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If he's Ugly.... 
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If he's Ugly....
Yeah, I know if it were the other way around, I'd want my guy's best friend to be "Ugly Betty". If she were pretty, I'd probably be secretly planning her assasination. |
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So there doesn't have to be any other requirements to make a guy want to screw a woman who's supposed to be his friend? He has no preference for her age, race, weight, height, nothing at all, as long as she's a female and he's a male, he wants to do her? LOL, yeah, I still don't buy it, or least I don't want to buy it. Sounds pretty pathetic and desperate to me. But whatever....
Here's my thoughts on this debate... I am friends only with people I'm attracted to, not physically, but by qualities. And with some people, that attraction grows or shifts or changes and a physical longing or attraction develops... Makes sense? Eh, I guess. I just know I have guy friends who I'm not attracted to at all, and I know it's mutual. So I can only speak for myself. But you are attracted to qualities they have, right? I mean are you friends with people you do not respect and admire? |
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i wouldnt want my man to have a chic other than me as a best friend.
and i would say my best friend is a man..and hes kinda like my boyfriend. and im quite in love with him. |
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I have a guy best friend...and in the beginning of our friendship, it was hard at times to stop ourselves from crossing the line...during the times we wanted to comfort each other....
Now it's been 20 years and he is like my brother, the thought of anything else is repulsive. |
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So there doesn't have to be any other requirements to make a guy want to screw a woman who's supposed to be his friend? He has no preference for her age, race, weight, height, nothing at all, as long as she's a female and he's a male, he wants to do her? LOL, yeah, I still don't buy it, or least I don't want to buy it. Sounds pretty pathetic and desperate to me. But whatever....
Here's my thoughts on this debate... I am friends only with people I'm attracted to, not physically, but by qualities. And with some people, that attraction grows or shifts or changes and a physical longing or attraction develops... Makes sense? Eh, I guess. I just know I have guy friends who I'm not attracted to at all, and I know it's mutual. So I can only speak for myself. But you are attracted to qualities they have, right? I mean are you friends with people you do not respect and admire? Yeah I like and respect them. But I don't think they're physically attractive and I'm sure they feel the same for me. So I could never sleep with them and vice versa. |
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I have a guy best friend...and in the beginning of our friendship, it was hard at times to stop ourselves from crossing the line...during the times we wanted to comfort each other.... Now it's been 20 years and he is like my brother, the thought of anything else is repulsive. Exactly. I like the idea of having male friends who are like my brother. Thanks for the example. 
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Yeah I like and respect them. But I don't think they're physically attractive and I'm sure they feel the same for me. So I could never sleep with them and vice versa. For some people, there is an overlap..... I think that is what the reference is. I know for me, physical attraction can have little to nothing to do with actual physicality. |
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 I have a guy best friend...and in the beginning of our friendship, it was hard at times to stop ourselves from crossing the line...during the times we wanted to comfort each other.... Now it's been 20 years and he is like my brother, the thought of anything else is repulsive. Exactly. I like the idea of having male friends who are like my brother. Thanks for the example.
You're welcome.
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I dont think anything is wrong with it as long as its plutonic............I have at least 4 guy friends and my man has no problem with me talking to them................
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I dont think anything is wrong with it as long as its plutonic............I have at least 4 guy friends and my man has no problem with me talking to them................ Well, I don't think having guy friends and having a guy BEST Friend is the same. I have lot's of guy friends too but the level of intimacy that you have with a guy BEST friend is different and can be dangerous if you don't know how to separate. |
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I dont think anything is wrong with it as long as its plutonic............I have at least 4 guy friends and my man has no problem with me talking to them................ Well, I don't think having guy friends and having a guy BEST Friend is the same. I have lot's of guy friends too but the level of intimacy that you have with a guy BEST friend is different and can be dangerous if you don't know how to separate. Your right because there is always that chemistry that is why its a close friendship..........I do have 2 guy best friends and they are strickly that.........they did when they met me try to get in my pants but after they got to know me they realize its just that a friendship......... |
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why feel threatened
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No way. If this is a woman you think you may have long term potential with, who will she turn to for support? How do you know she is telling him things she won't share with you? Is she more comfortable with you or him when she is most vulnerable? Just a few thoughts...
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Every situation is unique.I trusted my ex enough to never question her friendship with my ex best friend, now we're divorced.What lurks in the back of a mans mind, if he admits it or not is different than a womans, it's primal. How good a friend can you be without becoming attracted? If you get along that good wouldn't you be happy together? There are things a man would say to a female friend that he would not say to a man. Women listen and are understanding. Doing this brings you closer forming a bond. Not good for just friends of the opposite sex.I'm careful to only share my real feelings with the one I am with and not a good friend.Being a man, I want to be able to do man sh!t with my best friend, fart, burp, beat the **** outa each other when we drink to much, check out all the hot women around us and comment on them, ect.Being best friends with the oppisite sex I'll save for my special friend, the love of my life. I think that is so sad, just because you're of the opposite sex doesn't mean you have to sleep together. Otherwise, you're saying men are no better than animals who end up screwing their mom when they're in heat. There should be boundaries, there should be human decency. There should be more to it than, I'm a woman, you're a man, we get along, so let's go bang. Gross...I like to think humans are better than that. But whatever.... |
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 Is it okay for your girlfriend to have a guy bestfriend?
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speaking from experience, I'd say no...that wouldn't work for me... If she has another dude as a best friend (bester than me) then let them plan a happy life together without me...That may sound old fashioned to some but it's how I roll...
ps, I realize there's no such word as "bester" |
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99% of my friends are male. If my boyfriend ever had a problem with it than they're clearly not the one for me.
Luckily, I've never had that problem. |
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This is why trust is so important in a relationship
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This is why trust is so important in a relationship |
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