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Topic: Why some guys never get jealous?
Rina74's photo
Fri 08/08/14 10:21 AM
I been with a guy who never got jealous and then another guy he was very jealous..I would like something in between, the normal jealousy cuz we all have our little jealous feelings inside of us but some of us dont wanna admit it..The one guy i was with who never got jealous, he actually let me go out with his buddy to go dancing almost every weekend, eventhough there was nothing going on between us..but thats not the point..everyone else said thats crazy..thats giving a little bit too much freedom and too much trust..cuz when u trust someone too much thats when they feel they can do anything behind your back and get away with it..There has to be a limit with certain things...and its nice to see your spouse care about u and doesnt wanna share u with anyone..my opinion..

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 08/08/14 10:27 AM
I think he trusts you but it seems like it's some sort of test and that's stupid when you're with someone whom you are protective over. Nothing wrong with some freedom but too much is well, too much.

Rina74's photo
Fri 08/08/14 10:28 AM

I think he trusts you but it seems like it's some sort of test and that's stupid when you're with someone whom you are protective over. Nothing wrong with some freedom but too much is well, too much.

Exactly, there is something as too much freedom..guys should be a little more caring and protective of their spouse..

patriciamae14's photo
Fri 08/08/14 10:51 AM
I think it will be better if you ask him, right?

Beachfarmer's photo
Fri 08/08/14 10:53 AM
glasses Too busy dealing with the mistress to be hypocritical?

TBRich's photo
Fri 08/08/14 10:55 AM
equals the amount of insecurity he has

msharmony's photo
Fri 08/08/14 10:58 AM
I think it is also the amount of trust in the self and the other person

often, if a person is trustworthy, they will believe others to be too

at least, imho

luvmeforlife's photo
Fri 08/08/14 11:25 AM
Did you find the answer?

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Fri 08/08/14 11:32 AM
Why some guys never get jealous?

Because some men have figured out that with a lot of women no matter what they do they will never "win."

I mean
he actually let me go out with his buddy to go dancing almost every weekend...thats giving a little bit too much freedom and too much trust...There has to be a limit with certain things... there is something as too much freedom

Implied in all of this is that you bear no responsibility for choosing to go out dancing with another man every weekend.

Almost as though you are sitting there thinking "you know, if that a-hole was just more jealous and didn't give me as much freedom and trust as he did, then we would have had a better relationship, he caused the relationship to fail. Men have to be more controlling in their boundaries in telling me, dictating to me, what I am or am not allowed to do."

He could just as easily have started a forum asking "Why are women never considerate? I was dating a girl and she actually went out every weekend with my buddy to go dancing. I know there's nothing going on between them, I simply know and trust her and my buddy, but why does she take that for granted? Why do women only want people to see things from their perspective and what they want and never try to see it from others?"

when u trust someone too much thats when they feel they can do anything behind your back and get away with it

Only if you are the type of person to do anything behind their back all while shirking the consequences and responsibility for your own behavior.



MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 08/08/14 11:58 AM

Did you find the answer?


We're waiting.

Rina74's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:11 PM

I think it will be better if you ask him, right?

Im not with that guy anymore..im not with anyone..i was just wondering about the no jealousy thing in guys..

no1phD's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:12 PM
if you're confident in yourself.
and your abilities..
. what's there to be jealous of..
.

Rina74's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:21 PM

Why some guys never get jealous?

Because some men have figured out that with a lot of women no matter what they do they will never "win."

I mean
he actually let me go out with his buddy to go dancing almost every weekend...thats giving a little bit too much freedom and too much trust...There has to be a limit with certain things... there is something as too much freedom

Implied in all of this is that you bear no responsibility for choosing to go out dancing with another man every weekend.

Almost as though you are sitting there thinking "you know, if that a-hole was just more jealous and didn't give me as much freedom and trust as he did, then we would have had a better relationship, he caused the relationship to fail. Men have to be more controlling in their boundaries in telling me, dictating to me, what I am or am not allowed to do."

He could just as easily have started a forum asking "Why are women never considerate? I was dating a girl and she actually went out every weekend with my buddy to go dancing. I know there's nothing going on between them, I simply know and trust her and my buddy, but why does she take that for granted? Why do women only want people to see things from their perspective and what they want and never try to see it from others?"

when u trust someone too much thats when they feel they can do anything behind your back and get away with it

Only if you are the type of person to do anything behind their back all while shirking the consequences and responsibility for your own behavior.
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He let me go out with his buddy..he was fine with it..and since i love dancing, i went..i was kinda testing him too, to see how far i can go or how often i can go out like that before he tells me something..if he would say something, then i would stop for sure..but since he didnt mind, so ya i took advantage of it..I just wished he cared more and rather i didnt go out often like that..thats when we started growing apart..i ended going out all the time, come and go as i please and it felt like we were living as roomates..but thats the past..i was just wondering why men in general dont worry or get protective when they should, makes the woman feel cared about..and im not talking about the crazy possessive jealousy, just the normal jealousy..

Rina74's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:23 PM


Did you find the answer?


We're waiting.


Ya i see what everyone is saying..but i will never understand it..i always liked a guy who is atleast a little protective and shows he cares..cuz giving me all that freedom and everything, didnt make me feel cared about..thats just me..

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:26 PM

He let me go out with his buddy..he was fine with it..and since i love dancing, i went..i was kinda testing him too, to see how far i can go or how often i can go out like that before he tells me something..if he would say something, then i would stop for sure..but since he didnt mind, so ya i took advantage of it..I just wished he cared more and rather i didnt go out often like that..thats when we started growing apart..i ended going out all the time, come and go as i please and it felt like we were living as roomates..but thats the past..i was just wondering why men in general dont worry or get protective when they should, makes the woman feel cared about..and im not talking about the crazy possessive jealousy, just the normal jealousy..


Showing someone that you care isn't really jealousy, just means you care. Of course there's levels of this for every guy isn't the same.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:28 PM



Did you find the answer?


We're waiting.


Ya i see what everyone is saying..but i will never understand it..i always liked a guy who is atleast a little protective and shows he cares..cuz giving me all that freedom and everything, didnt make me feel cared about..thats just me..


I think having a life outside of the relationship is normal enough. There's nothing wrong with that. But if too much freedom is given up and I rarely see him for several months then something doesn't feel right. Discussing feelings is very important when you are exclusive with someone.

Rina74's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:31 PM
Showing someone that you care isn't really jealousy, just means you care. Of course there's levels of this for every guy isn't the same.


Ya there are different ways of showing things...how about u? would rather be with a guy who is protective and shows some jealousy or with someone who gives u so much freedom and trust and makes u wonder if he cares or not?

patriciamae14's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:35 PM


I think it will be better if you ask him, right?

Im not with that guy anymore..im not with anyone..i was just wondering about the no jealousy thing in guys..

But did you asked him about it? I wonder what he said....

And I agree with Mariah.. :thumbsup:

Rina74's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:39 PM



I think it will be better if you ask him, right?

Im not with that guy anymore..im not with anyone..i was just wondering about the no jealousy thing in guys..

But did you asked him about it? I wonder what he said....

And I agree with Mariah.. :thumbsup:


Ya i did ask him..all he said was he trusts me..and then when we started growing apart, towards the end, he even said he knows it was atleast partly his fault for allowing me soo much freedom and all..

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 08/08/14 12:39 PM

Ya there are different ways of showing things...how about u? would rather be with a guy who is protective and shows some jealousy or with someone who gives u so much freedom and trust and makes u wonder if he cares or not?


Protective, respecting and showing interest should filter any doubts. But I feel like people complicate it with variables and their own personal insecurities. Hence the test.

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