Topic: relationship oriented women
SpikeyOne's photo
Sat 05/17/08 06:47 AM
First of that comment of least insane women was meant as a joke, thats all. Second, maybe I do have issues but I ain't ready for that couch yet. I been down road delt with my demons and made friends with them. All I know is this endless battle that will go on for years after I left this planet. So I'm right your right. She's right he's right.

No1sLove's photo
Sat 05/17/08 06:49 AM


I think if you are having negative experiences with women you need to look at yourself. Perhaps these women do want a relationship, but once they get to know you, they don't want it with you. From what I have read here from some of the gentlemen, I would run far from their negativity and generalizing. They are blaming all women for the actions of a few; and to me that show they have issues that they need to work on before they can ever have a successful relationship. So they will keep failing at it, and keep blaming it on the women. After all, it couldn't be their fault, could it?
u just want all of us to be gay

Ummm....please no! noway

hikerchick's photo
Sat 05/17/08 06:50 AM

First of that comment of least insane women was meant as a joke, thats all. Second, maybe I do have issues but I ain't ready for that couch yet. I been down road delt with my demons and made friends with them. All I know is this endless battle that will go on for years after I left this planet. So I'm right your right. She's right he's right.


I think you will do just fine. Just keep looking at your own role in every drama. We all need to do it, and it's hard.

LouLou2's photo
Sat 05/17/08 07:02 AM
I hadn't seen your 'insane women' comment before my last post. just wanted to tell you that I was probably a 'crazy old woman' long before you posted it :wink: .

I guess the old saying for women about 'kissing alot of toads before meeting Prince Charmin', kind of goes for men, too. I just don't feel that i have any time to waste kissing the wrong man. You, on the other hand, are young. Kiss a few Miss Wrongs along the way...kissing an attractive pair of lips is never an awful experience, now is it?

Please know you haven't offended me...none of you gentlemen have...on a bad day, I think I've said the very same thing about 'all men'. Perhaps it is what you all truly feel, but I'm putting on my rose-colored glasses and assuming that in reality, you simply need to vent.

One question, though? If you keep barking up the same type of tree and expect to get something different from your efforts...is it really the tree's fault? I'm not saying that is what you gentlemen are doing...just food for thought.

P.S. I know men & women often think & see things differently. I'm sorry that causes such frustration, but it is also what causes the sparks sometimes. And the fire that results can be just incredible, don't you think?

A64WOODY's photo
Sat 05/17/08 07:05 AM


We are all bad in womens eyes no matter what we do or say or how well we treat them. All it takes is one comment and we are all dogs.
I don't believe that. Most of the men I know are very nice. flowerforyou
A wise woman, this one is!!flowerforyou

No1sLove's photo
Sat 05/17/08 07:11 AM



We are all bad in womens eyes no matter what we do or say or how well we treat them. All it takes is one comment and we are all dogs.
I don't believe that. Most of the men I know are very nice. flowerforyou
A wise woman, this one is!!flowerforyou
Maybe it has to do with the whole "bad boy" attraction. I've never been attracted to that type, so maybe I just don't meet these monsters everyone keeps talking about. ohwell

lilith401's photo
Sat 05/17/08 07:12 AM
I find it interesting when guys say they are nice and women don't appreciate it. It has nothing at all to do with your perception of yourself.

It is her perception of you, and others perceptions that defines whether or not you are "nice".

aLittleBird's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:11 AM

I find it interesting when guys say they are nice and women don't appreciate it. It has nothing at all to do with your perception of yourself.

It is her perception of you, and others perceptions that defines whether or not you are "nice".


how true!!!drinker flowerforyou

lilith401's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:11 AM


I find it interesting when guys say they are nice and women don't appreciate it. It has nothing at all to do with your perception of yourself.

It is her perception of you, and others perceptions that defines whether or not you are "nice".


how true!!!drinker flowerforyou


Yeah, I just love a "nice guy" thread.....laugh

A64WOODY's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:12 AM
Edited by A64WOODY on Sat 05/17/08 08:13 AM
I find humour in what some guys say that they think is sexy! AKA:"I'm a nice guy! Wanna have sex!"

aLittleBird's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:17 AM



I find it interesting when guys say they are nice and women don't appreciate it. It has nothing at all to do with your perception of yourself.

It is her perception of you, and others perceptions that defines whether or not you are "nice".


how true!!!drinker flowerforyou


Yeah, I just love a "nice guy" thread.....laugh


Well, it's good for some laughs...

my definition of nice certainly differs from these guys.

A64WOODY's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:17 AM

I guess someone told fellahs that if you say 'imaniceguy' before whatever you want in life, its equivalent to some sort of 'abracadabra'
"POOOF" he's a jerk!laugh laugh laugh

Drivinmenutz's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:20 AM
Edited by Drivinmenutz on Sat 05/17/08 08:32 AM

why do women post they are looking for a nice guy for a relationship, but when one comes along they chicken out, also just because they have had a few (HELL) dates doesn't make all of us bad.


here's a pointer for all you guys who openly advertise the hunt for a serious relationship...

Women get intimidated when a simple date or two means something serious to you guys. They don't want to feel like when they go out to dinner and a movie that you are already looking for a wedding ring and trying to figure out what your kids are gonna look like. Seriously guys. This falls under the catagory of being in too much of a hurry. I know women traditionally are wanting to commit but kinda treat it the same way as the physical part of the relationship. Make sure there is some sort of progression, but take your time and enjoy the steps. Lose this mentallity that you are dead set for a goal and will stop at nothing until you get there.

Just a thought, but hey, what do i know?

lilith401's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:22 AM


why do women post they are looking for a nice guy for a relationship, but when one comes along they chicken out, also just because they have had a few (HELL) dates doesn't make all of us bad.


here's a pointer for all you guys who open advertise the hunt for a serious relationship...

Women get intimidated when a simple date or two means something serious to you guys. They don't want to feel like when they go out to dinner and a movie that you are already looking for a wedding ring and trying to figure out what your kids are gonna look like. Seriously guys. This falls under the catagory of being in too much of a hurry. I know women traditionally are wanting to commit but kinda treat it the same way as the physical part of the relationship. Make sure there is some sort of progression, but take your time and enjoy the steps. Lose this mentallity that you are dead set for a goal and will stop at nothing until you get there.


I really adore your posts in these sorts of threads. Thank you! flowerforyou

A64WOODY's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:26 AM
I am a nice guy, but i don'tbelieve i put it in my profile!! Maybe i should change that!!

Drivinmenutz's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:32 AM



why do women post they are looking for a nice guy for a relationship, but when one comes along they chicken out, also just because they have had a few (HELL) dates doesn't make all of us bad.


here's a pointer for all you guys who open advertise the hunt for a serious relationship...

Women get intimidated when a simple date or two means something serious to you guys. They don't want to feel like when they go out to dinner and a movie that you are already looking for a wedding ring and trying to figure out what your kids are gonna look like. Seriously guys. This falls under the catagory of being in too much of a hurry. I know women traditionally are wanting to commit but kinda treat it the same way as the physical part of the relationship. Make sure there is some sort of progression, but take your time and enjoy the steps. Lose this mentallity that you are dead set for a goal and will stop at nothing until you get there.


I really adore your posts in these sorts of threads. Thank you! flowerforyou


No, thank youflowerforyou :wink:

lilith401's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:35 AM

No, thank youflowerforyou :wink:


bigsmile flowerforyou

wendynhouston's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:50 AM

why do women post they are looking for a nice guy for a relationship, but when one comes along they chicken out, also just because they have had a few (HELL) dates doesn't make all of us bad.


There are dozens of nice guys out there. Just because one comes along doesn't mean he's necessarily getting a "free ticket to ride" (so to speak), just because he's a nice guy. There's other things that come into play. Unfortunately, you just don't happen to be the right kind of nice to a certain person. Keep looking - there's always someone out there for ya!!

wendynhouston's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:53 AM


why do women post they are looking for a nice guy for a relationship, but when one comes along they chicken out, also just because they have had a few (HELL) dates doesn't make all of us bad.


here's a pointer for all you guys who openly advertise the hunt for a serious relationship...

Women get intimidated when a simple date or two means something serious to you guys. They don't want to feel like when they go out to dinner and a movie that you are already looking for a wedding ring and trying to figure out what your kids are gonna look like. Seriously guys. This falls under the catagory of being in too much of a hurry. I know women traditionally are wanting to commit but kinda treat it the same way as the physical part of the relationship. Make sure there is some sort of progression, but take your time and enjoy the steps. Lose this mentallity that you are dead set for a goal and will stop at nothing until you get there.

Just a thought, but hey, what do i know?


Great advice!!

A64WOODY's photo
Sat 05/17/08 08:54 AM
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