Please. Before I start answering questions, I want to ask everyone to refrain from chiming in with your own answers to the questions. I anticipated that that this would happen. You are welcome to start your own advice thread. Thank you.

I had people asking me for relationship advice lately. I thought it might be fun to have a thread about it. Ask me anything about relationships. I will do my expert best to help you with my sage, powerful, deep words of wisdom.

Me neither.

This topic is still going. I stand by what I wrote back in July.

Sat 07/18/15 05:25 PM
Every man I loved, I knew when I first saw him that he was special. I rarely like anyone so the chosen few were love at first sight and I believe in it. My heart always knows who the special ones are right away. A lot of people are not as deeply attuned to their emotions so they do not recognize love at first sight.

I have dated good looking men. I had a BF who was younger than me. Very good looking but he didn't stimulate me mentally and intellectually. One day, I met him at the train station. He just smiled this wide gorgeous smile at me. He was so excited to see me. My heart sank. That's when I knew that I had to break it off. He loved me so much and I didn't feel the same way. His deep feelings for me actually made me cringe. I cared for him but the deep love was not there. It would have been unfair to continue stringing him along.

I also dated men who were highly intelligent but I found them unattractive physically. I was turned on by his intellect but physically, he just made me feel nothing, no excitement.

Conclusion: I need both physical and mental/intellectual stimulation and attraction to be excited over a man. I have never really experienced both in the same man or I might have been married by now. Something is always missing.

^^^ Very true.

That post was addressing Ciretom.

^^^ I don't understand why people have a need to compare and weigh tragedies like one is worse than another, therefore, the one with fewer lives lost just shouldn't matter. The same way that since someone in a poor country has it worse than me, that is supposed to make me more thankful. No, it doesn't ease my suffering and minimize my pain because someone has it rougher. All it does is insult me by trivializing my pain, like my feelings shouldn't matter because I don't have it tough enough. The same way your post above is trivializing a news story because you don't feel there were enough lives lost in comparison to other lives.

Your post is insulting.

Even when you joke about killing people, you're hilarious and adorable.

I'm a fool for love. I only marry for love. Otherwise, I would have been long married and many times over by now.

I hear polygamy may become legal. In that case, I would take both of you at once. Yummmmm

There is so much to be said for meeting men when they are still young and hopeful and fresh and think that they have their whole life ahead of them. Most men my age have been through the trials and tribulations and the pain and heartache of divorce. Most of these men are emotionally scarred and emotionally unavailable or just plain bitter. I would prefer to meet men who are still hopeful and alive and open to love but I would end up with men half my age which I do not want or find stimulating on a mental and intellectual level. Unless I find a unicorn -- an attractive, successful, emotionally healthy man who is my age and still hasn't been married -- it is going to be harder and harder to find my true love the older I get. This is why it's important to get them when one is young. The pickings become slim the older we get.

The thing to take away from all this is to count our blessings. Many of you at least got your spouses when you were still young and fresh. Many of you got beautiful children and even grandchildren out of it, even if the relationship didn't last. You had some good years together. For a single middle aged woman who has never been married and still doesn't even have children, when most people around me are already on their grandchildren, I feel like I have missed out on so much. It is really making my heart ache that I don't have a man to love. It is depressing to me that I don't have children. I suppose the grass is always greener on the other side.

All I hear is crickets...

Yeah, he's wanted by the police for breaking hearts.

I am still waiting for my profile testimonial, Daddy.

Bring me a beautiful photo next time, like I do for your topics.

I'm surprised you didn't create a topic about it.

Baby, come on. Really?

He has no assets. If she does, he wants it all! Get it? Get it?

All cleaned out, huh?

Ame, it's like eating Chinese food. He is hungry an hour later. Get it?