I think my bfriend is too enamored of me. He may've gone blind. It may not work out though we are amiable and i semi-respect his manhood. Goodness oozes from every pore and angle of our relationship ..

I need to be disciplined, spanked, kindly told all the things i'm doing wrong right down to the way my heels hit the ground, the way i breathe or my inflection. I would also appreciate greatly if he more sternly regulated my meals.

Instead he is kind and forgiving, supportive and available and doing too much waiting.. waiting around to see what I am doing, what I am saying, how I am responding.

I need unpredictability, yearning, ego, disapproval, and when he gives way I must tremble in relief and fear of unknowing and then, only then will I be able to appreciate some kind of assurance.

Now, I can't really teach him those things, can I. It's going to take an authentic partial sadist egomaniac with a firm place in the world.

So, how to break up with a guy's been on your side, thinks he's doing everything RIGHT.

Wtf

You got some serious issues going on!

find one like dad

You don't respect him, you think he is too nice. If you aren't clear about communicating and your expectations, how can he fulfill them? You want to just hang on until you don't want to have sex anymore?

If you love him, or want to again, tell him you need him to be more assertive.

You read the Story of O, darling? If so, give him a copy. If not, read it and decide if he is bright enough to pick up what it actually means.

WTH was just said?????????

I know, I dont expect everyone to jive with that. It's cool.

dam some women do like men to be assholes

Try reading between the lines here, folks. She is trying to be as honest as she can. It's not so hard. Her feelings are clear.

She has expectations and he's being, simply put, a wussy.

Well, it seems I can only be me. I've tried faking it. Doesn't work out for anyone.

I don't speak that name.

oh a nice guy now i see

I was thinking the very same thing!!

Thank you Lilith for the good advice. I never could figure which book does a man of a certain, i don't know, stature? need.

Everybody listen to lilith! lol

It is simply honesty, we're not all cut from the same mold.

Well, it's an art to be the right kind of *sshol*

It must suck not to have a positive influence in your life, called , DAD

riding_dubz, I'll see you after class.

It's been a process figuring that one out.

The Story of O, by Pauline Reage (not real name I don't think), is a classic. Originally in french, it was translated in the early 60's (I think). It is about supplication and subjugation, written in literal, sexually graphic and S&M terms. However.... the real meaning of the book, IMO, is the willingness to love, the wanting to love, a strong lovingly control man who is sexually passionaet and devoted. It is literature, to me.

I will admit you have to read it more than once to get past the sex, which is hardcore graphic.... but once you get the message, it is heartwrenching. Literature, true literature.

It's also not long, a three to four hour read.