2 years ago I was at an event. I had my harley there. I was giving rides all day long to people. This very heavy woman came up and asked for a ride. I said no because its dangerous to overload the bike I had brought. She called me every name in the book and repeatedly called me "SHALLOW". I said "Fine- let's go for a ride". 6 miles up the road the belt broke on my harley and the rear wheel bearings burned out. I looked at the woman and said "Ok, I let you wreck my motorcycle to prove I'm not shallow. That belts gonna be a hundred dollars and the wheel bearings installed are gonna be another 200 dollars. Are you gonna help me pay for the damages? She said no. I said "Good. You can walk back then. Cuz I'm pushing my bike home. Bye"! That will never happen again. I promise you. You can call me shallow all you want. I don't f*cking care. My bikes. I paid for them. I can do what I want with them. I don't have to put up with that crap. I don't have to prove I'm "A nice guy" nor that I'm not shallow to anyone. I know who I am and what I like and I'm not influenced by bullsh!t political correctness. You can't force me to like something I don't, then tell me I'm shallow. That's stupid.

Perhaps you should make it known up front that you don't expect them to gain weight .

That situation is a bit different, IMO

My weight scale is lying too. It says my bmi is 24. How dare that cheese cake jump right out and attack me.

http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

i think i'd have said it was almost out of gas or something.
that seems a little harsh...but hey ... as long as it doesn't bother you.

i don't think it's shallow at all to have a physical preference for dating.

what i do find insulting, however, is the way in which some people let their preferences be known.

(yours sounded just fine to me by the way)

I used to have on my profile...
"If you weigh as much as I do or more, this ain't going to work"
And I got a few e-mails about that too, from ladies who felt I just shouldn't dismiss them just because of size.
Well..............
Now I am dating a lady who is 'a few extra lbs."

stop whining. im obese..

psh. Your highlights compensate nicely. And your eyes... and your smile. You really need a new mirror.

lol..
they dont make them big enough for my obese body!!!

I understand preference and I undoubtably don't judge others simply because size and weight. But I refuse to be called shallow.

There are many attractive women on this site of all shapes and sizes. And I think the diversity is cool.

It's not shallow to have a preference. I just hope you don't regret your decision. Also, no matter what she said, you did hurt her feelings.

do you really need other people to tell you how you feel?

Well I think it would depend if this 25 pounds is all flab or is it muscle mass.

Yes, it is shallow of you, and I honestly think you could have missed out on something really fantastic. I mean 25 pounds can be excercised off quite easily.
But each to their own.

F**K what these women say if you cant do it then you just cant... you have to have sex in a relationship for it to work... and how can you have sex with someone if your not attraced to them... for all you fat girls there are guys out there WHO LOVE IT... so stop B***HIN

i don't know about anyone else, but i absolutely hate when people refer to overweight women as 'fat girls'

especially when they are nothing to write home about either.

No, that isn’t shallow. You must be physically attracted to someone first and foremost or the relationship is doomed to failure unless of course there is something else you are getting from the interaction which can happen.

i know i love me a FAT GIRL

Thank you!