I think this is a misnomer... you don't have to want/expect/have love returned in order to give it. You can and should be able to express genuine love/care for another person without the desire/expectation that they'll return it - for then, aren't you giving it in the hopes of GETTING something in return? That is not why love should be given.

Hence, the premise of UNCONDITIONAL love... given without the expectation of getting anything in return. Express love because you want too, not because you're hoping to get something in return.

IMHO.

I have to say, and I know you mean well and your heart is in the right place. But it is not your duty to cheer up that cashier, who has probably seen 500 customers prior, all trying to do the same thing.
She can only take so many people telling her how to appear so to appease them. Last thing she wants to hear is "Smile, it isn;t so bad" or "smile its catching". I guaranteed she started the day smiling but lost it with people telling her she should smile, because at that moment she wasn't.
By saying "smile etc..." you are infact insulting her, as if saying her face is not pleasing enough for you.
Just smile at her and thank her as you said you do, that is more appreciative than getting instructions on how to appear



i had to return to say.. in any event that is not unconditonal love. You are getting something out of it, and that is.. feeling as if you are a good person. Your reward is viewing yourself as a "do-gooder or a christian or a better being". That is not altruistic therefore it is conditional. (I am not singling you out when I say "you" i mean us, as a people)

i love you ridin dubz.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QKC235w1BmE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMCQX0lPXu0&feature=related