lets just put this out of our misery here and tell her what she wants to hear. you are so right. you should continue to lie to everyone involved. in the end you will get everything you ever dreamed of. blah blah blah...that better?

(damn i really do still need that eye rolling icon)

ok ive been watching this for 2 days and not commenting, but here goes as im kinda tired of watching this train wreck...


you LIED.. best way out of a lie.. own up to it.. tell the guy the truth.. tell him that yo didnt think that your relationship was going anywhere and you didnt want to drag your kids into it... tell you husband that you cheated, hes done it enough times that he should understand...

and finaly.. MAKE A CHOICE!!!!

decide.. new guy or husband.. you arent happy in your marrage.. then get a DIVORCE!! but leading you children through this back and forth relationship between you and your husband is just going to continue to psycholigacaly damage them more.. if you want to make it work.. SEEK COUNCELING!!!

stop leading this new guy through all this. he didnt do anything to deserve this deceptioin..

in summary... thr truth will set you free!!! start thinking of the other people in your life.. and stop thinking only of yourself...

Simple, Fess up or find a different place to play.

You want to talk the talk, but NOT walk the walk.

I call it, PLAYER.

JUst my thoughts.

How bout something nice and easy like .. It's time to face the music. You made choices (not good ones) now you have to deal with them.

It's gonna be painful whatever way you chose. Just 'woman up' and DO SOMETHING!


Recess bell just rang chica! Time to pick up your toys.

I tend to agree- I am trying to figure out what kind of mom lies about her kids to get a boyfriend?

I think you need to end this relationship that is based on lies and deception, and find a therapist who can help you figure out why you behave this way so that you don't keep repeating it.

A lie is a lie ....anyway u look at it.

Pitiful u can't tell the truth to someone u care about. I've been on the receiving end of lies and its not pleasant!

Fix it before it becomes "old habit".

lmao hahahahaha what is this like highschool again?

just let him go and get it over with.... not that hard honestly. if you're really attracted to him get a picture of him and whenever you want to... ...enough said

other than that i'd totally hate it if someone did that to me and i don't think i'd ever forgive that person. i probably wouldn't talk to her ever again.

If he really loves you he will understand.But there is a chance that he wont so be prepared.

I think that's simplistic. It's entirely possible that he really loves her but will feel completely betrayed by being lied to, or isn't ready to have children in his life, or wouldn't be able to trust her after that. He may be able to work through, he may not; but to say that is he really loved her he'd understand is creating a false dichotomy.

OP: I think you should fess up and see what happens, basically say what you said here, give him however much space he needs, and go from there. Best of luck.

thats all I can do.... thanks....already told him we needed to talk