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Topic: I am not the type
STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Fri 05/08/09 08:30 PM
Life is what you make of it. If you think you are always gonna lose, and you have that mindset that you are always at the wrong place at the wrong time, well thats what probably is going to be the case. If you break that cycle, and take life with a grain of salt, with a "sh!t happens" and "dust yourself off and try again" attitude, well things will feel alot better. But do we ever get ahead with this attitude? I am trying to make it better, one way or the other. I don't want to act like I don't give a sh**. I have done that many time. Sometimes you can overthink things Tami ! You cannot always avoid the negatives it's what you choose to do with them that matters .

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Fri 05/08/09 08:37 PM Edited by trsmith22 on Fri 05/08/09 08:38 PM
Life is what you make of it. If you think you are always gonna lose, and you have that mindset that you are always at the wrong place at the wrong time, well thats what probably is going to be the case. If you break that cycle, and take life with a grain of salt, with a "sh!t happens" and "dust yourself off and try again" attitude, well things will feel alot better. But do we ever get ahead with this attitude? I am trying to make it better, one way or the other. I don't want to act like I don't give a sh**. I have done that many time. Sometimes you can overthink things Tami ! You cannot always avoid the negatives it's what you choose to do with them that matters . Thanks Star. That makes a lot of sense.

Savitar Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 1011	Fri 05/08/09 08:40 PM
to say all so this is the best it gets. Why do we see things so negative, when it really is positive? As a very wise man once said , only with an open heart can we truely see , for that which is essential is beyond human sight .

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Fri 05/08/09 08:40 PM
Life is what you make of it. If you think you are always gonna lose, and you have that mindset that you are always at the wrong place at the wrong time, well thats what probably is going to be the case. If you break that cycle, and take life with a grain of salt, with a "sh!t happens" and "dust yourself off and try again" attitude, well things will feel alot better. But do we ever get ahead with this attitude? I am trying to make it better, one way or the other. I don't want to act like I don't give a sh**. I have done that many time. Sometimes you can overthink things Tami ! You cannot always avoid the negatives it's what you choose to do with them that matters . Thanks Star. That makes a lot of sense. Y/W Just something I had to learn the hard way !

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Fri 05/08/09 08:43 PM
Life is what you make of it. If you think you are always gonna lose, and you have that mindset that you are always at the wrong place at the wrong time, well thats what probably is going to be the case. If you break that cycle, and take life with a grain of salt, with a "sh!t happens" and "dust yourself off and try again" attitude, well things will feel alot better. But do we ever get ahead with this attitude? I am trying to make it better, one way or the other. I don't want to act like I don't give a sh**. I have done that many time. Sometimes you can overthink things Tami ! You cannot always avoid the negatives it's what you choose to do with them that matters . Thanks Star. That makes a lot of sense. Y/W Just something I had to learn the hard way ! I have worked on many aspects of life to make things more positive, but this is one I somehow lost sight of. Thanks, I will take it with me.

LouLou2 Joined Sun 04/13/08 Posts: 1685	Fri 05/08/09 08:45 PM
Lived for many years surrounded by negativity. It very nearly consumed me. Constant negativity wears a person down...sucks the strength/life out of a person. My life revolves around positive, upbeat people now...the difference for me and how I feel is astounding. At the risk of seeing things only through those 'rose-colored' glasses we are warned about...I'm going toward positive from now on.

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Fri 05/08/09 08:45 PM
Life is what you make of it. If you think you are always gonna lose, and you have that mindset that you are always at the wrong place at the wrong time, well thats what probably is going to be the case. If you break that cycle, and take life with a grain of salt, with a "sh!t happens" and "dust yourself off and try again" attitude, well things will feel alot better. But do we ever get ahead with this attitude? I am trying to make it better, one way or the other. I don't want to act like I don't give a sh**. I have done that many time. Sometimes you can overthink things Tami ! You cannot always avoid the negatives it's what you choose to do with them that matters . Thanks Star. That makes a lot of sense. Y/W Just something I had to learn the hard way ! I have worked on many aspects of life to make things more positive, but this is one I somehow lost sight of. Thanks, I will take it with me. It seems to be something that has to be faced all the time you can either make hay or vinegar by your choice

tombraider Joined Wed 09/12/07 Posts: 5042	Fri 05/08/09 08:46 PM
..because we are too quick to take the good things for granted,we let the negative ones linger,because we want our lives to be all good and when its not it throws off the balance of our expectations.. jmo

Savitar Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 1011	Fri 05/08/09 09:22 PM
think on it TR and it i will ,

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Fri 05/08/09 10:53 PM
I ride around in a rainbow bubble, so apparently I am unqualified to comment on negativity except to say "WHAT???"

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Sat 05/09/09 12:31 AM
to say all so this is the best it gets. Why do we see things so negative, when it really is positive? Like how I worked 108+ hours, only grossed a little over 1100 but only got to take home about 938 after taxes? Or, how I had to decline health insurance, and all other benefits because I cant afford to pay for it, and I'm still waiting for a decent paycheck? 108+ hours to gross 1100 bucks??? WTF do you do for cryin out loud??? Panhandle???

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 05/09/09 12:47 AM
think on it TR and it i will , Thanks Sav, I will

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 05/09/09 11:36 AM
to say all so this is the best it gets. Why do we see things so negative, when it really is positive? Like how I worked 108+ hours, only grossed a little over 1100 but only got to take home about 938 after taxes? Or, how I had to decline health insurance, and all other benefits because I cant afford to pay for it, and I'm still waiting for a decent paycheck? 108+ hours to gross 1100 bucks??? WTF do you do for cryin out loud??? Panhandle??? Exactly... I'm just living the American dream baby!

Meg8771 Joined Fri 01/16/09 Posts: 5662	Sat 05/09/09 11:41 AM
I used to live by the philosophy "Expect the worst, but hope for the best". Then, I realized I was better than that. Now, I simply expect the best. My life is so much better. I see the positives in everything, and I mean everything. Sometimes it takes a little longer to find it, but there is GOODNESS in everything. Makes a world of difference in my life.

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Sat 05/09/09 11:43 AM
I used to live by the philosophy "Expect the worst, but hope for the best". Then, I realized I was better than that. Now, I simply expect the best. My life is so much better. I see the positives in everything, and I mean everything. Sometimes it takes a little longer to find it, but there is GOODNESS in everything. Makes a world of difference in my life. I did too. I just graduated with my MSW today and it could not have happened if I had not changed my thinking.

Loyaldad08 Joined Sun 01/11/09 Posts: 1131	Sat 05/09/09 07:16 PM
It's easier to see the problems than the opportunities. After going through a lot of years bitc*ing, I realized how stupid I was behaving. Now I see the green rose bud instead of the already-developed thorn.

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Sun 05/10/09 12:13 PM
It's easier to see the problems than the opportunities. After going through a lot of years bitc*ing, I realized how stupid I was behaving. Now I see the green rose bud instead of the already-developed thorn. Great response...now try seeing the bloom before it actually opens up