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Thu 03/27/08 07:37 AM
when your daughter comes to you and says why do you love me so much more than daddy does..I explained to her that daddy loves her just the same as I do and she says no he dosen't...

Let me explain: Her dad and I were together along time and then we had Kate Lynn, we both grew apart from each other and realized that it was best for Kate Lynn if we weren't together, she didn't need to her us argueing and he was great with Kate Lynn up until 2 weeks ago when he found out that this girl he cheated on me with had a baby too and she is 2 years old, so only a little over a year younger than Kate. He was supposed to have her Tuesday night because that is what he wanted well when my daughter came home yesterday, I asked her how her night went with daddy and she said she wasn't with daddy. I guess he had called his mom and asked her to pick Kate up from daycare and that he would pick her up around 6pm and take her to his house, well his mom told me, he never showed up until 8 am the next morning to bring her home to me. His mom said she tried calling his cell all night but he never answered. I don't get it...why did he do that?? Someone please help me understand!!

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Thu 03/27/08 06:55 AM

hmmm probably josh hartnett


Oh yeah, he is definately a cutie!!

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Thu 03/27/08 06:51 AM
past or present if you would have had a chance to date who would it have been??

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Thu 03/27/08 06:48 AM
Definately Jerry and I love The Steve Wilkos show too. They are both awesome!!:smile:

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Thu 03/27/08 06:41 AM
Dominique

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Thu 03/27/08 06:37 AM
That is awesome. Hope you have a great time.:smile:

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Thu 03/27/08 06:36 AM
Adam Sandler

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Thu 03/27/08 06:33 AM
sleepyyawn

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Thu 03/27/08 06:31 AM
drinker Woohoo thank god it's almost Friday

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Thu 03/27/08 06:27 AM
Damn! All I want to do is go back to bed!!:smile:

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Thu 03/27/08 06:25 AM
Good morning everyone!drinker

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Tue 03/25/08 07:17 AM
It would have to be Rascall Flatts at the Illinois State Fair 2006!!!

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Tue 03/25/08 07:10 AM





i cant imagine a 3 year old is upset about having a little sister... thats more about the mother being upset i think. not that you shouldnt be, but dont put that on her.
if he has visitation and you feel she is safe with him, why shouldnt she go?
dont make a big deal about it and dont sit around rationalizing with her, pack her up and send her off... they hardly ever cry for long.
tell him to buy her stuff while they are out so she stops... laugh laugh

I do force her to go with him and he calls like 3 hours later and says she is still crying and he can't deal with her anymore and that i need to come and get her. What do I do?? Do i just leave her there with him??


i personally think you should let him deal with her being upset... they both have to learn to deal with each other. i know thats the hardest thing, but unless she is being hurt or neglected- he is her father.

I guess I will just have to try that but its so hard when she cries on the phone to me and tells me to come get here. I love my daughter to death and I know he loves her too but sometimes he just dosen't act like he can deal with her and I don't want anything to happen to my daughter.


anything to happen to her?
if you mean being sad or upset, you will just have to deal with it. i know it breaks your heart, but its called life.
if you mean she could be in harms way by being with him thats a different story.
you should probably stop taking her calls, he needs to be a man and deal with the crying... or figure out a way to stop her from crying... just like you have to do when you are with her.

Yes it breaks my heart, hearing her cry but I am just going to have to take your advice and not answer the phone. She is supposed to spend the night at his house tonight and he is picking her up from daycare instead of from my house, i scheduled it like that because maybe she won't cry as much if I am not there when she goes with him. I guess we will have to see!!

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Tue 03/25/08 07:04 AM

Maybe if he takes her out of the house like the zoo or park, she won't be near a phone and will be distracted looking at the sights. Then she might forget to call you and forget that about crying.

Also, does he have an area that she can call her own - toys, bed. So it will feel more like she's at home and not visiting.

As far as I know she has her own bedroom at his house but now that he let this other girl move in with their daughter. I am not sure, she might have to share it with her sister.

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Tue 03/25/08 06:43 AM



i cant imagine a 3 year old is upset about having a little sister... thats more about the mother being upset i think. not that you shouldnt be, but dont put that on her.
if he has visitation and you feel she is safe with him, why shouldnt she go?
dont make a big deal about it and dont sit around rationalizing with her, pack her up and send her off... they hardly ever cry for long.
tell him to buy her stuff while they are out so she stops... laugh laugh

I do force her to go with him and he calls like 3 hours later and says she is still crying and he can't deal with her anymore and that i need to come and get her. What do I do?? Do i just leave her there with him??


i personally think you should let him deal with her being upset... they both have to learn to deal with each other. i know thats the hardest thing, but unless she is being hurt or neglected- he is her father.

I guess I will just have to try that but its so hard when she cries on the phone to me and tells me to come get here. I love my daughter to death and I know he loves her too but sometimes he just dosen't act like he can deal with her and I don't want anything to happen to my daughter.

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Tue 03/25/08 06:38 AM

double post....the computer doesn't like me today

I told her that her daddy loves her just the same now as he did before but sometimes it makes me so mad because like i said in my last quote, i do force her to go with him and then he calls 3 hours later and says he can't deal with her because she is crying. If I have to deal with her when she is crying, shouldn't he??

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Tue 03/25/08 06:36 AM

i cant imagine a 3 year old is upset about having a little sister... thats more about the mother being upset i think. not that you shouldnt be, but dont put that on her.
if he has visitation and you feel she is safe with him, why shouldnt she go?
dont make a big deal about it and dont sit around rationalizing with her, pack her up and send her off... they hardly ever cry for long.
tell him to buy her stuff while they are out so she stops... laugh laugh

I do force her to go with him and he calls like 3 hours later and says she is still crying and he can't deal with her anymore and that i need to come and get her. What do I do?? Do i just leave her there with him??

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Tue 03/25/08 06:32 AM

its probably not a lie, but just her imagination. 3 year olds dont normally get the difference between a 'lie' which is usually meant to hurt, and what they want to be true (but just isnt) just point out to her that she has a great imagination, but this is what really happened.

when my son was three he told the neighborhood that he had 2 sisters who lived in another country... (he was an only child at the time)everyone asked me about it, i was like-what??
laugh

I hope you are right!! It just scares me and needed some advice.

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Tue 03/25/08 06:31 AM


I wouldn't say unusual. kids say the darnedest things. all you can do is teach her the consequences of lying. I think it's more of fear of being in trouble. I have 1 son who is 17. he did that when he was young but I have always pushed on him that I can hand;e the truth more than a lie. with lying...you get in trouble for what you did AND for lying. with the truth...it's just for what happened. and sometimes it just might be a matter of live and let learn


I have tried to stress to her that lying gets you in more trouble than telling the truth but it dosen't seem to matter.

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Tue 03/25/08 06:29 AM
my ex is getting upset with me because my daughter is not wanting to go over to his house as much as she did before and alot of it is because he sat her down and talked to her about how she has a little sister who is only a year apart from her. She thought she was an only child for the longest time and so did I but obviously he was unfaithful to me while we were together. I don't stop her from going with him, he comes over and wants to pick her up and she cries and cries until he finally says forget it..I don't know what to do?? Do I force her to go with him or do I just put up with him being mad at me??