agreed!

4 or 5 miles? That makes a lot of jobs a LDR, lol.

When I was 16 I hitchiked from Houston, Texas to Washington, DC and back 4 times. Just to see a girl!!

In the 80's I flew to San Fransisco 5 times in 1 year from Louisiana just to see a girl.

All my life I've driven 2 or 3 hundred miles to see girls from time to time. So why change now???

I'm really not putting any effort into it anymore....!

i did 4 years of long distance

phuck it.

im goin local.

No. Certainly not for only a week? Why are you rushing it?

^I agree the original post stipulating that you have only been communicating for a week is asking a bit much to travel any significant distance to meet. I would have to know someone pretty well in order to consider flying anywhere to see them, or for them to see me. I don't even think I would be comfortable meeting someone local after only a week.

No, but I wouldn't date a guy even down the block

I absolutely agree with you too!!!!

I agree. There are safety concerns there. A week is too soon young lady! At the risk of sounding like a mom. He should come see you. Its recommended that the man come to where the woman is first and thats simply for precautionary reasons. You should not go wandering off someplace across the country to go see some guy you have been talking with online for a week.

Every individual situation is different; it's difficult to use a blanket policy about what you would or wouldn't do.

depends if you really like them, can afford the travel, and both parties fully understand that it is just a meet, a simple date, with out any strings or implied commitment. It can work, it's not for everyone. and remember, all success is preceded by lots of failure

I was a truck driver for several years and got to meet several nice ladies. For me I technically drove across country to meet someone I was interested in.

The twist was that I emailed with a lovely lady here in Arkansas. I lived on the east side of the state and she lived on the west. The emails began to get deeper in subject and I got a route going past her home so we met.

We were comfortable with each other and ended up spending most of the night together. She went home to change before work and I went to sleep. She woke me up not long after both for a kiss (I like to think) and to bring my wallet I had left on her dash.

I went on my route and got back that evening and there was a message for me at the truck stop. She had drifted across the center line on her way to work and crashed head on into another car crushing her chest and hopefully she died instantly.

Talk about devastating. I've been leary of asking a girl to travel to meet me since then. You never ever know exactly what will happen.

Joliet!

I'm talking to someone from Colorado.
It's very new but I have thought about how it would work if we were to meet.
I have family in Colorado.
I would prefer to go there and see him in his element rather than have him visit me here.
My reasoning is that if he visits me here he will know where I live/work.

Well I cant speak for everyone thats true. But that certainly is MY personal blanket policy. Too many women have gone missing. I wont put myself in a vulnerable position by going to them first.

Good point, 907.

krimsa

Read the OP again. I am the one that is freak out by it. Two guys want to meet me now after only one week. They both live over 1000 miles away (Pete0909 is not one of them....just wanted to clear that up because some see us flirting in another thread and he lives in Japan).

wow, that's some heavy stuff there, I feel for you dude, Don't want to sound stereo typical but, it wasn't your fault so don't let it eat at you, you'll end up with nothing of "you" left. That was a cruel slice of life, heres hoping your next piece is better

That's certainly not a bad policy, Krimsa. I just try to approach every situation individually.