I don't judge people that easily or quickly either online or face to face. First I take some time to become familiar enough to know whether we identify with life's basic issues and each other enough to where furthering a friendship is worth the effort it takes to create the space for each other in our lives.

As for you thinking that I assume the worst in or about anything is rather startling when you and I have never communicated enough to really get to know each other on or offline.

So in this generalization I think your comment is unfair.

As for people telling me what I want to hear I think this statement is equally as ridiculous because it has no genuine foundation to base your position on as I assume you aren't privy to all my many conversations either online or face to face. So how could you ascertain this without any certainty?

Not to mention the fact that I'm a senior citizen who has been around the world long enough to know my own mind and the games people play. It doesn't take rocket science to see through scammers, players, liars, or cheats, it only takes a little time and a few in depth conversations to determine the trajectory of their goals and game.

In choosing who I want to get close too I've always let people prove themselves to me first. Faults and all. None of us are perfect and in fact it is our flaws that can make us more interesting and endearing, so I don't push people away or ignore them just based on their shortcomings or limitations.

It has always been about how the other treats me personally. If they respect me and show me than I respect them equally. If they don't respect me than there's no need to even try to connect because the natural attraction or infatuation isn't there for me. And it doesn't take long for me to determine this factor at all.

Someone can claim undying love for me and never fail to make me feel this way in private. But if as soon as they get me in front of their family and/or friends they show me the slightest bit of disrespect because their circle might not think I measure up to their standards, then it's over. And I don't fight to save a relationship that isn't based on a genuine connection from deep inside.

If someone claims love and they don't show it in front of others, then to me they are simply posers. And I'm not. I either like you or I don't. And if I do I stand up for you with all I've got, even if it costs me personally. That's just how much I devote myself to those I care for. And if they don't have the same or similar feelings and abilities for me, it's a waste of my time and energy to endure a one-sided relationship.

We are all different. Some people will tolerate anything to feel or be wanted. Some us of have earned the ability to draw lines we don't want or have to cross.

It's really just that simple to me.