well i get called racist for not dating black men. but im not my best friend is black. i just dont feel attracted to them. its my personal preferrence. nothing against black guys or anything... i guess if you want to know why its because most of the black guys ive met and dont get me wrong im just being honest not trying to sterotype or be mean but most ive met are into the thug look. maybe its just alabama guys because enough white boys do it here too. but i want a guy who dresses respectfully white or black. also the slang some of it just seems so disrespectful. like id tap that. theres other things too. and im not saying just black guys do it but white guys do it too. and im not into stuff like that. A few things 1 you can have 30 black friends that does not make you an openminded individual or " not racist". In actuality you don't appear to be racist but reading your words one might place you in the ignorant or close minded catagory. Why?? You don't feel attracted to black guys is a pretty big thing since there are so many lack men in the world. No denzel? Tyson beckford? Some random flash of a man on the tv that made you think " he is hot" I guess maybe some people don't find that unusual. Next you REALLY contradict yourself when you say you don't like how they act or dress and then say you know that's not exclusive to black men. Do you know why that is? Its because that is called acting/ personifying a " thug" or a "G" So I'm still confused a bit Also the slang as disrespectful..... Hmm how many male friends do you have? Cause you don't have to use slang do disrespect a woman..... So you are not racist.. You just don't want to date anyone disrespectful , Someone who dresses respectfully, not a thug? And so that's why you dont date black men? I genuinely don't believe you are racist but you seem to have been somewhat caught up in stereotypes And not realize it. You should re-read your post and see how borderline ignorant it sounds. You are better off saying that nonestly you aren't attracted to blaxk guys for some reason that to. Basically say I don't listen to stereotypes but I don't like black men because of stereotypical behavior that I have imprinted on black men as a whole. But that's just my view. |
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I normally only date white men. It's who I'm attracted to, so why the hell should it matter? what if the man of your dreams isint white??? anyway the purpose of this post was to understand why.. so why do you only date white men. based on what you are saying you don't find any men other than white attractive??? |
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Nice to hear all the people saying it doesn't matter but when you have mixed blood you do have to deal with it your whole life and it gets old having the bigots of the world trash one one race or another. My Grand kids look like the united nations and you would be shocked how often that has caused greif for me, or them, or my kids. Hopefully in a few more generations it won't matter at all. Peace all of ya! Mixed blood?? some reason I don't like the way that sounds. sounds like we are talking about blade the vampire or something. and to clarify. sadly in your case the issue is more that they look mixed than they are mixed. in this society everyone needs to be in a category. if someone "looks" like a spicific race or can "pass" for one race then they are ok. this of course is totally wrong and none of this should be an issue. finally how does this cause grief for you other than how they are treated. Dont really get that |
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TelephoneMan.... Very well said.... Very well said indeed
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the fact that you are questioning your use of plastic as a vessel for your "liquid life"....tells me you have a concern...listen to your heart man Dude I just heard that plastic breaks off in to your beverage. Its not a big deal. I just thought someone might know the difference between sigg. And the others |
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glass would be the best ![]() yeah bot carrying a glass bottle everywhere is not the safest |
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Whats the big deal? why should i switch to metal? and which brand is the best
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Don't care who I date as long as they are between the age of "can drink" and "not dead". can drink and not dead infants drink.... 102 is still alive. dude that's a bit broad |
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Lets talk about why this is still a big deal to some ( probably more so than we realize because this is politically incorrect to feel such a way.
I consider myself an open minded individual> I feel that i make it known that i am what i like to call " equal opportunity" when it comes to dating. but one day at work i was in the office and they were talking about the type of woman i need in my life. I said " well heads are never setting me up with anyone" my boss replied " well i just don't know that many black women" " i stated " what does that have to do with anything". Lets talk about it |
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How far is too far???
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![]() I always believed there were no limits on love... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Ive read several times that there is no limit on love> that may be true but you can love someone in an impossible situation. Personally it really depends on my job hand house situation primarily my job. if i love my job im likely not going anywhere. if i am indifferent or i hate it and she wants t olive together then i would head out there. Ill be honest personally i want to see the woman i am with often. I want to be able to get out of work after having a bad day and feel her touch on my are, neck. I want to be able to say " ok lets go to Atlantic city or skiing. I guess that may be selfish but i am realizing more and more that distance is funny thing. you have to fit days/weeks/ months into a short span. things are prob great when you are together and not so great when you are apart. SO not too many people are saying how far they would go if they have a limit.... As of now i feel that the max for me is a 2 hour driving distance. and she better be my dream woman/the woman i will likely marry. |
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How far is too far???
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A friend of mine is moving to Hawaii for 6 months and is still in a relationship. she may stay after the 6 months and her man is not going out there with her. This just made me start thinking about long distance relationships and how far is too far.
I feel that in the forum world this might be great topic because its easy to start to get o know and hit it off wit someone who is just so not anywhere near where you live |
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I have ADD as well as OCD and I am bipolar. Dating somone with these disorders is not a big issue. My thing is no one wants to take the chance to get to know me for who I am. adhd and ocd ( depending on how severe the ocd is) is not a big deal when compared to someone psychotic. the truth of the matter is that you need to explain what it is you have in a way that will rectify what tv has portrayed these things. whats harder may be getting someone to take the time to listen to your explanation |
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Here is the explanation I like: How can you think you are ill if the very organ you use to think with is sick? (I say this in general terms re: MMI's) what do you think about this guy who " has it totally under control" apparently im a scumbag because i don't instantly believe he has a 100% handle on things> i assume you would be skeptical as well. Never called you a scumbag. And I never said 100%, if I had a 100% handle on it, it wouldn't even be an issue. You can't have a 100% handle on something that effects your mind, I simply refuse conventional medication because for schizophrenia the medication usually shuts down the thinking process of the brain (sedative) and I refuse to have my mind slower then it already is on account of some doctor that gets paid to tell me "this pill is the best one". I take the natural course by taking Ginkgo to clear my mind and allow me to think easier. I know you didnt call me a scumbag that was just me being me. is ginko all you take no calcium ascorbate, naicin, http 5, or the 30+ other vitamins and minerals that naturalists have found can help with your illness? did you stop eating meat, dairy, wheat, and sugar because naturalist studies have shown that there may be an allergen that causes episodes? you still haven't told me how often you go to therapy. your comment on 100% control is somewhat right but if you are telling me all you do is take ginkgo then unless you have a VERY mild diagnosis i doubt you even more. ogo get blood work done by a nutritionist and look into the " allergen" theory if you havent already.... also pelase tell em you are in therapy... |
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Here is the explanation I like: How can you think you are ill if the very organ you use to think with is sick? (I say this in general terms re: MMI's) what do you think about this guy who " has it totally under control" apparently im a scumbag because i don't instantly believe he has a 100% handle on things> i assume you would be skeptical as well. |
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Topic:
Anyone here watch anime?
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Xenogears is one of the best rpg's on ps1. It actually ties in to this forum because it is a strong anime feel to it.
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Depression, ADHD, ODD, OCD, Biporlar, Schitzophrenia, schitzoaffective, conduct disorder, personality disorder. a lot of men and women swear that their partner is crazy but have the time done even know just how right they are. Are you or have you been involved with someone you swore was mentally off? Have you been involved with someone you KNEW had a mental health issue? Ive know guys who have stayed with someone mentally ill because of the " physical" benifits" however in the end a lot of these don't go well because there is not a firm grasp of whats really going on. Im curious what you guys have to say. I have mild Schizophrenia, which I control with natural medicine and incense (aroma therapy or something another). I've seen people with horrible Schizophrenia who have absolutely no idea what it is and what it does to the mind usually because of poor prognosis and even worse prescription. I know a lot about Schizophrenia which is probably the main reason it is so under control...the day it is out of my control is the day I see a Psych. Look bro I don't know you personally or how severe yours is but the majority of individuals i have come across with schizophrenia have either 1 felt that nothing was wrong 2knew something was wrong but still refused meds because of the " side effects" or 3 believed they had it but in one way or another " had it under control" so excuse my skepticism...If you know your illness then you know its more than just seeing/hearing things Do you have it? Do you know anything about it? What are the symptoms I should look for? What kinds of medication should I take for it? I do have it under control, it does not affect my personal/public life nor does it affect my professional life. You can be skeptical but do not come out and tell me I am wrong or challenge my decisions based of your experience. Everyone deals with the condition differently, some neglect it while others accept it and then there are some that just don't care. I accepted it, learned about it, and am taking my own preventive measures so that it does not affect my life more then it already has. I would never say i am an expert because that's just far from true. Id hope i know a little about it otherwise Rutgers better come get their degree back from me. and the numerous years Ive spent working around various people that were schizophrenic and schitzoaffective probably gave me some insights. If in fact you can classify yourself as an expert you are only an expert on your on schizophrenia Finally i never said you were wrong i simply said i didn't believe you had it 100% under control. go back and read my post> i start by saying tat i don't know you personally or how severe yours is. what i should have asked is how many times a week do you go to therapy? as for medication. there are meds that are specific for your illness and some that overlap for yours and others each me works differently for each person so what would work for one may not work for another. Like i said i don't know you personally. I don't know if paranoia is in the mix. what i do know is that this illness messes with your head and "skews" things. If you know about your illness then you know that medication is often an issue. I cant knock the natural stuff because one of the places ive worked was an alternative residential treatment facility. they took like 40 vitamins in addition to medication. so in closing Im not saying you are lying i simply just don't believe you are 100% good to go primarily because of how it effects your mind. there could be little things you are doing or thinking that you don't recognize as a problem. so 50% 73% perhaps but unless i am personally able to see you in all aspects of your life there is no 100% belief> you claim to know your illness, then you would understand my skipticism |
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Depression, ADHD, ODD, OCD, Biporlar, Schitzophrenia, schitzoaffective, conduct disorder, personality disorder. a lot of men and women swear that their partner is crazy but have the time done even know just how right they are. Are you or have you been involved with someone you swore was mentally off? Have you been involved with someone you KNEW had a mental health issue? Ive know guys who have stayed with someone mentally ill because of the " physical" benifits" however in the end a lot of these don't go well because there is not a firm grasp of whats really going on. Im curious what you guys have to say. I have mild Schizophrenia, which I control with natural medicine and incense (aroma therapy or something another). I've seen people with horrible Schizophrenia who have absolutely no idea what it is and what it does to the mind usually because of poor prognosis and even worse prescription. I know a lot about Schizophrenia which is probably the main reason it is so under control...the day it is out of my control is the day I see a Psych. Look bro I don't know you personally or how severe yours is but the majority of individuals i have come across with schizophrenia have either 1 felt that nothing was wrong 2knew something was wrong but still refused meds because of the " side effects" or 3 believed they had it but in one way or another " had it under control" so excuse my skepticism...If you know your illness then you know its more than just seeing/hearing things |
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Anyone here watch anime?
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they really need to do a Ninja Scroll movie.....actually, no.....they'd just **** it up......haha......how about a videogame tho?....that would be cool!....it would be easy to do as well since the plot is very videogame-ish,with all the travel to location....beat up a boss figure and his minions....travel to next location....and so on If memory serves there was 2 ninja scroll movies. the series came after the movies. the first was excellent the second was random and incomplete.... search ninja scroll and ninja resurrection. |
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2 of my exs r bi-polar, 1 of them i was with for 9yrs, the other 2yrs. One has a jekyl Hyde type nature and has OCD, and 1 is a self harmer. Both of them swing between extreme highs, and extreme lows. Life was very difficult with both of them, but moreso the first, longest 1. He is the father of my kids, and i still find my dealings with him very difficult, and feel ive almost adapted myself to a certain way of acting, so not to get him anxious. He has been in therapy for yrs, and still struggles to find any inner peace. Mental health was not something i considered before i got into these relationships. absolutely do NOT look 35..28 seems more accurate.... ever wonder how you got into 2 separate relationships with bipolar men Battle on |
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Dating a drug user
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I'm with Bent. I don't mind someone who smokes weed, as long as it's not an hourly habit. most of the people that i know who smoke weed may not do it hourly but maybe 2-3 times a day. however they smoke A LOT each time |
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