to get all wigged out on the phone because my friend will tell me that my PS3 is in a coma. Of course, once I hang up the phone, I tell my date that my friend just got hit by a semi truck, but he is ok, but I must leave.

So basically...if a woman figures out how to convince me she isn't insane be 15 minutes, she is golden. So far, my operation has been successful.

Don't have any expectations for the first date. Other than that, relax a bit and have a good time.

As for those who have someone call them during the date.. if my date answered the phone during the first date, I'd be kind of turned off.

OMG! And, I have been worried sick about your friend ever since our date!

Me too.....ummmmm.....yeah....he hasn't woke up yet....soooooooo....

If I heard anyone ever uses the colors blue orred in a phone conversation, I'd be livid