Can I hear a hell no?

Please tell me this does not actually happen?

I would agree... lure him in, get him all good and ready and then get up and walk out the door

It all depends. If I was reconciled to her leaving and thought we'd both enjoy throwing down one last time, I'd say yes, for old-time's sake. But if I thought it would just be too sad or weird, I'd say no.

But reading other people's responses, interesting questions arise. All you people who basically answered "Hell no!"....Do you view sex with your partner as some sort of reward to them for staying in relationship with you? And as soon as they no longer want to remain in that relationship, you want to punish them for that by taking back that reward? That's kinda what it sounds like.

If I'm sexually drawn to my partner today, and find out she wants to leave me tomorrow, well I'd be sad, hurt, disappointed, etc. But I'd probably still feel the same sexual attraction for her; her decision to leave would have no effect on that. I'm sure I could still enjoy having sex with her. Now I might still decide not to, just because under the circumstances, I might not be able to get myself emotionally into the space to enjoy it. But that decision wouldn't be to punish her! It wouldn't be a "Hell, no!"

Are you a woman (or a man) who only offers your partner sex for good behavior? If so, do you think perhaps you might be missing the full enjoyment of sex, if you have it wired up to some system of reward and punishment for your partner's behavior?

Just something to think about...

uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh wtf???

@ gypsy...and this thread...

ummm... if someone is leaving me then i ummmm am not like
still attracted to her...the sex is not likely to be good
in such a circumstance!!

Hard to answer this as I haven't to this point been left for someone else nor left someone I was with for someone else (personally I believe in getting out of a relationship before I start a new one).

But on the topic of goodbye sex my last boyfriend initiated sex the day I left him (we didn't break up over being involved with other people) and it was the saddest most poignant sex I have ever had in my life.

As to the other if I was being left for someone else I think I would still participate in the sex in fact I think I would go out of my way to make it the best sex that I had ever had with this person, then get out of the bed wish them luck and leave them wondering why they thought they were getting a better deal by leaving.....

Pack it??? He** no, baby...leave it in a pile in the driveway! Wouldn't need to ask the question, he'd already know the answer...

Oh, and this has nothing to do with sex being a 'reward' for staying in a relationship...it's about not knowing where the guy has been, not wanting to add insult to my own injury and needing a bit more than attraction to make it an enjoyable activity for me.