So, you did not google it as advised above?

Ok. It is a "virus", a "malware" itself. A box of dynamite can have an appearance of a birthday cake, can't it?

You downloaded it by clicking on something that appeared to be "helpful".

"Do not trust, do not fear, do not beg."

These are usable not only in life, but in dealing with computers as well.

My sons father never sees him either. He blames it on my sons special needs. I asked him why he never sees his other two kids who have nothing wrong with them. Loser.

My children have a father who did not give up his parental rights. He lives about 6 miles from us and sees his 2 children on holidays. My kids are now 16 and 19 and my 19 year old son told me and my family at Christmas dinner that he doesn't have a father and hasn't for years.

It breaks my heart that my kids continue to be hurt by this man's actions. I make all kinds of excuses for him, because I don't want to make them feel like they have been abandoned by their dad. I knew the day would come when they were old enough to make their own decision about him. I just always held out hope that he would step up and take an active interest in them.

So my question to you all is: Should I continue to try to take the sting out of his actions and encourage them to see him when he wants to or should I allow them to refuse to see him?

I don't mean to highjack this thread, but since they are so similar, I don't want to start a new thread and have people get all pis*y about it.

I feel for you and understand have had a rough year myself. Starting with wrecking my car then the main gear shift cable breaking less then a month after having to put out the $500 deductible which cost me another couple hundred. Then my son lost his job and has had to move back in. But........even so I still feel myself lucky for I do have more them some I know. Even though my job is on the line and the company is threaten to close down due to lack of jobs.

Regardless we must live one day at a time and do the best we can and never give up.

Not sure if you have kids to support or if it is just you. There is help out there use it to get on your feet then when you are stable and no longer need it you can no longer use it. Church's in your area would be more then glad to help you find a place to live or see if you qualify for section 8 in housing. Put a add on Craigslist you would be surprised who might help you fix your car for a small price.

In the past told someone to contact the any Church to help them they did and in fact they were single the Church helped them pay their utility's and someone from the Church actually helped and fixed her car at no charge she just had to buy the parts and think the Church helped her with that even.

At the time she had no job and needed meds for being Bi-Polar I was able to help her find a clinic for her to get the meds she needed on a sliding scale basis on pay. And directed her to a nursing home that needed help. In fact she is still struggling each year but is doing 100% better then she was. This was a lady when the very first time I talked to her was planning on committing suicide I'm proud to say after 5 years later she still sends me e-mails to let me know life is good after all. Even though I have never meet this woman I found out information that I could over the internet for her to check out then it was up to her to follow through. I'm just glad that night I just happen to be online in the same place she was when she felt life had let her down and was able to get through to her in the process.

There is always a way if you never give up sometimes we don't want to ask for help but must in order to make it. It never hurts to ask and only take what you need.

I do hope maybe you will think about the suggestions I have made and you will see things will get better but we must not ever give up ourselves.

Just never give up life may not always be roses but........if you look around someone else is worse off then we are. It will get better just never give up.