Fran-
I've actually been going thru this same Scenario as the OP (Original Poster) so that's where I've been...

Mine-
Yes, Very Good Question!
The 2 Men I'm thinking of did the leaving... (one for Drugs --> which he Knew I wouldn't Tolerate, either Then OR now... the Other left for a Younger "Hottie" that, when asked, he couldn't even remember the name of... )
Usually I am the one who terminates things also, but in these 2 cases it doesn't apply, so I'm thinking that your Logic doesn't always hold... tho before now I would have said that Men usually feel like they've got the "rite" to come back around, and that you MUST have "pined" for them while they were away... and therefore MUST want to give them a chance to make it up to you...
Make Sense?

yeah i can see your point, one guy i did have history with and had deep feelings with assumed that i was still in love with him 2 yrs after we split up and called me a horrible names cause i told him the truth that i wasnt waiting for him and that i hadnt thought there was going to be an ever after for us... lol told him that i had been dating off and on for the yrs we been split... he didnt like that at all. It was as if the earth was supppose to stand still and my heart and mind were to be in mourning forever and that when he beckons and calls I shall be there within moments to fufill his every desires.... NOT LOL uhhh hehee men dont understand them and the same goes the other way men complain that they dont understand us.

and im sorry i didnt know you had a discussion prior to this one... im new only a week i think now today or tmw it be a week.

Thanks for your input and your sharing!

I don't know why. I wouldn't hazard a guess. Maybe they have compared you to who they are with now and know now they f'd it up with you. Who knows.
The only thing I can suggest is to keep that ignore button on.
Seeing that your over them.
It may take time but soon there wont be any attempts to contact you.

Mine-
Any time I can help I'll be glad to do it! I am Very Happy for your Presence here, and hope you will continue to seek our advice!!

I didn't have a Prior Discussion going, it just happens that the strong women of Mingle (Calleigh, Fran, Lily, Gossip, Txs, Myself, and now apparently YOU) tend to Gravitate to the same threads! *smile* And we like to say hello to one another. I try to not Gravitate from the OP's Question (that would be You m'Lady) as sometimes in saying Hello, or talking among ourselves, we forget the original point.

Yes hopefully the ignore button will get tiresome and over time they will let go or be distracted by someone else God Willing! I dont want to sound really mad cause im not im at peace with things I have let go of anything they have done to me or to us... I just ask that they do the same as well...

Thanks for your input!

I am pretty sure that they have either realised what they've lost, or just simply cannot find the courage within to let the past be the past and let life carry them on a different path to you.

Keep the ignore button on, yes, a wise choice of words, but I would also suggest pointing out to them, life is short, don't waste your time trying to get back with me because it aint gonna happen. If you persist I will not hesitate in taking further action against you. (but of course, have a witness alongside, and a rough sketched note of what you have said and what he has replied). That should shake him up to realise his actions are only likely to damage his future, as you are already further on.

And as for approaching 30's and enjoying life, that's what it really is about. How much enjoyment you get out of life is down to honest hard work and a pleasant nature, both of which I am severely inclined to believe, even at this early stage of leaving a post on one thread of yours.

Well said.

That's it!

You've hit it on the head....it's a strange, strange little world

Advice for what?


Advice on not how to toot your own horn?

i still cant get over my ex and ****
born breed born rich

Well AngelEyes, the only way I can have a clear understanding of your situation is to have sex with you for a while.....you split on me, then come back begging for another shot of lovin.

I am trying to gain a clear perspective so, you gotta work with me darlin.

Ain't that the truth.

Looks like somebody gets it.

Very strange, and for some folks very very small.

He has lost somthing special and now he has realised TOUGH his loss girl Anna x

Such a 'strong' woman.....

why do I feel like jumping ship?

If the person has no history of domestic violence you could try what has repeatedly worked. And is relatively inexpensive. Certainly cheaper than keep changeing numbers or addresses.

I have rarely had anyone repeat contact after a registered signature letter simply stateing "Leave me alone." was sent. Sign it, date it, and have it witnessed by and adult.

Noteing CC to your choice of person; I recommend sending a senior Officer of your local or state Police department the same way. You might, not likely, get a letter in return but having a copy documents your desire and tends to have a chilling effect on the intended recipient.