Okay, that came off not how I intended. I mean "personality" instead of "intelligence".

Damn! You got some nice personalities..........

I bet any money that if I told a girl she was intelligent, but never told her she was beautiful, the relationship wouldnt last long. Lets be serious... shallow is relative. Its shallow when that isnt what you wanna hear, but to never here it would be way way worse.

Okay. fair. But. It is impossible to know what your personality is going to be like without approaching you and talking to you.

I have never pursued a woman sitting there thinking - "look at her, god I bet she has the coolest personality."

That is a ridiciolous assumption.

The only way I'm going to find out is if I approach the women that I am attracted too and find out if I like there personality.

Personality and intelligence are in the end WAY more important.






But impossible to find out unless I get to know you because I think you are beautiful.


that simple.

Hmmmm.....


'You have nice b r e a s t s...'


versus


'You seem very interesting...'


I know which one I am going to respond to in a positive way...


And I agree, anyone that pulls the 'image' card, gets dissed....it's their focus...the exterior....someone who makes no reference to my appearance, but engages me in conversation, is much more attractive.

It seems that a lot of people appear to be shallow. I tend to give everyone an equal chance. I say hey to everyone I make eye contact with no matter who. The personality of a person is what makes them beautiful IMHO

Well I think your beautiful!!

Very sexy looking!!

Bet you have the personality to match!!!

Isn't this obvious though?

Who in there right freaking mind is going to walk up to a woman and say "God I love your breasts."

What? that happens?

I might see a woman where her breasts are noticable, sorry, it happens- point being, if so - and I go talk to her, I'm not even sure when her breasts would become a topic until she is in my bed naked!

I may go talk to a woman because I like her breasts and then find out more about her - whats wrong with that?

Yes, that happens often here in Australia....the common mating dance is very different to the States..


Men and women are more transparent here...we say what we are thinking...

Your looks are part of what you are. To diss somebody because they complement you on your looks shows serious feelings of inferiority or superiority.

Hahahahah!!!!! Or the simple fact that I value the interior of a person more than their exterior...

Studies have shown that people are attracted visually, instinctively, to someone who looks to be in child producing shape, and in good health.


Someone who is ill looking or unattractive it shows will be overlooked often.

Apparently, if you not meeting the people that arent interested in you.. it wasnt meant to be. Lotta people out there.. keep looking.

But you just got done saying that a man who "says what he thinks" is less attractive speaking about your exterior than a man who approaches you and does not speak what he thinks.


You really think that the guy that comes up to you and says nothing about your appearance- not anything about your hair, your clothing style, how pretty your smile is - do you really think he hasn't had those things go thru his head before he approached you?

That guy is only looking at you and approaching you because you seem like an interesting person.

come on.






the guy who is more attractive too you is just smoother and smarter. outsmarting the competition.

shallow is annoying...

I agree.

Actually you are making an assumption that men ONLY think about appearance....and some mask their thoughts.

In the US...many of you do...if this site is a snapshot into 'middle America' it's obvious most of you play the 'nice' game...and edit what you are really thinking.

In Australia...we say it how it is...

and the man who approaches with an intention to engage in conversation to get to know me, wins hands down from the slavering idiot whose hands are just itching to grope.

My partner is EXACTLY that type of person...he wanted to learn more of me...and I have asked him his first thoughts, impressions...and they were 'Here's a willful, confident woman, I want to know her'

Looks is an image and it doesn't change who you are inside. If people stop knowing you after judging your look then they are not worth knowing.

People will always judge other looks that is part of human nature but it should not stop them to know who is inside because that is where you really get to know them, not their clothes body shape or whatever else our eyes see.

I like that response. That made it clearer to me.

90% of the time I wanted to get to know a woman truly- that I have approached.

I admit to having times of being shallow and purely wanting to see what a girl is like because she is banging hot. I admit to it.

Don't worry about what other people say, if you are happy with who you are that is all that matters.