Love is everything..how could it not be worth it? Maybe it's just me..I don't understand that kind of thinking.

Love is everything. Once you have truly had it, well ok, once I truly had it and don't want to live the rest of my life without it. Love makes all things, even the loved ones death, possible to bear.

You too T. I'm so glad you and T got together. I'll bet it was a blast!

I would laugh at a thousand heart breaks to find true love once. But, I'm brave that way.

If I could somehow go back and completely erase every relationship I've ever been in, I would do it in a heartbeat. Half a heartbeat, even.

Lex, I absolutely love the honesty of this answer. Now, I ask you this: why can't you? Why can't you rewrite your past to effect your future? Only you have the power to do it.

Well, the lesson I've learned (albeit only after a seemingly endless number of stupid repetitive mistakes) is that it's just not worth it to get involved with anyone.

And, yes, I've heard all the "not everyone is like that" folderol, and, yes, I realize that it may even hypothetically be true.

But I'm not in a position where I can meet anybody in real life (just don't know anybody around here, and there's nowhere to go), and the homogeneity of the people on dating sites is stifling.

Seems like the smart thing to do is to take the "scientific method" approach -- when an experiment yields the same result time after time, you get to the point where you consider it a "fact" and you don't question it, until another scientist comes along and disproves your results.

I would love to agree with you and if you use the same ingredients for the experiment, the result will most likely be the same. But if you alter the ingredients even slightly the result may be different.

And I looked up homogeneity to ensure you weren't calling me gay.

Yes it was worth it and yes it's still worth it. Wouldn't be much of a life without love.

It means something ELSE?

If you went back and erased it all, then you wouldn't know now that you would want it erased..

Exactly. And I'd be free to make an entirely different series of horrible mistakes.

So, with what I'm reading in these last 2 pages, is that:

Some say the pain, is worth what they went through with love!
The love was worth the pain afterword!

Also, as I feel...some are saying that the lessons taught in a failed love...make for caution in any future ones.

Or do we throw caution to the wind?

Does this sound about right?

It was worth it for me, would I go back and do it all over again? Definitely Will I ever find that kind of love again? Probably not

Excellent synopsis however I feel further evaluation is required.

Oh well...since ya put it that way.

So eventually the knowledge comes anyway..so why erase what you have already learned? You still have the freedom to make more horrible mistakes...now you just have a heads up. If you erase the memory, you go back in blind.

Knowing what I know now, it might be difficult for me to put myself in a position where I'd go in already sure I was making yet another horrible mistake.

In other words, history would almost certainly skew the next X number of experiments, thereby tainting the validity of the results. Since I already know everyone I meet is going to try to turn me into a goat, I will subconsciously shift into goat-resistance mode, which of course dooms the entire enterprise, at least from the standpoint of developing into a "long-term relationship."

On the other hand, amnesia or a severe head injury would free me from the complications inherent in dealing with this level of historical failitude.

A goat...
Everything you just said I understand..except the goat part. Is that your perspective of what these women wanted you to be like?
Like a goat? If I could turn a man into any animal of my choice..I'm just thinking goat wouldn't be my first choice.

I am tracking with you...as far as what your saying though. Maybe because my children are a result of my past horrible mistakes(the relationships, not my boys) I am able to not want to erase the memory..maybe not. I still cherish some of those memories, that don't include my boys.

Every breath, every moment, every joy, every pain, heartache, suffering, learning and miracle made me exactly who I am today!

Sure ... Hindsight is easy, but there are no redos!

This IS the really, really Big show!

The love and connection was the bright spot on this often crucifying 'Trail of Tears'! ... The gift ... presents during the presence!

... I treasure my entire life, ESP. the 'beautiful moments of Love's sacred hand and touch' in it!

Wouldn't change a thing, and diligently intend to take all the lessons learned to and through the 'translation to next depot station' ...

So ....

love comes with a price......pain in one form or another.

I ain't no masochist but, it is worth every last tear drop.

For the ones who are afraid of the love/pain........don't be a pu$$y. That one genuine smile will probably be the highlight of your life.