I have never understood the "rate my profile" deal. I mean, why would you put yourself in that situation? One person could think you are hot, where the next person below them, could consider you ugly. One person could think your "about me" part was fantastic, and the next person could think it was too long, too short, not enough substance, etc. I just think it leaves the person wide open to criticism, so why would you want to open yourself up to that?

i always thought it would be nice to have a general thoughts section on how to write a good profile. seriously, some people really do/want help with attracting people to date and befriend, and some of us do need it.

mostly i look at the 'rate my profile' threads as cries for attention from people who only really want other people to tell them how attractive they are.

Yep. Paper nailed it...It is basically an implement to gain attention...but, you open yourself up to the axiom of "One man's trash is another mans treasure"

Just gotta bear in mind...when asking for someones opinion....to not get booty hurt when you don't like what they say.

I think that is a good idea.

Well, I try to not rate pictures of people as we can't help what we look like. And, I try not to be scathing unless they are just being way off or are attention-seekers, crude stuff. If they want to sincerely know, fine. I'll sincerely tell. And, yes, it opens them up to criticism, but it's not like we don't get criticized regularly in the real world. And, for jerks who reply nasty, it's as always, "Garbage In; Garbage Out".

I've never asked to have mine rated.

a.) It gets enough comments without my having to ask for them.

b.) I'm not really all that concerned with what anybody thinks of it. Like it? Great. Hate it? Great. I'm not looking for validation either way. I'm just looking for someone who gets the point.

yeah, but they always do. The minute you say something negative, they end up getting their panties in a wad.

I just did one a second ago...as a joke!!! I hardly need someone's attention or approval. I think it's pathetic as well. But if they are doing it to improve on their profile, I think it's fine!

That's exactly what I was thinking. My profile might not be approved by all, but who cares? It's what I wanted to write, so I don't feel the need for validation either.

I do think that some people are looking for attention when they do it, but I also think that there are sincere people who really would like help in trying to figure out what to write. As Paper said, it would be a good idea to have a general thoughts section on how to write a good profile.

Jeeze, I look at it as a welcome wagon.

There is no doubt in my mind that some people truly do want legitimate constructive criticism on their profiles -- good or bad.

But for the majority, they would prefer "Approve Of My Profile" as opposed to "Rate."

I almost never rate profiles in the RMP forum anymore, unless it's a friend -- people do ask me, in private e-mail, to review theirs, and I'm OK with that, because it's not out there for public consumption.

What clinched it for me was when I mentioned to someone that her profile was pretty decent, but she had seven pics up -- and they were all almost identical. Seven head shots, with the head turned at slightly different angles. I suggested a little more variety, and she did not want to hear THAT. Ok, whatever.

I think, though, that "Rate My Profile" can serve a valuable function, if people are willing to understand that "rate" and "approval" are not necessarily the same thing. We could ALL improve our profiles, in some way -- and it shouldn't be a crime for someone to say so.

I think ppl take their profile look too seriously!!

I filled my profile out because its standard to do so! i have a couple of unattractive pics in there lol! just to show me in a 'normal' state!

Forums r where ya get real insight into a person....the ppl that have caught my eye have caught my attn with their words in the forums, not cos i was impressed with their pics/profile.

Ive never agreed with 'rate me' threads, i for one would much rather see ONE thread which deals with profile help, rather than countless 'do i look good' threads.

Absolutely -- the forum posts are far more revealing and informational than any profile.

The problem, let's say as it applies to a Mutual Match situation, for example, is that so many people aren't IN the forums. And then the profile is all you have to work with. If the profile is just empty or unreadable, there's no incentive to even try to contact the person. For me, anyway.

Of course, since those people aren't in the forums, they won't be posting in "Rate My Profile," so I guess it doesn't matter!

I thought the Rate My Profile was helpful!

I wasn't getting any views, any responses, so I put up a WTF in that forum.

And I learned a lot about how things work here, and even got some good tips on what would be good to include in my profile description...

Sometimes people need intervention - I kind of look at it like being featured on What Not To Wear... sometimes you need help!

If you get many people saying the same thing then you know you have a problem with something in your profile. Just don't pay much attention to anyone's comments who seems unduly rude or mean.

It's feedback on your product. You are a product, right? You're trying to sell yourself to other people.

If you read other profile reviews you can get a good feel of the people who offer constructive criticism and those that are here just to hate.

I just read a lot of the feedback threads and I do notice some people rarely have anything nice to say. Those are the type people you ignore.

In general though, the collective wisdom of the crowd is a good thing. I myself (when on another dating site) have used the feedback to improve my profile.

Maybe you consider yourself as a product and feel you have to sell yourself, but I don't. You either take me and my profile as is, or just pass me by.

gotta love that double standard

The way i see it, is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so there is no 'collective wisdom' only individual opinions.

A lot of ppl on here, and other sites, find 'rate me' threads nothing but a cheap ploy to gain attn.



No, i am not a product, and i am not up for sale to the highest complimenter.

I agree.


As well as an opportunity to get real critisism on how to improve it.

If you are here to find a date or a relationship then your profile is you selling yourself. Only you're not selling yourself for money. People don't pay for you. What I mean is you're trying to sell yourself to people with whom you think you will connect with and have a good relationship with.

If you're not trying to get attention then why do you have pictures and comments in your profile? (My comments exclude those just here for the forums)

I suppose the use of the word "sell" was the wrong word. You, me, and anyone else here looking for a relationship is trying to get attention. That's why we have pics and profile notes.