To make the statement, "I am honest" or "I'm an honest person" or "I never lie" or "I always tell the truth" is rediculous!

If you are honest and state those things...you tell the truth. But if you are NOT honest, you will state those things as well...you lie!

You have to remember that each person you meet on this site is placing an advertisement by way of a profile. You aren't really meeting "them", you're meeting their Public Relations Representative!

Unlike car dealers, loan companies, attorneys, etc., their advertisements (profiles) are not required to place small print, known as a disclaimer, at the bottom of the page.

Like the OP, I have never understood what people have to gain by lying about who they are, what they look like (posting outdated pictures or even pictures of someone else), what they do for a living, or how they feel about things. Once they meet someone, they can't possible keep up the front for any real period of time. The truth always surfaces.

Unfortunately, you just have to learn that, while reading profiles, take everything...the picture...the statements...etc. with a grain of salt. Don't assume you are seeing a true picture.

It's their version of the truth I suppose.

Dunno. Never will figure that one out!

You don't have to misrepresent to sell, in fact it's illegal to do so.



You are marketing yourself here, if you are here for a relationship. You're advertising that you are available and looking, and what you have to offer, and what you will accept.

Actually it kinda makes sense, you're supposed to sell yourself on here. A lot of people have a misunderstanding that selling = BSing.

I consider myself to be a salesmen, so of course I don't think selling and BSing go together.

I consider myself a salesmen, because I literally sell stuff online.

Wow. You hit the nail on the head with that one. That has got to be the quote of the year for me. 13 years into the second marriage with her after five years of rehabilitation to deal with the four years of marriage to her then to be told you can leave now. Talk about feeling disposable. Wow. You mean I have served my purpose and my restitution for getting you pregnant twice is paid. Thank God that is over. Does that me I don't have to hide from your mother and try to act nice to them when they cut me down every time they come over? Free at last. Free at last. I have been to the mountaintop and my slave days are over.

Work doesn't always define who you are. For some, it's just work. When the 8 hour work day is up, we forget about it until the next day. When someone asks me what I do, I'll tell them, but I have no desire to get into a big discussion about it, as it's just work.

I kinda disagree with making each other is all that matters. It depends on what you want out of life and the relationship though. If kids are involved, it's a different story as well.

Some people are perfectly happy in an unhealthy relationship. Some couples can be happy and have kids, yet not properly care for their kids. Sometimes there's more to it than just being happy.

It's important to me that I have a career and a job that will allow me to support myself, my wife, and our kids, how ever many we decide to have. I'm working on all of that. I already found the love of my life, and now I'm working on getting the other pieces to fall into place.

Every month I get a few interested people who say my profile rocks, I get some who ask me incredibly dumb questions, I get a nice share of hate mail for comical reasons. The rest is made up of those whom I am friends with and we banter back and forth.

Also that one guy who wants to know what kind of mice I like to eat. (You sir, are just plain odd)

I do get some nudges, but for the most part ignore them since frankly I find them somewhat rude unless I know you already. I get plenty of views. Some friend requests.

I have no expectations. I find that too limiting and confining.

spoken like a true woman; the "people can change" or I can change him stance. Sorry but I'm not going to risk it.

I mean would you hire a guy that has a theft problem? or someone who abuses kids to babysit your kids? I mean, people can change.

Sure people can change but you also damage a relationship. It's not the right of the person that knowingly hurts someone else to get another chance. Why do men cheat on some women over and over? Because the woman thinks he can change. will he? odds are no way.

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Be it credit, or jobs, or relationships.

If you cheat or lie, I'm not going to allow you to do that to me again. IT's called respect. And I'm not going to let someone take advantage of me again.

Sick of people that hurt others thinking it's their right to be trusted again so easily.