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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Wed 10/06/10 05:27 PM
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I think that waiting until you're married to have sex is a very unwise idea. Sexual compatibility is essential for a successful marriage. Why wait until after you're married to determine whether you should have married at all? well that all depends upon whether sex is the reason for the marriage there are many other and more important ingredients to a successful marriage/relationship, in my opinion, and when those things work the sexual chemistry is not hard to develop I respectfully disagree. I've had a few relationship were all other components were in place: communication, friendship, etc, but the sex sucked and wasn't getting any better. You can be in love with someone and “think” you are having great sex because there are a lot of emotions involved. I need the carnal urge to have wild jungle sex rather than just “married sex”. I need the lust! I was with someone for 6 years and everytime was like the first time for us PLUS we had a good relationship. In contrast, I've had short, 2 year relationships wherein the friendship was awesome but there was never chemistry. That was like sawing my foot off for 2 years - and it was my fault for staying that long. |
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Well, let's see.... KIDS!!!!!! 
Multiple people pics, no identification as to who the profile belongs to (have you noticed how one of them is always gorgeous, and the rest look like Nixon in a wheelbarrow?) Cliches Bad spelling/grammar/punctuation "I don't know what to write here" (whose fault is THAT?) "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" (I'm not really all that interested.) Headless, shirtless torso shots (Reeks of desperation and "This is all I've got to offer.") See above and I modify it to suit my perspective ^^^^ (Lex and I think almost exactly alike) Their age - I like to date 12-15 years younger. Out of date style or "dad" types. Out of shape, beer bellies, moobs, body hair, etc Height - over 6.0 please 
----------------------------------------------- Now that I have that out of the way, I am in a relationship with someone who is almost nothing like what I have listed! 
He is one of the most intelligent men I've known (since 5th grade), he doesn't have kids and doesn't want them, he takes care of the ugly (grooming), and he makes laugh so hard I shoot water from my nose. 
I told you guys; whoever I meet will be very divergent to any list I make. I was open-minded enough and was swept off my feet. 
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Wed 10/06/10 03:12 PM
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I don't understand why this is topic worth posting. It seems like you just want attention: "Look how cute I am!"
Throughout our lives we are going to attract and repel a lot of people. That's life; that's preferences. Are we supposed to wear some kind of voice alert system to thwart off the undesirables; "You there. Do not approach me. You are not worthy of my attention. If you don't turn away, you will be killed on the spot - you worthless human being. How dare you think I’m attractive when I wouldn’t give you the time of day!"
Accept the compliments gracefully, and handle rejection even more gracefully. 
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Wed 10/06/10 02:48 PM
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I would never wait until I was married to have sex with someone. Sex is way too important: from the mechanics to the esthetics.
What if two people are not sexually compatible? What if one is not as experienced or too sheltered to have an open sexual relationship – ie, they are boring in bed, they can't please their partner or are unwilling to learn new things (too up tight). What if appearances are not pleasing? To use a bad example (sorry), I don’t care how yummy certain dishes are, if the presentation on the dinner plate is not appealing, I’m not eating. I like pretty body parts, and parts that are of a certain size ( ). I want to know he is circumcised, that he shaves below the belt, and that he is knows good hygiene.
Sexual chemistry is very important. It is a big cog in the entire machine of marriage. For me, I need to know before I make the life-long commitment. |
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Topic:
Male Scammers
Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Wed 10/06/10 11:00 AM
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Use common sense.
Don’t act desperate by saying you are looking for love. Be independent and strong, and don’t put out the “fairytale seeker” attitude. Don't be a victim by acting vulnerable. If the member gets too personal too soon AND they talk about their “wealth” – delete the emails and block them. If the picture looks too good to be true (ie, model-like) it's probably a "stock" photo. Also if they only have ONE picture up that looks too good to be true - it's a red flag. A good profile should have a few pictures of difference scenarios of the member to ease suspicion. You can also do a search for stock photos and verify whether they are real on tineye. I've been on the site for 2 years and never ONCE have I been approached by a scammer (while I was single and looking). The scam profiles are too easy to spot if you play it smart. |
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Topic:
looks or brains?
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We're celebrating.
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*whew* Thanks, Plastic, I needed that ...
Sweetest, men are always looking for an excuse to see a woman sneeze.
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True...That is why there is laser Hair removal. In this economy, Laser Hair removal is just not fitting into many men's budgets. But Nair sales have increased!
Nair wouldn't cause infertility.
You must be kidding because no one can be that archaic in their thinking. 
The pic you have as your main now is so sexy!! That’s a hot body!!! They run around looking like that all over Cali (thank goodness). Dont be fooled by dimb lighting theirs still hair there! buuut like I said a women prob wouldnt stop because of it. *eww* I know a few who would ... 
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We're celebrating.
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I'm celebrating with what tastes like the best coffee I've ever had in my life!! I don't consume caffeine so Starbucks, et al, is not a part of my daily grind (no pun intended) BUT since the weather is cold now, I stopped to get a nonfat, decaf, dark cherry chocolate mocha (no whip and half the amount of chocolate). I am celebrating!! I think I had an orgasm! 
u mean u dont know??????????
As it turned out, I only had to sneeze!
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Topic:
Navy seals
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Awesome!!!
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We're celebrating.
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Haha. That sounds like some damn good coffee. Plastic, it's been over a year since I've had coffee. Whether it REALLY is or not - it SO is!!
I celebrate the simple comforts of life. 
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True...That is why there is laser Hair removal. In this economy, Laser Hair removal is just not fitting into many men's budgets. But Nair sales have increased!
Nair wouldn't cause infertility.
You must be kidding because no one can be that archaic in their thinking.
The pic you have as your main now is so sexy!! That’s a hot body!!! They run around looking like that all over Cali (thank goodness). |
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We're celebrating.
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I'm celebrating with what tastes like the best coffee I've ever had in my life!!
I don't consume caffeine so Starbucks, et al, is not a part of my daily grind (no pun intended) BUT since the weather is cold now, I stopped to get a nonfat, decaf, dark cherry chocolate mocha (no whip and half the amount of chocolate). I am celebrating!! I think I had an orgasm!
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Topic:
looks or brains?
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which do u prefer? looks,, brains, personality, or good sex? I have all of these qualities. I just can't remember where I put them 
They are under your bed with the rest of your "toys" 
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Topic:
looks or brains?
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I updated his wardrobe from the 90's (at his own request) and he not only appealed to me due to his intelligence but also physically. A well dressed man can melt a room and if he has confidence to boot he may just be unstoppable. I agree also. I can't handle someone without fashion sense and who is void of a modern couture vibe. Some people are catwalk material but are hiding in their horrible clothes and style!
Seriously though - the renewed confidence can melt a room when a person walks in dressed to the nines. If they are stupid, they won't get a chance at a make-over anyway.
So, we loop back to being the whole package!!!! A person can have it all!
I go into the mall wearing a nice shirt, jeans looking good, and maybe even a bit of facial hair, then store clerks want to talk to me because they think I have money to spend. Haha! Honestly, it is all about how you look. I like bumming it, but even then I have to make sure it looks good on Goof. I know that scruffy, sexy vibe though. It's a good one! |
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I shave mine because it feels better to me. Some guys might not admit that but it's a better choice for me. It's all about aerodynamics! And, the fact that when you shave it, you feel lighter on your feet.
Husband, where have you been? I summoned you in this thread an HOUR ago!!
I was working late??? 
Oh?? I called the office - no answer. What's her name??? 
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I shave mine because it feels better to me. Some guys might not admit that but it's a better choice for me. It's all about aerodynamics! And, the fact that when you shave it, you feel lighter on your feet.
Husband, where have you been? I summoned you in this thread an HOUR ago!!
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Tue 10/05/10 08:14 PM
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I think he asked for advice on a relationship....not sex. lol. And all the guys who say they dont have the time to shave...Us wwomen feel the same but we make time to maintain the look. What if all women did not shave? Would you complain? Kelly, everyone gets off topic in Mingle. It's part of our charm.
He could have started the topic about gummy bears and we would end up talking about race cars.
I agree about the shaving too. *eww* I'd never be with a hairy dude and most guys won't deal with hairy chicks.
Ethan, my mom was born and raised in Shawnee, Ok.
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I shave mine because it feels better to me. Some guys might not admit that but it's a better choice for me. Your new chick will love it!
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Tue 10/05/10 07:55 PM
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I just ask to see them naked first! I want to see the size of the member, make sure you are circumsized, shaved below the belt, and with no other chest or body hair. Then there is the performance evaluation!
Once a man passes those tests then it's on like Donky Kong!!!
 Sorry! 
Seriously, just be yourself and take things slowly. I know that sounds cliché but "real" works, and being comfortable are paramount! Listen to you intuition. If something doesn’t seem right, analyze how you feel. You are going to make mistakes; that’s ok. Learn from your mistakes though. If I could do it all over again, I wouldn't THINK of getting into a relationship until I finished my master's degree. Boys got in the way of my education and it took me too long to finish my bachelor's and I am just now finished with my master's - 24 years later. I also would have traveled more. I didn't even know myself or about the world. How could I expect to be in a relationship?? It’s like the dumb leading the dumb. It's not supposed to grow back! Why shave only once? Maintenance! It doesn't itch if a person cares for the skin properly and shaves at least every other day. Women do it every day. It's not rocket science.
No one wants to run their tongue along hairy skin no matter where it is on the body.
A lot of men do it. I've never dated anyone who didn't shave. It's weird when I see body hair but everyone has a preference!
Smooth and clean skin is sexy hot and they probably get more head! Where's Goof when I need him??
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