I have a brick wall waiting to be bulldozed, but it's reineforced with rebar, so, IDK. Also, if you get past the brick wall there's the attack dogs, barbwire, mine field, etc.

Yup. I've put up a fairly serious wall around myself a long time ago. It came about due in large part to failed relationships and conflicts of various sort.

the real question is: Is your brick wall helping you or hurting you? We all need defenses to a certain degree but when they become so impenetrable that nothing can get through we become our own worst enemy.

You sure got that right....

I'd still rather be alone than with a wrong someone who is only hanging out until their perfect someone comes along. People are so fickle and one needs one's boundaries.

-Kerry O.

I agree. Although that has nothing to do with what I wrote.

I agree

I guess it depends on one's perspective. We're taught that the end all and be all for everyone is to have intimate relationships with the opposite sex that are supposed to last until Death Do Us Part. For some people it only takes a faithless other to make one jump of the cliff, and in so doing, discover that to fly solo like an eagle isn't all that bad.

Would that be like a different sort of wall from the perspective of someone else? That once you taste that sort of freedom, nothing else ever do again?

-Kerry O.

it's coming down, okay?!?

Free Mason here, good at finding and making holes in walls. Doors too.

I haven't built a brick wall. I've just eliminated the one I've been hitting my head on for years. Well, almost eliminated it

Such wisdom in a post. It is so true.

I got to tip my hat to the man who brings the big guns to the construction site!!!!!!

Maybe just around my heart and when someone takes even the littlest chink out of it, it's scary as he**!

I've never really had to build one -- everyone else has done it for me....

Awwww, Lex...

It's OK -- I mean, it's unfortunate, on one level, but I understand that people have issues with "creative" types, or whatever -- I don't build walls, because I like the idea of remaining "open," in the sense of accessible, available -- but the other people have built their own, so high, so thick, that they can't even tell what's out there anymore. Isolationism as a two-way street; but they can only see one side of it.

Point taken. And most of us who are single (and meeting people online???) are at least a little bit planted in that one-way, I suppose. Hadn't ever thought of it that way, but it's worth some reflection.

don't we all?