Hey Everyone:

I started this topic a while ago. I think people get too hung up on age. I truly feel that the maturity level of two people as well as personalies are the two most important things when figuring if they are compatible.

I have a lot of friends who are older than I am. I'm 25 and my friends are anywhere from 21 - 44 years old. And, I feel that I get along best with my friends who are older. I've never really acted like most women my age. I enjoy going to a bar once in a while, but only if it's for a cast party or to hear a band or sing karaoke. I don't go just to drink... and I think that's why I get along so well with men ages 35-40.

Anyway, I'm glad to see people are still writing about this.

I talked to a younger woman today, but since I don't drink. Not cause I have a problem. But cause I choose not to drink. Anyways, she stopped talking to me.

So I guess if ya don't drink ya boring.

Non-drinkers aren't boring. I know that I drink on occassion (I don't go out and get wasted), and I have some friends who never drink. They won't even have a sip of champange on New Years. I don't mind that they don't drink, but they always talk about drinking... even just having one when you are out with your friends at a bar for Karaoke... they talk about drinking like it's the worst possible thing you could do.

Why must we be so judgemental?

I can only speak from personal experience, but, having seen too many people I loved who killed themselves with drugs and alcohol, I just don't want it around me anymore. I guess it is judgmental -- because I refuse to associate with anyone who uses that stuff -- but I'm not good at sitting around watching someone I love, committing suicide. For me, it's easier just to eliminate the whole problem by eliminating the substances from my life.

I can understand what you are saying Lex, but I have, at most, 1-2 drinks a week. I don't like to be around people who abuse substances either... I guess it just depends on who you are and what you've been through.


Harmony

my x was 26 i was 36, its a maturity thing though, on both halfs

I don't see any problem with the age difference. However, I have dated or had relationships with mostly older women from 2 years to 17 years older than me. It really only matters if you have things in common and similar plans for how you want to live your life. When I was younger I wanted to be with someone that had a career, a home, and time for fun, which was opposite from women my age who were struggling through college, living in apartments, raising children, and still trying to figure things out. Now that I am older, I am looking for someone younger (from 24 to my age), because I want different things, like maybe finally getting married and having a family of my own before its too late. The only other thing to consider is if you plan to be with this person when one of you retires, how will your relationship hold up if one person has tons of free time and wants to travel or has failing helath and no energy and the other is still working and following the same old routine.

I have several female friends in their 20's that have had relationships with older men (30's) and they've complained about the same things; being talked down to because of age and not being taken seriously in the relationship.

I don't think it's a matter of age, rather a matter of Jerks. An older guy/girl with a condescending attitude is going to find a reason to talk down to you regardless. People are'nt any more or less special because of age. See them because of who they are, don't worry about the technical details.

Well ... don't know if I stand a chance here but ... here goes

I typically find it easier to get along with men who are a little bit older than me. I am about to be 21 and I usually am attracted to men between the age of 25 and 35. Dont know why, just find them easier to get along with and I have more in common with them. I dont really date guys my own age or younger mainly because of the maturity level. I have always been mature beyond my years and I need someone like that. I can handle playing around but I need someone who knows when to be serious and is responsible. JMO

age has nothing to do with it ! i have dated younger women and older women and we all are still friend's ! i just dont want to be tied down , as of right now . so would it's the way people feel for each other is all that matter's !