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Topic: Watching someone in pain
DeathsTreaty Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 14622	Fri 05/01/09 04:46 PM
Do you simply Watch and nothing more? Or do you think about it for a second and decide to walk away before it gets worse?

ljcc1964 Joined Fri 10/19/07 Posts: 8298	Fri 05/01/09 04:48 PM
Do you simply Watch and nothing more? Or do you think about it for a second and decide to walk away before it gets worse? These are my two choices?

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Fri 05/01/09 04:48 PM
IT IS TIME FOR A SACRIFICE

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Fri 05/01/09 04:49 PM
As a mental health counselor i have seen a heck of a lot of emotional pain and I have learned that you can not save everyone. When I would teach at welfare to work programs, etc. I always made an announcement that I am not there to give them therapy (something I have to remind many of the women I have dated).

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Fri 05/01/09 04:49 PM
hey DT!! and no, i actually stayed by the side of a dear friend who passed away, it was not easy. but, leaving would have been even harder.

DeathsTreaty Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 14622	Fri 05/01/09 04:50 PM
If thats what you choose, yes There usually isnt just 2 answers/options to any one problem/situation

DeathsTreaty Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 14622	Fri 05/01/09 04:52 PM
Hello Everyone Sry to hear Tender Bastet Thats never an easy thing... that is true, not everyone can be saved

Italy0219 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 2523	Fri 05/01/09 04:53 PM
Do you simply Watch and nothing more? Or do you think about it for a second and decide to walk away before it gets worse? It depends on the situation, what type of pain, if I can lend a helping word, sometimes I do, but sometimes you have to let people feel the pain, it's just something they gotta do, I just let them know it happens to us all...this is the mental pain, then there's physical pain, there too, sometimes you can help, sometimes you just can't

DeathsTreaty Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 14622	Fri 05/01/09 04:56 PM
There isnt a day that goes by that I do not see a face with pain They hide it But I can still see it I feel it They hurt inside Its almost unbearable We dont share the pain, but I still feel it I can only watch them I can only deal with my own pains But is that really the only option I have? Can they be helped? These questions remain still Even as I watch them exit through doors that I can not see through

Italy0219 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 2523	Fri 05/01/09 05:01 PM
There isnt a day that goes by that I do not see a face with pain They hide it But I can still see it I feel it They hurt inside Its almost unbearable We dont share the pain, but I still feel it I can only watch them I can only deal with my own pains But is that really the only option I have? Can they be helped? These questions remain still Even as I watch them exit through doors that I can not see through You know the old saying, "Most men lead lives of quiet desperation" that is so true..

DeathsTreaty Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 14622	Fri 05/01/09 05:04 PM
sadly...yes

Tazz42 Joined Fri 02/29/08 Posts: 9660	Fri 05/01/09 05:11 PM Edited by Tazz42 on Fri 05/01/09 05:12 PM
There isnt a day that goes by that I do not see a face with pain They hide it But I can still see it I feel it They hurt inside Its almost unbearable We dont share the pain, but I still feel it I can only watch them I can only deal with my own pains But is that really the only option I have? Can they be helped? These questions remain still Even as I watch them exit through doors that I can not see through No, I did not walk away, I stayed. (Just recently had a different experience, how do you walk away from a river bank that your friend disappeared into?) Just a question.....no need to answer....

Loyaldad08 Joined Sun 01/11/09 Posts: 1131	Fri 05/01/09 07:57 PM
Stay, because you matter very much at that moment

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Fri 05/01/09 08:03 PM
Instinct says "stay" but sometimes you just make it worse... Walking away hurts but sometimes is the right thing to do.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sat 05/02/09 04:49 AM
I cant fo anything other than try to ease their discomfort, medically, or just in comfort... having assisted in delivering a couple of babies, been first on the scene at road accidents, nursed my mother through terminal cancer.... you just do what you can to at least know someone cares for them.... you NEVER walk away.

Pink_lady Joined Sun 08/24/08 Posts: 2507	Sat 05/02/09 06:18 AM
you just do what you can to at least know someone cares for them.... you NEVER walk away. Exactly... Who WOULD walk away from someone in pain...? thats like saying ur putting urself before them.

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Sat 05/02/09 05:41 PM
Who WOULD walk away from someone in pain...? thats like saying ur putting urself before them. I guess it depends on the type of pain...physical or emotional. I think that opens up a lot of grey area.

Savitar Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 1011	Sat 05/02/09 05:43 PM
Griend of mine accidently shot himself ain the leg , I stopped at Whataburger on the way taking him to the hospital , does that count ?

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21824	Sat 05/02/09 05:44 PM
ease their pain. if you can't do that get out of the way and make room for somebody who can.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sat 05/02/09 05:45 PM
Who WOULD walk away from someone in pain...? thats like saying ur putting urself before them. I guess it depends on the type of pain...physical or emotional. I think that opens up a lot of grey area. For me, they are the same.... physical or emotional....I can't walk away from anyone in pain.