You need to be more selective and recognize what guys really want, whether it's only sex or they actually have feelings for you. It's really a skill to learn, and nobody is born with it, you gotta learn it on your own.

Unless she's a private person and doesn't want them in her business.

Who are you dating for: for what others will think or say or for yourself, if you find someone in your church that interest you a lot do not let what family or others think, its your life your decision and nobody else.

Unless that man is a bragger and would spell the bean to everyone, if he is decent and likes you he would not mind keeping it quiet until both of you are ready to share it with the rest.

Decent people do exists even if they are hard to find.

Thank you all for your comments i have faith that i wont have to bend my personal wants and beliefs to have a relationship i am comfortable alone i just have to get frequent massages to release my tention thanks everyone again

You're welcome. And you're right, you don't have to compromise; there are men who are waiting for marriage to have sex too. You just have to be around them to get to know them. Good luck.

All i know is that it is impossible for any woman dating me to not want to have sex with me..

it took a while to learn but sex is not a recreational sport women love yourselves i just learned to love me

Well, can't say as I can see what the Lord has to do with it, but that's me.

Did meet a gent here locally on mingle. Have been going out on the weekends for 3 weeks. He's met my family and friends, and I've met his. It's going slow, sweet, and easy, and I'm enjoying every minute of it and him. No pressure for sex, just fun. Who knew fishing could be so highly amusing, caught and released 2 bass, and had a bit of fun just kissing.

He's in the military, and will likely be shipping out in December, but will be gone for training for 6 weeks between now and then. I have a feeling that's going to suck. I'm emotionally not sure of myself though I LIKE him A LOT.

He's a gentleman, with a nice strong sense of self, and I like him a lot. He's nice, but not a pushover which is greatly appreciated.

I waited for what I wanted, God had nothing to do with it, IMO, or at least for me.

Hrmmm, well it can be with the right person, even in a committed relationship. That's what helps keep it alive. Plus, sex is just plain fun.

all i'm say is i wish u luck.. we dudes sometime don't realize that sex can b bigger than just pleasure that's y when we hang around an attractive girl no matter how she initially told us how she feels about sex.. we can help but try to.. u know.. pardon my french "get some" so on that note best of luck to ya.. and don't get fooled by the next dude that would play saint joseph ...

Hrmmm, well it can be with the right person, even in a committed relationship. That's what helps keep it alive. Plus, sex is just plain fun.


gotta agree with u on this one.. ofcourse sex is fun and may i add pleasurable.. which is one of the main reason y we do it.. but studies have shown that it is one if not "the" deepest connection a couple may hav.. funny to think about it.. 75 percent of couple or marriage that hav a wonderfull sex life always try thier best to work out thier flaws in the relation instead of breaking it up..

Keep praying, and don't lose track of what is really important. You say you recently gave yourself to the Lord. Perhaps you're not finding the right guys because the Lord wants you to focus on your relatinship with Christ right now. Perhaps having a man at this time in your life may distact you from the Lord. Stay on track, keep your eyes on the Lord. Oh, and welcome to Mingle.

Great perspective, focus on the most important relationship and the other will find you. I am a member on another site, and I actually put Christian in the search,, I come back with plenty males who are committed to building the friendship first and holding off on the sex,,so dont give up on the fellas just yet, the media tells us they are all sex starved but there are those out there who are love starved as well and appreciate a good woman, without requiring sex.

In any case,,Best wishes to you.

Ditto...Only you have the right, to live the life you chose.Sure others will try and change your mind.Keep them as people you know , but not for life long commitments.