My reality is many women I've been with, could somehow find entertainment in trying to catch me in a lie... Must have been "entertainment" because the drilling was daily and about everything. As a youngster, My parents did that so my first reaction is to stay silent... some people work themselves into a tizzy if they don't get a response, or one that doesn't ease their concerns(this I've learned the hard way).... so now I sometimes work in a alien abduction story... don't judge me

I'm a private person so the VERY inquisitive types don't jive with my personality. Not that I have anything to hide, I don't, I just hate getting drilled.

Some, take others for fools and continue this way their whole lives Chronic liars suck!

No need for apologies Tammy. I didn't think you were making judgements...I guess I've just gotten into the habit of typing that just in case 'people' think I am making personalised comments.

For me (and I'm not making any judgements..), it's about accepting people warts and all as they have to do with me. As I said, I don't accept lying about things that I am morally opposed to but I can live with some lies.

For me, it does depend on the nature of the relationship..at a time when I wasn't lookiing for something more substantial from a relationship, I didn't tend to get too emotionally involved so unless it involved something I was morally opposed to, I wasn't really that fussed.

I believe that honesty is the sole foundation & most important (along with trust & respect) for ANY relationship.

So...no. Lying is never excusable with me.

I once dated a chronic liar. He lied because he found it easier to lie than telling the truth. I don't think he could help himself. I accepted it because I liked him and because in the grand scheme of things, they were relatively harmless lies and also because I knew that he wasn't going to be around for the long haul.

I wouldn't be so forgiving if he was lying to cover up cheating..

Lying can be used for good and not evil.
Everyone I know places on the scale somewhere.
Of what constitutes a good lie and a bad one.
I do not expect to control anyone else's behavior.

I try not to :-)

I will not lie or rather try not to lie even if it means being brutally honest. An example of it is a girl once asked me "Do I look fat in these jeans?" and I replied "It's not the jeans,but your big fat @ss." she hates me now.

I found that if I happen to read the book first, I get my own image & idea of how it's supposed to look on screen. This usually ends up jading the film.

If I watch the film first, then go back & read the book, it's usually a disappointment since someone ELSE'S image of how the book was supposed to look is stuck in my head.

So...either way I'm screwed.

UNLESS...the cast & crew actually follow the story & characters without altering anything. i.e. the King/Darabont collaborations, Snyder's Watchmen, Raimi's Spider Man, LOTR, etc...

Those were all pretty much how I had imagined them to be.

I think that's an enormously inaccurate and unfair blanket statement. People can be lonely for all kinds of reasons, and it doesn't necessarily reflect a higher level of selfishness or self-absorption.

As for the tendency to keep things to oneself, it may just happen that someone has no one to share these things with.

And maybe your contention that they only think of themselves is mitigated somewhat by the idea that many of them might, instead, be thinking about someone else, someone they wish they could share their life with....

Dang I missed it what he sing?

@Tammy - That's fine. I don't have a ton of patience, but if someone can attract my attention and keep it long enough before opening up, that works just as well. That requires effort and that is all I am really asking for.

I don't really understand that level of shyness online, though. If they're that shy online, how are they going to be able to meet people in person?