Honestly here???

I am in love with someone that doesn't love me. I have to get over this first

I've gone out casually with a few men from here, but a lot of the men I like live further away (story of most of us on here, from what I gather!)

As I've said on this thread before, I've pretty much given up on dating. I'm just not going to let myself be jerked-around anymore.

Getting asked out doesn't seem to be a problem. Apparently the problem arises when it's actually time to go ON the date. I get no shows.

At this point, I think I'd prefer not to be asked out at all instead of "something coming up" the day before or even the day of.

I agree with this 100%

it feels like i am

Well, I'll tell you one thing that happened recently that has yet again hindered me from having a date. A girl from this site (who is no longer here) allowed me to call her, which is nice that she felt comfortable with me. When I called her she sounded like she was happy to hear from me, yet shy and unsure what to say. After she told me that she would be quite busy with work and helping her parents move into a new house, I understood and asked her when would be best for us to talk again? She said she was unsure, so I let her do her thing for about 2 weeks. In that time, I thought about her and how she may have been doing. I waited the 2 weeks and called her back. Yet again, she said she was sooo busy and didn't know when we could talk and/or hang out. And she had even told me that she thought I had given up on her. Nope, I didn't...because I was genuinely interested in her. And she even said it was cool to have a friendship and see where it goes. She agreed to that.

Long story short...I call her back last night to see how she was doing since she had gotten tonsilitis (gross). At first I think I surprised her that I called...then she said (I'll paraphrase here), "I'll be completely honest with you...if you think that a relationship can come out of this, I'm not really interested. I'm actually still in love with my ex-boyfriend, whom I've been dating."

Boy, did I want to call her all sorts of bad things...but I told her that I will lose her number and go my separate way...to which she sounded rather surprised again and we said goodbye.

Wouldn't it have been great if she had told me upfront about her dating her ex so that I would not have wasted my time and energy on the parasite that she is?

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you! You seem like a really great person, Clay. That stinks.

Thank you many times, Christina. Well the fact remains that I am a good man and would have been good to her. But she lost out more than she could ever imagine.

Thanks for being such a sweetheart.

You deserve someone really special.

Aww, that is extremely sweet of you to say that. I can't tell you how good that makes me feel

Why can't you live closer to me, Clay? You'd be a great friend, really.

I wish I lived closer to the people that I befriend on the net. It sucks espcially not living closer to women that I am comfortable with. All of them seem to be soooo far away from me

Thank you, sweetie. I know you would be so much fun to hang with :)

I moved to West Virginia. Case closed.

Well, I used to talk to a guy who was no longer interested in me because he decided to start dating a girl who had a long-term boyfriend. Yeah, I know.

Calleigh, he makes even less sense than the girl who brushed me off. That sucks.

See, don't you feel better now???

what advice would you give to a guy who stutters but isn't that bad...but.women seem to find a problem with it?

You know that song "Scatman" ? Scatman John had a HUGE stuttering problem before he started singing scat music. It totally cured him of his problem.

Yes, thank you for the feedback.