I am a divorced single dad. I am happy and content with my life but I have that missing part now and its bugging me. I have learned to stop trying hard to find the woman that I can be with. How do I get myself out there without the bar scene. I have been looking but I guess my assertiveness has left me. Is it me being a dad that has made me subconsciously cautious? or Is my fear of rejection rearing its head.

hi well people say to me when u quit looking you will find her and its true cus i was talking to a man in the doctors office and now we are going to go out , i hope u do hun

Welcome...and this is a great way to put yourself out there...play in the forums and allow people to get to know you...and good luck

thanks and good luck!

Doubt that this will help much bro.......

Turn your mind away from it.

Every meaningful love I have ever had has blind sided me when I least expected it and just wasn't looking.

The times I have gone out really trying to find love....it only ended up as flings or one night stands (too friggin many of them)

There is a saying..."A watched pot will never boil"...seriously it is a true statement...take a cold pan of water and stare at it till it comes to a full boil...that sh&t takes FOREVER!!!!!!

Then take a pot of cold water...put it on the stove and walk away...it will boil over before you know it.

The good things in life come easily, without effort.....

The fear and caution as well as self-preservation are only nautral brother. I know!!!!!!!

Just be confident in yourself. Make eye contact. Don't be afraid to give a real smile. Don't stay holed up in your home.....love will come in time.

Just be patient. Be a good man. Eventually some fortunate woman will see it.

Totally Murphy's Law!

Go fly a kite....and then love will come "jiggling" it's way to you....emphasis on the word "jiggling".

Hey...lots of us have "jiggly" parts. Hope you mean that in a good way :) LOL!

What other way is their? Plus, kite flying is a chick magnet.

I have a kite...
does it work in reverse and attract guys???

What kind of kite lol. problem is that there are not many places where I live to fly a kite. plenty of buildings and power lines. i have tried once. Atlanta is a hard place to fly a kite.

My advice is keep your girl with you and do your best impressions of her best expressions - that'll do it.

Provide more personal insight and future goals (you're young enough to achieve); also change the expressions when you're not with your daughter. Change your walk!

what do you mean by change expressions when i am not with my daughter. I have changed my walk since I have left the Military. I have focused a lot on my daughter and seeing her grow and succeed. As any parent i want her to have it better than I did. Her mom disserted me because I got discharged. I have started as a carpenters apprentice with a union to find a trade i can use.

Just a rainbow delta style...easy to fly and lots of fun (mindless fun!) I fly at White Sands National Monument sometimes...wide open. Lots of wide open places out west...

Working for a utility company...I'll give you a serious "watch out for power lines" word :) Seriously... and thanks!

both u dont want to be hurt again or have your kids hurt iam there too lol

Seriously...fear of rejection is like a neon sign. I speak from experience on that point...
Stop caring what others think and you may find that they think you are FINE and the only person you REALLY needed to convince is yourself! Then let the universe take control and you'll be amazed...

there is someone out there for you! Enjoy the ride!

finding love again sucks

Agreed. My Daughter is happy but she shows signs of depression. shes 3 and regressing in alot of ways. I am done with the hurt. I had to move on hold my head up high and try my best to raise y daughter. I dont want to get hurt again. I want to find a woman that knows what committed and unconditional love is.

It's never easy finding someone with whom you connect with. Especially when you have the feeling that you like your life, but you know it could be tons better if you had someone special their to share it with.

Love is a mysterious fig. It can make you so damn happy, and it can rip your heart out. But we all want it. We all want to find someone to share life with, to be with at night to cuddle on the couch, to do silly things with that makes us feel like a kid again. We just want it so bad that we look so hard for it. And that is the irony of it. We want it, so we go in search of it, only most of the time we never find it. It's when we least expect it that love comes walking in. You don't recognize it at first, but eventually you see it.

You have a situation where you are a single dad. You want someone to take you and your child for and complete you. Not an easy thing to do, but the trick is that you can't project how bad you want to find someone. Alot of times, when you do this, you end up falling for someone for the wrong reasons. I don't know the answers man, but I do know this. Not every woman can make you happy, but their is one out there that will make you a "goofy mess" (that's a good thing too). She will come in and not compete with you child. She will come in and the both of you will work to make a family. Maybe you will meet a single mother. Maybe not. Who knows? But the point is that their is someone out their for you.

Date awhile, meet some ladies from here, take it slow. And don't meet a woman and go "She could be the one". Just enjoy the ride my friend. I don't know how long it will take, but it will be worth it.

Awwwwww Goof ... nicely written ...