because they always refuse to pay, and thats a deal breaker

cuz i only date dime piece stippers

Ditto.

And Dragoness? It's funny what we learn about ourselves when we have the freedom to ask and read the opinions and personal thoughts of others, isn't it? That's what Mingle has done for me. Not given me The One, but helped prepare me for him, which is so much more important for the long run.

I think I've always let my personal circumstances hold me back in one way or another. In the begining I had pretty stupid reasons, but these days its the economy that really hammers at my confidence.

I joined this site primarily because I'm hoping my persistance will pay off at any time. I just want to keep my mind open in the meantime.

Ummm,,,,,

Nobody has asked me out yet? lol.
Guess I am just not desirable enough.
Must have me mums thighs or something, dunno.

I have contacted enough women now, they can contact me if they are intrested.

Being asked? LOL

No seriously, I have been told I am unapproachable. (if that is a word)

I haven't met anyone around here these days that I'd want to date. And anyone I might be interested in going on a date with does not live close by.

Guess it would help to have those that live closer to ask seems like the ones I end up talking to live a million miles away. Hummmmmm maybe that is a sign that I'm really not looking guess truth is I like my little world I have created.....

I can relate to what you wrote. I've been on a few dates since joining this site, and find myself wondering... is this it? I knew dating wouldn't be easy, but sometimes it takes a long time to get over a relationship, especially a long one, a marriage, etc... I'm ok with the baggage I have right now. I have learned that these online sites are really hit or miss. So far, I've missed. LOL

The 3 dates I've had have all led up to the guys wanting sex right away. I'm old fashioned, or my moral compass is directionally challenged, and that's just fine with me. One guy told me I'd been out of the loop for too long. He said most dates usually do end up in a grope-fest or in bed. I'm not THAT old, and not that stupid either. I'll wait to find a decent guy who isn't just out there to get laid.

It's ok to go slowly, dragon. It's what you need and require. I know ladies like us have a lot to give a man. But coming out of a long term relationship is difficult. Maybe not so much for the guys?

Join the club....lol



It's those guys who are usually the ones complaining that they can't find a decent woman.

Of course, they are also the ones that have dealt the cards that the really decent ( I am not going to use the word nice here ) guys have to play.



For some guys, it is very difficult.

But they aren't allowed to talk about it because then they get told they are whining and to just suck it up.

I don't know

It came to me when I wasn't looking
Or making any effort at all

He came. From heaven......

(I know it's corny. But true!)

What if she's interested, but far too shy?

yep

i stutter even though its not that bad...women find it to be a problem though..

im jobless right now and its pissing me off because i need money..

and gay guys find me attractive more than women do..which in fact its pissing me off more than anything......i hate it.....

im just too shy...

Then she will either have to get over her shyness or remain a missed connection. This seems harsh and I apologise for that. I assure you it wasn't meant to be.

I just simply feel I have alot to offer a woman and refuse to compete. I have spent alot of time finding myself and deciding on exactly what it is I want and need. I also put alot into analysing my past failed relationships and takking responsibility for my share of the faults in their failures.

All this was no easy task by any means. To face ones' faults and take steps to correct them is very difficult. It is often to easy to blame the other person for things you are the cause of. Even harder to contact them and apologise. Closure is a wonderful thing.

The ones I have contacted are the ones I feel are full of potential for a LTR. I'm not mentioning names because that's not my style. But, I tell you this, I am ready, willing and able to make that step. I made the first move, it is now up to them to do something with it. Life is short. Get on with living and loving or let it pass you by is what my grandparents told me. They were teenage sweetharts and stayed together the rest of their lives. They are also the ones that did alot of my upbringing.


cheers

That is it EXACTLY!!!!

because i live a gazillion miles away from everyone....

yep, me too

No you aren't

sheesh, give me a break. You guys act like it would kill you to do a little traveling to meet or be with someone.

I flew to Melbourne Australia on numerous occassions to be with my girlfriend at the time. I know someone is going to ask what happened so here it is. I couldn't move there because I had custody of my daughter at the time and couldn't move my child out of state without her moms permission whom naturally wouldn't give it and the reverse was the same for my g/f at the time with her child. Circumstances killed that.

If I can travel that distance surely you guys can travel a few hundred miles.

J.M.O. of course.