Never forget to say I love you to your special other, family or friends before it's to late.

I love you Sylvie sorry I didn't say it enough before it was to late.

Sharing love is important, but often times it's scary.

Because there are few things in this life worse than unrequited love.

I LOVE YOU to my 3 kids my mom and my family...but heck I tell em all the time...they know they are loved....

Riding_dubz

Excuse my English (French mind here) "before they pass away"

I think this is a misnomer... you don't have to want/expect/have love returned in order to give it. You can and should be able to express genuine love/care for another person without the desire/expectation that they'll return it - for then, aren't you giving it in the hopes of GETTING something in return? That is not why love should be given.

Hence, the premise of UNCONDITIONAL love... given without the expectation of getting anything in return. Express love because you want too, not because you're hoping to get something in return.

IMHO.

I don't disagree with what you said, but maybe I said it the wrong way.

It's hard to give love if you don't know that it will be shared. Love is a two-way street and sometimes the headlights are blinding.

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I always do that!!

I don't care what the popular dribble about "unconditional love" is. EVERY human being that gives love has the right AND the responsibility to see that they recieve love in return for the love they give.

Otherwise you are just makeing a DOORMAT out of yourself. That isn't fair to the people you genuinely love because it makes them an Abuser for which they feel shame and anger.

I have yet to see a normal child that didn't respond to love by giving love. No maybe they don't buy food, clean house, always make good grades but if they are given the right kind of love they thrive and return love by showing gratitude, comfort, and careing.

As parents and society we have to teach them what that looks like and healthy ways to express it otherwise children will naturally return love the only way they know how in a primal demand for love/having all their needs met.

"In return for" to me implies expectations. If I'm giving with the expectation of receiving, I don't call it love. I call it bartering. I wouldn't continue a relationship that was based purely on me giving and them taking however.

Both good points.

Last thing I am in this world is a "doormat" - ask anyone who knows me... *chuckles* However, that doesn't mean that I conduct myself with an expectation of getting something in return. Perhaps I have a broader view of the premise of "love" and don't think of it as something that exclusively comes between people in a relationship [parent/child, man/woman, etc].

Ever gone into a store and been met by a sullen cashier? The sour face, the clipped monotone responses? I have a choice in this exchange - I can let their dour mood effect me, or I can project LOVE and potentially effect THEIR mood, for the good. Most of the time, I am going to do exactly that - I am going to smile, I am going to use a happy/pleasing voice, I am going to use polite words (please, thank you, etc.).. and if all else fails and I've not gotten them to "hear" the LOVE in my exchange with them, before I walk off I say: "Smile, you're loved and it's all good!" Needless to say, that usually gets SOME positive response.

The point here is that giving LOVE in an exchange is done because I have it to give - like that old saying... give away a smile, it costs nothing and makes the world a better place to live.

Anyway, my two cents on this topic. :-)

the only unconditonal love in this world is between a person and their pet dog.



Even a mother can not give unconditional to their child.

I have to say, and I know you mean well and your heart is in the right place. But it is not your duty to cheer up that cashier, who has probably seen 500 customers prior, all trying to do the same thing.
She can only take so many people telling her how to appear so to appease them. Last thing she wants to hear is "Smile, it isn;t so bad" or "smile its catching". I guaranteed she started the day smiling but lost it with people telling her she should smile, because at that moment she wasn't.
By saying "smile etc..." you are infact insulting her, as if saying her face is not pleasing enough for you.
Just smile at her and thank her as you said you do, that is more appreciative than getting instructions on how to appear



i had to return to say.. in any event that is not unconditonal love. You are getting something out of it, and that is.. feeling as if you are a good person. Your reward is viewing yourself as a "do-gooder or a christian or a better being". That is not altruistic therefore it is conditional. (I am not singling you out when I say "you" i mean us, as a people)

THE ABOVE IS JUST MY OPINION DONT ATTACK ME

[smiling warmly] I have no desire to attack you, nor would I. We are all entitled to our own opinion - and I am more than capable of agreeing to disagree.... "it's all good"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QKC235w1BmE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMCQX0lPXu0&feature=related

I LOVE YOU

i love you ridin dubz.

HAHAHAH

Makes sense to me.

Makes sense to me.