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Topic: I have the worse trouble...
fjr Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 333	Thu 07/10/08 07:10 AM
with exes! My most recent ex told me he wanted to stab me in the face and the one before that, who has a new girlfriend whom he says hes madly in love with, wont quit talking about how he wants to have sex with me...what to do?? wow...nice guy!! Which one?

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 07/10/08 07:10 AM
with exes! My most recent ex told me he wanted to stab me in the face and the one before that, who has a new girlfriend whom he says hes madly in love with, wont quit talking about how he wants to have sex with me...what to do?? God this is just so like some women. You break it off with an ex, the kind of guy that you shouldn't have even gotten with in the first place, and then crap like this happens, and then you wonder why it is happening. Simply put, you are making bad choices here on who you are dating. I say that this is so like alot of women BECAUSE it is women who end up doing this...getting with the wrong person. For the ex who wants to stab you in the face, I'm guessing he was sweet and gentle in the beginning, or at least that is what he showed you. Then, once you are together, the REAL person inside of him comes out, and now you have a psycho ex. As for the ex who still wants sex from you? Well, must have been good sex and that was all he ever wanted from you to begin with. That's what he misses. No real mystery there. Plus, his new girl just might not be doing it for him sexually, whereas you did. Seems to me that you do, in some way, like drama. Some people need it to function (Why that is I have no clue). Do you have the secret deciphering code to determine when a mans "sweet and gentle" side could later turn psycho, then, or only criticisms of women who do not posses crystal balls? I'm sorry if that sounds harsh...not trying to pick a fight w/you at all, but your comment seems critical of women who make poor choices and then say you understand the men seem to be good guys at first. Are you suggesting that if they seem good they are probably not then? Why blame her for falling for a rouse she could not have seen? Okay. No, I am not getting down on women here. Not at all. Hell, some men fall for women that present this nice and sweet side, on to turn into a heinous b*itch later (my sister in law is one such woman). I mearly used women here cause the person who made this post is a woman. But, I can see where you would get I could have been downing women, which isn't the case. So, my bad on that. And no, we don't have crystal balls at all. But, most of the time, good guys (and gals) are, in fact, genuine and true. They are who they say they are. It is those who act like a good person just so they can get with someone, and they turn into who they really are once the rerlationship begins (my sister in law did this). Sometimes you can see it is an act. Sometimes you have that feeling that it could be, but you choose to doubt it cause all they have shown is that they are a good person. So, no...I am not getting down on women, although I do believe that they fall more victim to guys who show a good side to begin with, but then show the real them later on. Guys are victims too. There are some women who can be brutal man.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Thu 07/10/08 07:15 AM
I think if a person sees a pattern of being involved with the wrong type of people. They might want to look at what they are doing, that brings these type of people into their life. "You reap, what you sow." Try changing the type of people yo are meeting/getting involved with.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Thu 07/10/08 07:24 AM
with exes! My most recent ex told me he wanted to stab me in the face and the one before that, who has a new girlfriend whom he says hes madly in love with, wont quit talking about how he wants to have sex with me...what to do?? God this is just so like some women. You break it off with an ex, the kind of guy that you shouldn't have even gotten with in the first place, and then crap like this happens, and then you wonder why it is happening. Simply put, you are making bad choices here on who you are dating. I say that this is so like alot of women BECAUSE it is women who end up doing this...getting with the wrong person. For the ex who wants to stab you in the face, I'm guessing he was sweet and gentle in the beginning, or at least that is what he showed you. Then, once you are together, the REAL person inside of him comes out, and now you have a psycho ex. As for the ex who still wants sex from you? Well, must have been good sex and that was all he ever wanted from you to begin with. That's what he misses. No real mystery there. Plus, his new girl just might not be doing it for him sexually, whereas you did. Seems to me that you do, in some way, like drama. Some people need it to function (Why that is I have no clue). Do you have the secret deciphering code to determine when a mans "sweet and gentle" side could later turn psycho, then, or only criticisms of women who do not posses crystal balls? I'm sorry if that sounds harsh...not trying to pick a fight w/you at all, but your comment seems critical of women who make poor choices and then say you understand the men seem to be good guys at first. Are you suggesting that if they seem good they are probably not then? Why blame her for falling for a rouse she could not have seen? Okay. No, I am not getting down on women here. Not at all. Hell, some men fall for women that present this nice and sweet side, on to turn into a heinous b*itch later (my sister in law is one such woman). I mearly used women here cause the person who made this post is a woman. But, I can see where you would get I could have been downing women, which isn't the case. So, my bad on that. And no, we don't have crystal balls at all. But, most of the time, good guys (and gals) are, in fact, genuine and true. They are who they say they are. It is those who act like a good person just so they can get with someone, and they turn into who they really are once the rerlationship begins (my sister in law did this). Sometimes you can see it is an act. Sometimes you have that feeling that it could be, but you choose to doubt it cause all they have shown is that they are a good person. So, no...I am not getting down on women, although I do believe that they fall more victim to guys who show a good side to begin with, but then show the real them later on. Guys are victims too. There are some women who can be brutal man. I got ya! Didn't mean to seem like I was jumping you on that one. We can certainly be blind to red flags when we want a thing to be true. Love is blind...right?

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 07/10/08 07:30 AM
with exes! My most recent ex told me he wanted to stab me in the face and the one before that, who has a new girlfriend whom he says hes madly in love with, wont quit talking about how he wants to have sex with me...what to do?? God this is just so like some women. You break it off with an ex, the kind of guy that you shouldn't have even gotten with in the first place, and then crap like this happens, and then you wonder why it is happening. Simply put, you are making bad choices here on who you are dating. I say that this is so like alot of women BECAUSE it is women who end up doing this...getting with the wrong person. For the ex who wants to stab you in the face, I'm guessing he was sweet and gentle in the beginning, or at least that is what he showed you. Then, once you are together, the REAL person inside of him comes out, and now you have a psycho ex. As for the ex who still wants sex from you? Well, must have been good sex and that was all he ever wanted from you to begin with. That's what he misses. No real mystery there. Plus, his new girl just might not be doing it for him sexually, whereas you did. Seems to me that you do, in some way, like drama. Some people need it to function (Why that is I have no clue). Do you have the secret deciphering code to determine when a mans "sweet and gentle" side could later turn psycho, then, or only criticisms of women who do not posses crystal balls? I'm sorry if that sounds harsh...not trying to pick a fight w/you at all, but your comment seems critical of women who make poor choices and then say you understand the men seem to be good guys at first. Are you suggesting that if they seem good they are probably not then? Why blame her for falling for a rouse she could not have seen? Okay. No, I am not getting down on women here. Not at all. Hell, some men fall for women that present this nice and sweet side, on to turn into a heinous b*itch later (my sister in law is one such woman). I mearly used women here cause the person who made this post is a woman. But, I can see where you would get I could have been downing women, which isn't the case. So, my bad on that. And no, we don't have crystal balls at all. But, most of the time, good guys (and gals) are, in fact, genuine and true. They are who they say they are. It is those who act like a good person just so they can get with someone, and they turn into who they really are once the rerlationship begins (my sister in law did this). Sometimes you can see it is an act. Sometimes you have that feeling that it could be, but you choose to doubt it cause all they have shown is that they are a good person. So, no...I am not getting down on women, although I do believe that they fall more victim to guys who show a good side to begin with, but then show the real them later on. Guys are victims too. There are some women who can be brutal man. I got ya! Didn't mean to seem like I was jumping you on that one. We can certainly be blind to red flags when we want a thing to be true. Love is blind...right? Oh no problem. I went back and read over my first post so I can see where you would get the impression where I was downing women about this. So no worries there. I can respect someone who will call someone else out on a post. It's all good. Yeah. Love is blind. I will add that I think what fuels this is the fact that all of us just want to be loved, so when someone shows us love, we just go all goo-goo-ga-ga for it. I tells ya. God should have given all us better instincts when it comes to love (in most cases that is). However, the good thing is that when you finally do meet that special someone and truly fall in love...it's all good..

kkKen Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 11228	Thu 07/10/08 07:39 AM
with exes! My most recent ex told me he wanted to stab me in the face and the one before that, who has a new girlfriend whom he says hes madly in love with, wont quit talking about how he wants to have sex with me...what to do?? Stop picking up guys in Arkham asylum.Batman put them there for a reason you know

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Thu 07/10/08 07:42 AM Edited by No1sLove on Thu 07/10/08 07:43 AM
Goofball, you said it! The risks are worth it all once our search is over. I noticed you mentioning in a post that you found someone special...not to divert from topic, but congratulations to you both! I'm waiting anxiously to finally meet my own online sweetheart.

SweetLittleSuccubus Joined Mon 05/19/08 Posts: 126	Thu 07/10/08 07:50 AM
with exes! My most recent ex told me he wanted to stab me in the face and the one before that, who has a new girlfriend whom he says hes madly in love with, wont quit talking about how he wants to have sex with me...what to do?? quit talking to both of them! My thoughts exactly. If you stop communication with them, seems like you wouldn't have this problem.

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Thu 07/10/08 07:51 AM
Kitty cat not coooooookies???? Kitty cat taste like cookies!

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 07/10/08 10:16 AM
Goofball, you said it! The risks are worth it all once our search is over. I noticed you mentioning in a post that you found someone special...not to divert from topic, but congratulations to you both! I'm waiting anxiously to finally meet my own online sweetheart. Yup, and I met her on here, so I can vouch that this site really does work. And, she turned out to not be a psycho.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 07/10/08 10:18 AM
WHATS WRONG WITH PSYCHOS???

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 07/10/08 10:25 AM
WHATS WRONG WITH PSYCHOS??? "Sigh" They require WAYYYYYYYYY too much effort.

creationsfire Joined Wed 01/24/07 Posts: 4548	Thu 07/10/08 10:27 AM
(((gypsy))) I WANT A PERFECT MAN DOLL TOO!!!!!!!!!!!! So I can get some meat on my bones.

kayliz88 Joined Sat 03/08/08 Posts: 1023	Thu 07/10/08 10:29 AM
Next time I meet a guy, I'm gonna do a full background check...see if he's been in prison, a mental hospital, interview the ex girlfriends, the parents to see how he was when he a kid...MAYBE that will keep me from getting a psycho.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 07/10/08 10:31 AM
Next time I meet a guy, I'm gonna do a full background check...see if he's been in prison, a mental hospital, interview the ex girlfriends, the parents to see how he was when he a kid...MAYBE that will keep me from getting a psycho. I do this for all the women I date. Ask my girlfriend. She hated when I tied her up and interrogated her......ummmm wait.....no, she liked that, but.......meh.

kayliz88 Joined Sat 03/08/08 Posts: 1023	Thu 07/10/08 10:34 AM
Next time I meet a guy, I'm gonna do a full background check...see if he's been in prison, a mental hospital, interview the ex girlfriends, the parents to see how he was when he a kid...MAYBE that will keep me from getting a psycho. I do this for all the women I date. Ask my girlfriend. She hated when I tied her up and interrogated her......ummmm wait.....no, she liked that, but.......meh. I'm sure she did!

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Thu 07/10/08 10:52 AM
you seem like a nice girl, I just glanced over your profile to look for any obvious signs of why you attract such men. Just cut out the band things in life and take your time when dealing with relationships. You got a long life ahead of you kiddo and a lot to learn about men, as well as yourself and what you want. You are 19? Well 10 years ago you were probably playing with barbies. Where are they now? Of no use to you. Now imagine 10 more years later, what your interests are. Give another 10 more and then you will know who you are going to be for the rest of your life. You will discover more, but have a more solid idea of who you are and what you want out of life... Nicely said Random!!!