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tho i may not be the best one here to offer advice, i also know that i am not the worst.
my advice for everyone.. and in responce to a lot of advice threads that i have seen recently.. 1, long distance relationships only work if you are honest, if you are BOTH honest.. with your feelings, your emotions, and your past/present/future.. these are teh hardest realtionships to keep going... they require constant care.. a LOT of TRUST.. and for some of us that trust one comes hard.. but it is possible.. and the distance will work out.. but the relationship growth can be done if both parties are commited to making it work.... 2, love.. if you love someone.. truley love them.. be PATIENT.. many people have been hurt.. most everyone in fact.. and we have emotional baggage.. trust comes hard for us.. and love is not as freely given as it was in the past... and support them.. if they feel the same about you they will see your efforts and they will love you more for your patient support while they delt with how they were feeling for you.. and then do EVERY LITTLE THING IN YOUR POWER TO NEVER HURT THEM... as that is why it was so hard for you in the first place... 3, COMMUNICATE!!!!!!!!!!!!! this is where i particularly struggle.. i do not like to talk about anything bad that is happening to me.. i should be able to deal with it myself.. and if i cant.. i can hide it from everyone.... thats not how it works... share not only the good in your life. but the day to day mundaneness and the bad/scary things as well... finaly the end to my spheel.... 4, seek friendship above all else.. both from your partner as well as from your friends... when the dust settles.. the love of a true friend will never let you down.. seek advice, fun, companionship and love from your friends.. and be a friend to your mate.. ok random i know.. but HEY.. it IS me... would you expect any less?? |
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so...does this mean you don't want me anymore
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Very nicely put.
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Random but good.......thanks, girl!
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so...does this mean you don't want me anymore |
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Hi izzie
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so...does this mean you don't want me anymore |
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You got it right sister. These things should be totally obvious, but lots of people don't get it. Unfortunately I have to say that the majority of them would be my fellow men...
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alter ego...
just as many of us women dont get it ether... human nature not to see what is staring us in the face.. but to look around and see what is behind it.. |
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so...does this mean you don't want me anymore F&L said the nice guys taste like coffee beans.... mmmmmmmmmm................. |
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so...does this mean you don't want me anymore F&L said the nice guys taste like coffee beans.... mmmmmmmmmm................. No...the fake nice guys taste like coffee beans...the nice guys taste like gummy bears. Great post izzie! |
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alter ego... just as many of us women dont get it ether... human nature not to see what is staring us in the face.. but to look around and see what is behind it.. Maybe you're right, I've just been dealing with guys I know so much that I have begun to wonder if there are very many guys out there that get "it" rather than wanting to get "some"... |
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true words
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tho i may not be the best one here to offer advice, i also know that i am not the worst. my advice for everyone.. and in responce to a lot of advice threads that i have seen recently.. 1, long distance relationships only work if you are honest, if you are BOTH honest.. with your feelings, your emotions, and your past/present/future.. these are teh hardest realtionships to keep going... they require constant care.. a LOT of TRUST.. and for some of us that trust one comes hard.. but it is possible.. and the distance will work out.. but the relationship growth can be done if both parties are commited to making it work.... 2, love.. if you love someone.. truley love them.. be PATIENT.. many people have been hurt.. most everyone in fact.. and we have emotional baggage.. trust comes hard for us.. and love is not as freely given as it was in the past... and support them.. if they feel the same about you they will see your efforts and they will love you more for your patient support while they delt with how they were feeling for you.. and then do EVERY LITTLE THING IN YOUR POWER TO NEVER HURT THEM... as that is why it was so hard for you in the first place... 3, COMMUNICATE!!!!!!!!!!!!! this is where i particularly struggle.. i do not like to talk about anything bad that is happening to me.. i should be able to deal with it myself.. and if i cant.. i can hide it from everyone.... thats not how it works... share not only the good in your life. but the day to day mundaneness and the bad/scary things as well... finaly the end to my spheel.... 4, seek friendship above all else.. both from your partner as well as from your friends... when the dust settles.. the love of a true friend will never let you down.. seek advice, fun, companionship and love from your friends.. and be a friend to your mate.. ok random i know.. but HEY.. it IS me... would you expect any less?? Great advice for all the people in our lives, not just our partners. Great post!! |
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ty
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Good post Iz
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((((((((((((((((((((z))))))))))))
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(((( Izzie))))
How ya been? |
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ive been great!!!
how bout you?? |
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