Hey Niceguynickj, good topic. I feel like we all have baggage in one way or another & how we deal with it can reflect on a new relationship. So, we have to relearn the way we think. Often times, we say things within ourselves that are demeaning & focus on negatives instead of the positives. It takes 5 positives to counteract 1 negative. Let me suggest that you continue self evaluating yourself, find your strengths & build on those, deal with your past issues & if you have to, grieve them, face them then let them go. If it is past relationships, place a chair in front of you and pretend that person is sitting in that chair. Tell that chair/person how they hurt you, and what should have been done then forgive them and let it go. you'll be amazed how much this helps.
Oh, Britty,scttrbrain, LexFontyen, all have good insight on your subject..dwell on these, my friend.
T mie

I pulled into the crowded parking lot at the
Super
Wal-Mart Shopping Center and rolled
Down the car windows to make sure my
Labrador Retriever Pup had fresh air.
She was fully stretched out on the back seat
And I wanted to impress upon her that she must
Remain there! I walked to the curb backward,
Pointing my finger at the car and saying emphatically,
'Now you stay. Do you hear me?'
'Stay! Stay!'
The driver of a nearby car, a pretty blonde young lady,
Gave me a strange look and said,

'Why don't you just put it in park ?'

Hi doesn't play well,
I wish you didn't have to go through that kind of hurt. These sites are tops for rejection, we've all been rejected by some form or another. Know this about people, hurting people hurt people. I'm sure he has been hurt before & now subconsciously hurt others. I would suggest you grieve the issue then let it go and by no means, leave this site or any others. Keep a loving heart & grow some tuff skin. Good luck & GOD bless.
T mie

LORD thank YOU for Zero_effect's post. It's the best yet and I thank you for my adversaries. In YOUR name.
T mie

Great job goldwinger...keep up the good work.
T mie

GREAT POST....ALLELUIA...Thanks UK.
T mie

That was a very civil response, anoasis and I thank you so much for it.
T mie

Seven marathons over seven continents in 26 days, 17 hours, 43 mins and 52 secs.

A normal human with legs cannot do it but this Doctor is amazing. Paralysed from the waist down since the age of 2 years.

He can give away his medals to a young girl with leukemia after completing the marathorn.

How many of us can run 1 marathorn with our 2 legs??? If we get a medal, will we give away to someone???

Can you imagine his life since 2 years old, paralysed from the waist which means he could not walk. What are his feelings when he see his friends playing in school and doing so many other things. What kind of childhood does he have? What kind of sports can he play?

Today, at his condition and 50 years old, he is trying to raise $1.5 million for child cancer research.

Truly his has a very big heart and strong determination. May GOD bless his soul.

There are some of us who give up without even trying or face 1 failure and stop everything. Some may complain about situation or people.

We need to look at ourselves deeply.

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S'pore's paraplegic marathoner breaks world record
SIX years ago while he was studying at Harvard University, paraplegic marathoner Dr William Tan met Jessica Doktor, a young girl with leukemia.
She would wait for him at the finishing line whenever he took part in the Boston Marathon each year. He even gave her his medals.
Jessica was his source of inspiration.
She succumbed to the disease last year at the age of nine. Dr Tan has since transferred his grief to a determination to do more for paediatric oncology research.
The 50-year-old medical doctor and researcher, who was paralysed from the waist down at the age of two due to polio, has been participating in gruelling marathons to raise funds for more than two decades.
As part of his five-year plan to raise $1.5 million for child cancer research at the National University of Singapore (NUS), he started his latest 400km seven-continent feat on Nov 22 last year.
His last attempt at a seven-continent marathon stint in Feb 2007 had ended in failure due to a snow blizzard during the Antarctica leg.
This time round, he still had to contend with sub-zero killer temperatures and strong katabatic winds in the final leg in Antarctica.
As his racing chair had to have spikes on the tires, his sodden gloves were left tattered and his hands blistered.
He also carried with him a fractured rib from crashing into a donkey at another marathon in Cairo on Nov 16.
On Dec 19, Dr Tan finally broke the world record by completing the seven marathons over seven continents in 26 days, 17 hours, 43 mins and 52 secs. The previous record holder took 30 days.
When he arrived at Patriot Hills Antarctica, the NUS alumnus planted the NUS flag to demonstrate the global nature of the university.
Dr Tan is raising funds for more professorships in paediatric oncology. By inviting talents from around the world, he hopes Singapore can be the medical hub in Asia.
Mr Chew Kheng Chuan, Vice President of Endowment and Institutional Development, NUS, has this to say: 'In his determination to achieve his goals, William shows us what is possible, despite the greatest obstacles."
Dr Tan is now coordinating the Lion City Marathon in June for both able-bodied and disadvantaged athletes.

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you let a
bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your
day? Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back
on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly
he/she can get back her focus on what's important.

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New
York City taxi cab. Here's what happened.

I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were
driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of
a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks,
skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident,
whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was
friendly. So, I said, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined
your car and sent us to the hospital!'

And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, 'The Law of the
Garbage Truck.'

Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full
of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage
piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump
it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally.

You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did.

So this was it: The 'Law of the Garbage Truck.' I started thinking, how
often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take
their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at
home, on the streets? It was that day I said, 'I'm not going to do it
anymore.' I began to see garbage trucks. I see the load they're carrying. I
see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I
don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I
move on.
Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting. Good
parents know that they have to welcome their children home from school with
hugs and kisses. Teachers and parents know that they have to be fully
present, and at their best for the people they care about.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take
over their day. What about you? What would happen in your life, starting
today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by?

Here's my bet. You'll be happier.

So.. Love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't.
Believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance , TAKE
IT! If it changes your life , LET IT!

WOW, thank you, LadyValkyrie for that lenghty response. That had to take alot of time & effort & I so do appreciate it. I never heard of a Christian Pagan Witch...I guess I need to get out from the computer more.lol But your information seems to sum up we should have balance in our lives instead of full blown one way. And like you said you can lead a horse to water but can't force him to drink it.
Thanks again, LadyValkyrie, you've been most helpful.
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Thank you Enya. It's good of you to give me your input. Yes, meaning would be nice but Kat gave me pretty much of what I was looking for. Did you read hers?

Thank you Kat for all of that information. That took a lot of time & I really appreciate it. No, I don't want to convert you; I don't think I could if I wanted to. I was just looking for input on the subject. You're kind & caring and thw world needs people like you in it. Thanks again.

I've noticed many witches & wiccans on these forums and to be truthful, I'm completely ignorant of the practices, philosophy,& doctrine of witchcraft. Could someone inform me on these matters. And 'No' Voil, I'm not looking to preach for the gospel, although someone feel it's correct to preach against. I'm looking for information. And abra, jump on, baby.
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I can't understand how someone who is not a Christian can be such an authority on Christianity. No, abra, the 'new covenant' doesn't fly in the face of JESUS. If you would read the bible instead of relying on your heresays you would know HE is the 'new covenant'.
Secondly, How can you claim GOD keeps changing what HE wants from us if you don't have a relationship with HIM. Again, no justification for you comments.
Thridly, Chritianity is unique in the form of healing spiritually & emotionally & physically. again, you not being involved in any form of belief system except selfcenteredness would not know nor understand this.
I would suggest that you come to terms with your past. I feel there is something there that broods this bitterness toward GOD that you have. GOD bless.
Is that preaching voil?

Here we go again, Abra. The lady has a specific she wants met. But since the word "Christina" pops up, you mount your soapbox. What is it with you? WEre you hurt by a Christian before?
This lady has every right to have her own format. It's like choosing a certain age. I'm sure you have certain qualifications for who you prefer. Are or you just on here for this forum?
I really don't think you have the qualifications to pick someone else's mate or partner whether he be Christian or not. Do you have one?

Sorry KerryO but Either I'm wrong or you're wrong, if that's your point of view. I don't think it's as black & white as you make it sound and I was attempting to learn more not debate. Thanks for your response.

Sorry you think the way you think, Abra but I feel the poster is going quite well. I anticipated opposing views. It would be ridiculous not to. Thanks for your input; it was quite challenging. You're good.

Thanks Britty, you gave me really potential insight here.

Thank you for your respect, Voileazur. and let me clarify my intentions. I was looking to see where non believers go when time of crisis hits. I wasn't looking to preach but I will defend my beliefs as you would also. I am in no way capable of debates nor am I looking for one. I just want other view points. Yes, I may have strayed in optimizing my views and please forgive me for so doing. Thanks for your reply.
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No, abra, I'm not suggesting that fear drives you to live & interact with others. I'm saying it's a human conidition just like fear. Get the point now? Yes it would be absurd to think that. Like eating; we eat to live not feel good or cause we're hungry...that one is for you creativesoul and thanks for you input.
abra, it would be benefical to all if we took what I said and not turn it into a play on words. I don't think my explanation is that far off the mark for you to assume the only reason to live is because we fear death. Give me a break.

totally redundant argument for the existence of a creator. On the contrary this kind of argument only begs the question of where did God come from! All you’re really saying here is that by your logic God must have a mother, and so on.

Redundant only to one who can't view script the way it is written. No, GOD did not have a mother. I said it plainly & I'll say it again, GOD was the begining, the source of all.

To me, walking out in front of a Mack Truck represent the potential for pain, and lots of it, plus the possibility of ending up as grossly disfigured living paraplegic instead of dying.

I can see how you might view that becaue you think you're indestructable. Remember you're an island & fear nothing, not even death. You man you.

You seem to be taking the position that if you don’t fear something then you must highly desire it.

You take the position entirely wrong. sorry.

This is an extremely weak argument. Also, this would imply that animals also fear death. I don’t think that having an instinct to cling to life is the same thing as fearing death. By your assessment then animals have the same awareness of death as humans do. Because they exhibit the same instintual behaviors as humans do. They eat, interact with each other, and do what they can to survive and avoid demise. That doesn’t automatically equate to fearing death.

well that's where you are wrong. In near death instances, the body compensates itself to survive. IT doesn't always work but it can be powerful. Animals don't interact as humans. Humans have a spirit or at least some do. Your argument is weaker in it's self. You're only basing it on your opinion & now you've heard mine.

All you are saying here that people aren’t any differnet from animals and that animals aren’t any different from people?

Nope. wrong again. You're saying that. I said animals have no spirit.

Actually I would agree with that, but I'm just asking.

But when I factor in the spirit concept, you will disagree because you think you have the power over death & fear. ha!
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Wrong! If God didn’t do what I asked when I asked then he didn’t answer my prayer. If he did something else in a different time then he did something else at a different time. That’s not what I had prayed for and thus he didn’t answer my prayer.

You religious people always want to have your cake and eat it too! Either God answers your prayers or he does something differnet. Period.

Who are you that GOD should beckon your every call. Do you have control of the universe? I don't really think you really know if GOD answered your prayer. Sorry if you didn't get your way anyway, that's life bud. abra, I'm sorry if you can't understand why & what GOD does. I don't either most of the time but HE is GOD & my ways or not like HIS ways.

How about naming some of your so-called cases where people have prayed for rain & didn't recieve it? I'm giving you one that did & he recieved.

I’m coming back to what you originally said just to completely blow you out of the water and show precisely how truly absurd your rationale is here!

If you are claiming that a fear of death is the only motivation to take care of yourself, work (be productive) and make human connections, then,…

What will be your motivation to exist in an eternal heaven where there is no death????

What will motivate you to be productive there and to make spiritual connections????

If your claim is that death is the motivation for life, than what is the motivation to live in an eternal afterlife? Surely death can’t be the motivation there!

Do you see how absurd your claims are? Especially coming from someone who supposedly believes in an eternal afterlife!

If you claim that a fear of death is the only motivation for life, then what will be your motivation to live in an eternal afterlife where you no longer have a fear of death?

All you are saying here is that there will be no motivation for an eternal afterlife.

In fact, all you are really claiming here is that death is the only thing that gives life meaning!!!!

This is what you are saying from a purely phiolosophical point of view

I don't think you blew me out of the water by rearranging what I said. I did not say 'the only motivation to living is the fear of death'. You, being self righteous, has said that. I was saying the fear of death is a human reaction. that's all, plain & simple. ABRA, I'm sorry you misunderstood every word I said. I was just looking to see where you turn in a time of crisis. But I see, a selfcentered person has no need for a GOD. You are the GOD who can fear no death. But I say & quote Luke 12:5 "Fear HIM who, has power to cast into hell..."