Ok here's the deal, my best friend is a female, she's really really great to be around, I love the things we do togeather, spending time with her and all that, the problem is she wants nothing to do with me as of yesterday, because I love her and she's not in love... She's the best thing thats happened to me in the last 10 years, we've been to disneyland, and an angels baseball game, (her favorite team) and we both live here in Vegas.

Question is, how is it possible to lose a friend like that when all you do is have a great time sharing events and supporting each other?? I'm hurt and confused.

oh and she's been my friend for 3 months. But the best 3 months of my life.

you crossed the line. she needed a friend and you professed your love. she can't handle that and you're no longer friend status and she knows it because you harbor feelings she can never reciprocate.

so she figures to save herself and you the up coming pain and drama (when you realize you can no longer sit idly by and watch her love other men) she cuts her ties now.

thats what happens when its unrequited love and you both feel the pain.

the sad part is when this goes down... you have a choice.. swallow your feelings and enjoy the friendship or come out to her about your feelings and risk losing her.

and you lost her.

i'm sorry.

Sorry this happened to you. Maybe she thought she was doing the best thing for both of you, since you're in love and she's not. When both parties don't feel the same way, it can be impossible to be just friends. Hope you feel better soon.

I guess I would want to know what changed. I'm assuming you told her that you loved her and that freaked her out. Some people can't continue to be that kind of friend knowing the other thinks of them in a deeper way.

I think you made a good gamble telling her. Better to know than to regret. And she may come back around to being comfortable again at some point, especially if you start dating.

Thanks all, but for some reason I don't know why, I feel as if I let her down by loving her, no so much "In Love" but caring too much.

maybe it cause you caught her of guard,maybe she wasnt expecting to her the i love yous so soon in three months,i dont know i could be wrong

I feel the line has been crossed. It's a tough situation that you got yourself into. But it is no ones fault that it turned out like this. There was a risky gamble involved and it backfired. $hit happens. I would apologize for making her feel uncomfortable and make a deal with her to remain friends and only friends unless she wants more in the future.JMHO

lifes a b!tch, huh?

Heads you lose
Tails they win
Story from the dawn of the creation

Yep! Can't add anything more to that! Sorry, Grif...

Thanks, seems like everything works on a "you gotta Pretend" basis anymore. Honesty will only hurt.

I hate that!!!!

and then we die

no, lifes a b!tch, then you marry one, THEN you die

You don't have to pretend and honesty doesn't always hurt, if it did, how do you explain other people who get married because one or both persons said "i love you?" In this instance, it just didn't work with you and her. There's nothing wrong with the fact that you told her you loved her. She just doesn't feel the same way. Imagine it turned around and she told you she loved you and you didn't love her back. Would that make you a jerk? No. Should she be bitter and possibly angry because she put herself out there and got rejected? Of course not.

Neither one of you is right or wrong in this situation. She's probably been in this situation before and found it was hard to maintain a friendship after one person declared feelings and they weren't returned. Would you rather she stayed friends with you and then got a boyfriend or even gotten married to someone whom she did love, and there you are hurting and feeling neglected and being jealous? No, that would suck. You took a chance, your feelings weren't returned, and she decided it was best to not be friends anymore, to avoid awkwardness. That makes sense to me, if you think about it, it might to you, too.

It happens; it's happened to me and I'm sure at least one more person on this thread can honestly say it's happened to them. You shouldn't be bitter or embarrassed or regret what you did, you took a chance. Life is about chances, and you don't win every time.

This is probably true, but it's the hole left in my life thats sucking right now... just wish I had not said anything quite yet, maybe she would have seen things different later.

honesty comes with consequences. if you can handle those consequences then you can handle being honest.

if not...

feel free to live in that pretty little dream world we like to call the little white lie.

Yeppiers my best friend is a guy as well and well now we have been friends for 23 years though and it would really make it suck to know he felt more then the friendship we have. It would only complicate things for I enjoy his friendship and there is nothing romantically there for me with him at all.

All I can say is good luck for even if my friend told me that I would not break off the friendship that we have but instead make him understand I don't feel the same way about him.

hmmmmmm maybe you can call her???? LOL just kidding

Woulda coulda shoulda. We can second guess ourselves forever and still never figure things out. You never know how something is going to play out til it plays out. I had a guy on here write me and he eventually told me he was afraid to approach me for a long time, 'cause he didn't know how I'd respond. He found out after he approached me, so now we both know. Unless you're psychic, you have no way of knowing how someone will react beforehand.

I really do speak from personal experience on this, so I know how you feel, and I'm not just talking out of my a$$. Sure, there's a possibility she might have seen things differently over time, then again, she might have never seen them your way. Like with me, there are men that I could be friends with and he'd never have a chance with me for anything more, no matter what he did or what he hoped for. So whether he declared his feelings for me early or later, the result would still be the same for him. I think it's best to get it out of the way sooner than later. The hole in your life will go away in time, all mine are fully healed.