when your daughter comes to you and says why do you love me so much more than daddy does..I explained to her that daddy loves her just the same as I do and she says no he dosen't...

Let me explain: Her dad and I were together along time and then we had Kate Lynn, we both grew apart from each other and realized that it was best for Kate Lynn if we weren't together, she didn't need to her us argueing and he was great with Kate Lynn up until 2 weeks ago when he found out that this girl he cheated on me with had a baby too and she is 2 years old, so only a little over a year younger than Kate. He was supposed to have her Tuesday night because that is what he wanted well when my daughter came home yesterday, I asked her how her night went with daddy and she said she wasn't with daddy. I guess he had called his mom and asked her to pick Kate up from daycare and that he would pick her up around 6pm and take her to his house, well his mom told me, he never showed up until 8 am the next morning to bring her home to me. His mom said she tried calling his cell all night but he never answered. I don't get it...why did he do that?? Someone please help me understand!!

You cannot rationalize what is not rational. You will simply go crazy.
Just document it and move on.

Do not ever tell her that her daddy loves her the same, or loves her at all. You tell her you love her no matter what and let him speak for himself. If you put words in HIS mouth and he hurts her, she starts to distrust you, too. Just say you are sorry, you love her and you will always be there. Makes sense?

Yes it does but I just hate the fact that she thinks her daddy dosen't love her because I hope he does!!

i am not sure saying that you love her the same was a good idea

reason bn now she may doubt your love

maybe it would have been better to say i think he loves you alo but that is something you need to ask him


just a thought

good luck

he is a dog.he was out with a lady.i have the same problem with my x for years now.i have never lied to her .i never break a promise .and if she every wants to know annything she ask and i tell her and never lie.she is 6 and will be 7 next month.lot of pepole make babys but are not good parents.

It's a tough situation. And like lilith said... Don't speak for him. I thought about doing the same thing. But, in the end I tell my youngest son that I'm sorry he feels that way but that I love him and will be there for him no matter what.

Hmmm well I read your question the other day about your daughter not wanting to go with her dad. That she cried the whole time. My answer to that there was another problem there deeper that needed to be looked into. The more you post the more comes out no wonder the child don't want to go with him. He shucks his Responsibilities off on others instead.


Sounds like to me he needs to learn to be a Dad with his daughter and not expect everyone else to do his job for him.

Just my opinion, done been there done that and thank gawd my kids are grown now.

oh you are good i agree

See and she never told me that this has happened before but according to his mom, he has done this more than once and she is pissed off..She said she didn't raise him like that. I don't know what is wrong with him, he was such a good dad at first

I understand what your going thru I've had my granddaughter since she was 5. She is now going to be 14. Her parents have done the same to her and worse, I've always told her that I understand and that I know how hard it is for her and that I love her so very much and always will. I let them explain their own reasons it's not my job to do. We have a close and open line of communication because of this. Just love as much as you do and let the other one handle his own mess.

Maybe tell your daughter that her father loves her in his own way. That is not putting him down and it's reassuring her that he loves her but that he loves her in a different way from you.

Honestly it's not yours or his mothers place to figure it out. Just focus on your daughter. You'll drive yourself crazy and upset your little girl maybe without even intending to. It could be any reason he's doing what he is doing and I can tell you from my own experience that you'll not figure out his reasoning.

Usually court documents specifically indicate that companionship time must be spent with the designated parent. Check to see if yours does, and document what is going on.

Keep your documents in a safe place. It's helpful to print out monthly calendars and write the information in on the day it occurs, so it's already in time line fashion if and when you need it.

I will have to check into that..I will have to dig up the papers out of my cabinet and see what it says.