Can anyone see a pattern developing here? Girls say it's okay, and defend it doggedly. Guys say no, because they aren't as stupid as women peg us for. Cmon now.

Only if Im allowed to have girls that are just friends. This aint no one-way street babycakes

Did you read my post?

Where is the trust people? just a thought..shouldn't your lover also be your best friend?
Personally I think the real answer lays with the persons involved...male friends is one thing, but best friends? Surely one would have to deliberate whether or not it was risky...say you are with someone, and one of your male friends makes a pass at you(provided everybody knows you're taken)? Do you keep that friend around? They obviously don't respect you enough to respect your commitment in a relationship....

I agree. And I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as she isn't an ex or someone you're interested in. I hold myself to the same standards I hold my bf to.

Thats a good way of looking at it

Trust is the issue here. I believe you must build your trust in the person enough to allow it.

sure

Just my opinion folks but I think not, eventually someone will cross the proverbial line.

probably

Depends on how self confident you are. I got no problem with it. I know who she is sacking out with. Just like I have some truly great female friends that I would never sh*tcan just to appease some self-doubting bird. My friends have been my friends for years. I am supposed to sacrifice the relationships I have built for a woman who doesn't know me that well?....Right.....

I love my woman enough to trust her completely. I give her the same respect that I demand. By no means am I stupid enough to think that my woman should have no contact beyond me...I love and respect an actual woman...not some idealogical nun who has been holed up in a convent!

Well said

Every situation is unique.
I trusted my ex enough to never question her friendship with my ex best friend, now we're divorced.
What lurks in the back of a mans mind, if he admits it or not is different than a womans, it's primal. How good a friend can you be without becoming attracted? If you get along that good wouldn't you be happy together?
There are things a man would say to a female friend that he would not say to a man. Women listen and are understanding. Doing this brings you closer forming a bond. Not good for just friends of the opposite sex.
I'm careful to only share my real feelings with the one I am with and not a good friend.
Being a man, I want to be able to do man sh!t with my best friend, fart, burp, beat the **** outa each other when we drink to much, check out all the hot women around us and comment on them, ect.

Being best friends with the oppisite sex I'll save for my special friend, the love of my life.

I think that is so sad, just because you're of the opposite sex doesn't mean you have to sleep together. Otherwise, you're saying men are no better than animals who end up screwing their mom when they're in heat. There should be boundaries, there should be human decency. There should be more to it than, I'm a woman, you're a man, we get along, so let's go bang. Gross...

I like to think humans are better than that. But whatever....

I think it is fine as long as their is boundaries...i.e there is no need for you to be spending the night at your best friends house when it is just the two you.....not only because of what might/might not happen but because of perception...I have a rule that i try to abide by...if you and your best friend are together alone...would you be comfortable with you significant other walking in and seeing what you were doing? If not than it is probably not appropiate....just my opinion though.

Hmmm....I second this opinion. Having a friend of the opposite sex is like having a little sister or brother. And you wouldnt dare get intimate with them.

...unless your from W. Va.

Hey now, my momma is from W.VA, LOL!

Squeel like a pig boy....lol.

You know im joking.

I don't care...as long as he isn't also trying to take over the world, I can't stand competition.

LOL, yeah i know. :)