Ok, so you find someone. You either live together, marry or are in a committed relationship.
Are there going to be boundaries when it comes to both your internet use?
Or do you just blindly trust them to do the right thing?

What is healthy?

I have seen many arguments on Facebook about this, but I would like to know what the Mingle jury thinks?

Yes and no. I don't believe love, itself, is a choice. You either love someone or you don't. Whether you act on it or not, is where the choice part comes in.

It would be so much easier if love were a choice. Then two people could choose to fall in love regardless of whether they had chemistry or not. Just doesn't happen that way.

And yes, I believe it's possible to fall out of love with someone you don't think is a good fit, but it might take time depending on how well you accept that he/she isn't right for you. I've drove myself crazy in the past, but eventually I found peace with it and that person will always have a special spot in my heart, but I am no longer in love with him. It just sort of faded away, but took some inner work before that happened.