Ok, there are a couple of things guys just don't do, but complain of not having a date and neither hooking up. If you are seriously want to date or have a girlfriend or whatever there are things you aren't doing right, either becauase you don't know or deep down, you refuse to do so. So, what's the thing you think you are doing wrong?

Here is me:

1. I just won't talk to enough people. (I think) I'm kinda sheltered away after my last relationship, I keep my "shield" up and anyone trying to gain access I reject. It's not because there is something wrong with them, it's because I just don't want to get entangled or least, I'm afraid I'm gonna get entangled in a relationship, because , I admit, I'm scared of being in a relationship. Too much failure I guess, not enough success made me become the way I am.
Unfortunately, words spread fast and they get the wrong impression of me. Some might thin I'm gay, others think that I got problems with either related to ethnicity or ways of thinking or some hard-core picky bastard.

I dont care any more

I understand your feeling of shutting yourself away due to a past relationship. My question is where do you meet honest, decent people???

I've pretty much given up at this point. If something happens to fall in my lap, then fine... but I'm not gonna go out and specifically search for a date.

I just pretty much hang around the forums now.

They are present everywhere. You just got to have the skill to filter them out. If you don't have the experience to do it, you can easily get hurt.

OH Yeah!! Been there more times than I care to count!! Walmart just isn't working for me!

Gee, I can't imagine why ...

Hmmm...33, single, decent looking..why don't you come over here to WA state where I am? lol

He wouldn't like it.

Getting locked out of the house.

getting the silent treatment for the nxt 73 billion years...

they're pretty good deterrants from going on a date....

Well, I know MY problem is that I live in a town of 6000 people, 85% hispanic, and 85% of THAT percentage illegal, and there's only a super WalMart in my town...not even a decent RESTAURANT to meet a waiter or something! :) I just don't leave this town, b/c my job is here...so I'm waiting for SOME miracle to happen :)

Try Kmart the people there are not so, hhhmmmm stuck up like at WalMart. At least you will not have to dress up to go to Kmart.
Not like Walmart golly gee !!!!

Some of the Wal-Mart I have been to are ghetto as H***.

Sometimes I think I'm a bit too picky about who I'll go out with.

The reason I have not gone on a date yet, because I am afraid of getting hurt. I am starting to get to a point I don't give a d**n anymore. At least now my life is drama free.

You know what I am the same way. I have not met anyone up here or anywhere else that I would love to date. Well, I did met one guy from another, but he is too slow for me and besides he is too busy trying to get me to spend the weekend with him or him with me. We really have not gotten to know each other and I told him no.

1.) I live in a place where I don't know anybody, the people here aren't particularly friendly, and because I'm recuperating from injuries suffered in a car accident, it's difficult for me to get around or go anywhere.

2.) The only way I've ever met people in the past is through friends. All fo my formerly-single friends are now married with 2.5 kids, and all of THEIR formerly-single friends are also married with 2.5 kids. The well has dried up, so to speak.

3.) I don't drink, and I don't go to bars. I have no interest in dating anyone who does. I've lost WAY too many people I loved to that stuff already.

4.) The kind of person I would be interested in does not appear to use dating sites; at least, none of the sites I've tried thus far.

5.) Anyone I find on line who appears to be the least bit interesting or the least bit compatible is inevitably 897,000 miles away.

So, my problem is partly geographical and partly opportunistical.

I have... horrible... foot odor.

Just kidding

Lets see...
I didn't start to date until september of 2008. I had what you might call a hobby. I've been racing cars since I was 8 years old. Cars/racing has consumed my time for as long as I can remember. I decided last fall that I would put that stuff on hold so that I could experience my teenage years (even if it might be 5 years too late). So far I've found that cars are better than people.

I think due to other childhood experiences, I refuse to trust people of my own age group until trustworthyness is proven. It doesn't take much to earn my trust, but I'm not likely to initiate. The kids I grew up with were proper c*nts, so I gave the big 'F*CK YOU' and decided to withdraw from socializing with them. As it goes, I really don't fit in with the people in my generation. I think people see me as very emotionally shut off, quiet, and withdrawn. To some extent they're right, but once the barrier of trust is broken, I am one of the best friends a person can have.

The most current situation is that I am just getting back to work after being laid off for 6 months. The financial situation is a little thin, so I cannot get out into the world. I think it's been said, "money isn't everything, but not having it is." I know that there are a number of places that are free, but it costs $10 in gas just to drive downtown. Ahh. In just a few weeks, I'll be able to chill at the beach/boardwalk. But until then I just have to sit tight and conserve energy.